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By *immo1867 OP   Man
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I realise this may have been asked b4, is it worth going to a club on my own or will I just be ignored as heard some horror stories of creeps, which I'm not I would sit chatting to folks and not be a perv but worried it's a waste of time

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway

I’d you’re going to make an effort to chat with people and be friendly then I’m sure you’d be a welcome addition to a club.

As for a waste of time?

At the least you should come away with a couple of verifications and get to make some contacts.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

It's a good night out. What's the alternative, sitting in by yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go on my own and with play mates.

Never go with expectations, mostly you never know who is attending, so just turn up and go with the flow.

When solo it can be harder to have fun, but again this is down to the ho is there.

Be nice and friendly, from the moment you talk to couples or single ladies you’ll sense if they are interested.

Going with a play mate always makes it easier to talk to other couples als single ladies.

Clubs often have more single guys to couples/single ladies, so to jump the cue sort of speak it comes down to your charm and how nice and respectful you are.

This is my advice, which works for me. Enjoy.

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By *cnugatugMan
over a year ago

Chatham

I'm also a first time club goer yet to make the plunge because of appearing like a creep but I'll be attending me1 soon hopefully with a couple I've chatted with and fingers crossed it all goes well

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"I realise this may have been asked b4, is it worth going to a club on my own or will I just be ignored as heard some horror stories of creeps, which I'm not I would sit chatting to folks and not be a perv but worried it's a waste of time"

Put it this way, as a single man I feel a lot safer going to a club some than I would a night club or a bar. I feel with nightclubs and bars their is a palpable Spence of violence in the air. Like going to a football game.

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By *ink vixenCouple
over a year ago

Medway


"I realise this may have been asked b4, is it worth going to a club on my own or will I just be ignored as heard some horror stories of creeps, which I'm not I would sit chatting to folks and not be a perv but worried it's a waste of time

Put it this way, as a single man I feel a lot safer going to