FabSwingers.com forum: VA or Jaydees for a newbie?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all, I’m very interested in trying a club as I’ve never been to one before. Any suggestions for a novice, and which club would be best for a first timer? Xx

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

It depends whether you like to have an option of a private lockable rooms or not.

VA hasn't got any, it's mostly open play areas and couples only room. But they do nights when they only allow couples and single ladies in, no single men.

Jaydees offers private lockable rooms as well as open play areas and couples only room. They allow single men in both evenings, but men have to book in advance.

Both clubs have hot tubs to die for, but you can have sex in VA's hot tub but not Jaydees one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you so much for the reply, very helpful

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By *enithWoman
over a year ago

closer than you think

Never been to VA but spent many a good night at Jaydees

Plenty of lockable rooms at Jaydees, bring your own alcohol which is safe behind a manned bar which saves on any extra cost at end of evening.

Single women are welcomed and well looked after

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By *andB130Couple
over a year ago

northampton

Both clubs very good, Jaydees has private lockable rooms.

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By *he Black ExperienceMan
over a year ago

banbury

Had my first visit to VA recently was surprised about no lockable rooms but still had a lovely time. The team are friendly and very helpful. I think my next trip will be to jaydees. Just for research purposes you understand;)

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

Jaydee’s hands down.

VA is very clicky.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

"Jaydee’s hands down.

VA is very clicky."

Interesting, we'd put VA as our favorite experience. So evidently need to try Jaydee's!!!

But OP, we'd suggest maybe joining folk who you are interested in and attending either. A built in security blanket so to speak. Enjoy! You will

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

"Jaydee’s hands down.

VA is very clicky.

Interesting, we'd put VA as our favorite experience. So evidently need to try Jaydee's!!!

But OP, we'd suggest maybe joining folk who you are interested in and attending either. A built in security blanket so to speak. Enjoy! You will

In terms of venue VA is better, but we like the people and atmosphere at Jaydee’s.

Found it very difficult to get in a sexy mood with the music so loud it was being in the middle of a night club. Plus people tended to stay in their own groups we found.

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Hated VA. Very cliquey and if you want to play you have to do it in full view of everyone else.

Jaydees is a great place, friendly crowd and the option of private play. I think it's disgusting that VA allow sex in the hot tub to be honest, who wants to sit in a bath filled with other people's cum, the water was literally milky white the last time I went, bleuurgh!

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I must admit, I do love jaydees.. especially on one of their theme nights.. amazing atmosphere and plus, the dancefloor is amazing.. dance your heart away and no one will batter an eyelid.. its incredible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the comments here regarding both clubs. VA is very cliquey and Jaydees very friendly vibe.

Our preference though is Kestrels/Abfabs. We feel very comfortable there.

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By *nderstated4funCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Jaydees 100%

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By *nne an andyCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Jaydee’s

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By *ex LutherMan
over a year ago

Closer than you think

I have not been to the VA in a while but gkr a newbie I’d suggest Jaydees - it’s BYOB really friendly and as others said you get some privacy if that’s what you like

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By *lltheboostCouple
over a year ago

Shefford

"Hated VA. Very cliquey and if you want to play you have to do it in full view of everyone else.

100%

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your comments. Sounds like Jaydees is the way to go, I’d hate it if I went somewhere and it was cliquey like people have said xx

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By *aLinCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Thank you all for your comments. Sounds like Jaydees is the way to go, I’d hate it if I went somewhere and it was cliquey like people have said xx"

No question- it's Jaydees. We've been in many clubs and Jaydees isabsolutely best in regards to staff, atmosphere and friendliness.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Appears we may have overlooked Jaydees.. Ironically close to VA too!

Our experiences were from another couples invite and Chic so guess we may not have experienced VA from a 'normal' night..

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

Check out whatwomenwant profile.

They hold monthly Friday daytime events at VA

I went to my first club alone and I can't praise them enough. They shown around and they check on you to make sure you're ok. All the other guest are a fantastic mix.

Totally recommend you try and get on guestlist

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By *ntrigued888Woman
over a year ago

Beds

*they show you around

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By *igG86Man
over a year ago

Buckden

I have been to both clubs now and I would say Jaydees was so friendly and welcoming. Also with Jaydees being BYOB it is better for controlling alcohol consumption and cost. Only negative I would say about Jaydees, the upstairs isn't designed for taller people like me. But that's not a big issue as I had a blast anyway

VA I didn't find cliquey but I have been going a while so have made some great friends already there are certain nights where I can't go and from what I've been told they can get like this.

The staff at both venues are lovely and friendly, also the set up is gwell laid out

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By *hirdTimesACharmCouple
over a year ago

northamptonshire

Been to both clubs, had a great night at both. We personally love VA, it’s home from home for us- go there every month… we found jaydees lovely too but very spit and sawdust- all depends what you are looking for. Xx

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By *ockerCheffMan
over a year ago

Kettering

This is really good to know, my partner and I will be going to our first club soon and this has answered the question which of the two would be best for us..

Thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love the VA. Prefer open play areas as well. Makes it easier to invite others to join you.

We have seen groups who know each other meeting there, yet when we introduce ourselves they’ve always been friendly and chatty.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

Jaydees any day.

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By *xploring2getherCouple
over a year ago

Desborough

Jaydees

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By *he LsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

We've been to both clubs and had great evenings at both, pick the event that you thinks suits you and give it a go.

Personally we tend to go to VA over Jaydees, we just prefer the club, vibe and events they hold. But both are great clubs but totally different to each other.

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By *inden84Couple
over a year ago

cambridgeshire

Our first visit to a club was VA which was ok we have visited it twice since and while it’s more of a club it’s difficult to talk to anyone due to that fact. All areas are very open so can be off putting when stepping into it to start off.

We do go to Jaydees regular because we enjoy the social side as well as the swinging. Lockable play rooms and areas you can chat to strike up a convo to others before playing is great.

Found VA was more about getting our money out of us at the bar as oposswd to jaydees staff ensuring you’re having a good time and making sure you’re speaking with others and the like.

But as you can see everyone’s different so I’d suggest trying both at least once

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By *itty_gizmoCouple
over a year ago

Mordor

VA and jaydees are both very good clubs having spent a long time at both thay each have pros and cons as every club/bissniss do, it's more down to personal preferences, Va is a very clubby club and you can have a very good dance and a play if you fancy it, very good for ppl that like being watched but not so good for getting to know ppl and chatting all night but lovely place.

Jaydees still had the clubby feel but more chance of getting to know ppl, you can still be watched if you play upstairs and there is one roo. With a window but thay do also have lockable private rooms, upstairs has a dungeon feel to it and it is BYOB witch means you will allways have what you want to drink and it's cheaper to do so.

We meet loads of friends at va but allot of them allso go to jaydees.

Fir us right now jaydees is the one we like to go to

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By *eadySwingerOneMan
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

I have attended a couple of clubs. Me personally, Jaydess hands down all the time. You won't find a friendlier place where you'll feel welcome, looked after by staff and regulars and a great place to get to know people as people. Plus the huge hot tub is so nice to relax in. I'd always choose Jaydees everytime, however I know that everyone has their preferences. Jaydees is mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We go to both clubs fairly regularly and like both of them for different reasons, we'd suggest trying both of them at least twice for different events to get a real feel for them and what you like.

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By *urvyD-and-J2Couple
over a year ago

Leighton Buzzard

We are trying va for the first time friday so will report back

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By *kcouple92Couple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Our very first time attending clubs we chose Jaydees even though VA and Penthouse are closer to us. We’re glad we did as everyone is very friendly there and it made us feel relaxed.

We can’t make a proper judgement on VA as we’ve never been but like some of the other posts here have said we have been told it can be very cliquey and it put us off. Plus also we’re not good at being very sociable and we can be very nervous and quiet in the corner unless we’re approached.

We’ve had better luck with fun at penthouse and the overall age demographic does seem to be younger there however like we mentioned personally we could go to all 3 and nothing happen as we’re not good at approaching people

Hope that helps!

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By *etsplay85Woman
over a year ago

South City

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By *etsplay85Woman
over a year ago

South City

If you want the best of both worlds Penthouse Playhouse has locked doors and open play areas and hot tub you can't play in. Have been to VA also. Enjoyed both places

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By *tar fishWoman
over a year ago

Blackpool

My first was club play in Blackpool and I have stopped going love it there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone

. Had a look at both online and like the look of Jaydees to start with as it seems more social as well. Just need to find someone to attend with me and I’ll be there

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Thanks everyone

. Had a look at both online and like the look of Jaydees to start with as it seems more social as well. Just need to find someone to attend with me and I’ll be there

Do you mean someone to go there with you, or someone to meet there? As myself and my partner, we have a good record of looking after single ladies at Jaydees, introducing them gently to the club

. We are planning to be there on the 16th of September (Saturday) during the day, and most likely on the 6th of October (Friday), to celebrate my partner's birthday (even though he is not bi, just enjoys the relaxed atmosphere of those nights).

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Thank you all for your comments. Sounds like Jaydees is the way to go, I’d hate it if I went somewhere and it was cliquey like people have said xx"

Tell the staff that you are new and they'll introduce you to the regulars, so you won't feel like that awkward kid, that joined the class halfway through the school year.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Thanks everyone

. Had a look at both online and like the look of Jaydees to start with as it seems more social as well. Just need to find someone to attend with me and I’ll be there

Do you mean someone to go there with you, or someone to meet there? As myself and my partner, we have a good record of looking after single ladies at Jaydees, introducing them gently to the club

She's not wrong.

And my partner too!

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By *ssex couple300Couple
over a year ago

Harlow

Jaydees is the place to go for first timers and then try other clubs. Its a big step going in a club for the first time. It was in our opinion anyway.

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By *orsforthprCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

Both! Flip a coin to see which one first!

Each club designed and run by owners as they view swinging.

Main differences are closed and open rooms and play or not in hot tub, different filtration systems.

Either way, be you, have limits agreed before you go and smile and chat to anyone as they may have friends you like too! Lol

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

We’ve done va once and jaydees dozens of times!! Love the party relaxed atmosphere at jaydees everyone’s freindly and super cool place!

Jaydees and eureka in Kent our two go to places but always good to try new ones too, so back to question I’d say jaydees for first time but try va as well

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By *ara DosCouple
over a year ago

Here, There, Everywhere

Both clubs are great in their own way

We tried Jaydees first and was made incredibly welcome, danced loads, laughed a lot and we made friends there.

It was just, once we tried the VA, we were sold. We love the atmosphere, the events, the people VA attracts and for us it has a real club feel and the open play areas create a sexy vibe . The staff are very proactive and this makes us feel very safe

We would by no means be derogatory to Jaydees, because as I say we had great nights there, it’s just not our No. 1 choice

But, try both and then you will make your own judgement. As a previous poster has already said. Look at both club’s websites and the events that might appeal to you

Hope you have a good time whatever club you chose xx

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We’ve only been to Jaydees and LOVE it! We were so nervous about going the first time, we went with some friends we met on here. Was made to feel so welcomed from the first visit! We love the atmosphere, the club, the staff and the people!!

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By *ady CurvaceousWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"We’ve done va once and jaydees dozens of times!! Love the party relaxed atmosphere at jaydees everyone’s freindly and super cool place!

Jaydees and eureka in Kent our two go to places but always good to try new ones too, so back to question I’d say jaydees for first time but try va as well "

Pleasures in Kent has much better evening events than Eurekas. Try it

I love Eurekas during the day though, best sunbathing by far

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By *un and stimulationMan
over a year ago

St albans

I’ve been to Jaydees a few times as both a single and as part of a couple. It’s the very definition of cliquey IMO.

VA has a much better vibe.

Horses for courses but I’d rather pay to visit VA than go to Jaydees for free.

I hope you enjoy your evening wherever you choose.

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By *orreslMan
over a year ago

Clearwater

How do I find legit people to hook up with

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

"We’ve done va once and jaydees dozens of times!! Love the party relaxed atmosphere at jaydees everyone’s freindly and super cool place!

Jaydees and eureka in Kent our two go to places but always good to try new ones too, so back to question I’d say jaydees for first time but try va as well

Pleasures in Kent has much better evening events than Eurekas. Try it

I love Eurekas during the day though, best sunbathing by far "

We did pleasures once wasnt over keen prefer eureka but may give it another try

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By *oupleJCCouple
over a year ago

The Big Smoke, London.

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

"Jaydee’s hands down.

VA is very clicky."

We find this too with VA!

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

"Jaydee’s hands down.

VA is very clicky.

We find this too with VA! "

Guess all clubs with regulars can be if you don’t put yourselfs out to mingle with the groups, unfortunately the wife and I are quite shy so end up just drinking with each other most of the time which is a shame

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By *entCavalierMan
over a year ago

Chatham

Sounds a lot like us. Been to VA a few times ended mostly playing on our own. But that may just be because we haven’t been brave enough ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some very interesting views on here. As stated before, each club is good in its own right. VA has a far better finish but does miss the option of a private space that Jaydees offers. However the outdoor space and on-site accommodation more than makes up for this.

To be fair the club we’ve found that has the quality of VA with the option of both open play and lockable rooms is liberty elite. The only downside is the hot tub when compared to both Jaydees and VA.

We would liken Jaydees to more like a large house party and VA more like a nightclub.

In terms of clique, we’ve actually found Jaydees to be a little more like that but we’re always happy to make our own fun so that doesn’t really effect us.

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By *hirdTimesACharmCouple
over a year ago

northamptonshire

Newbie night @ VA on Saturday! Anyone coming?

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By *wfunCouple
over a year ago

Margate

Is there a format to this event? I see you are hosting it so wondered what the plans are

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By *lackxroseCouple
over a year ago

Toddington/Chalton

We have attended Jaydees many many times.. it’s so friendly and a great venue . The staff are brilliant and friendly. The venue itself has many many rooms inc a big couples only area. Private rooms huge hot tub (no play in there ) along with a big open area upstairs with lounge areas and a big four poster bed.

Never been to VA we have thought about it but the clickyness puts us off

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By *onnie and Clyde...Couple
over a year ago

Essex

"Hey all, I’m very interested in trying a club as I’ve never been to one before. Any suggestions for a novice, and which club would be best for a first timer? Xx"

Abfabs is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Va is open play so unless you’re comfortable playing openly I’d suggest jaydees as it has private rooms! All depends what you’re comfortable with!

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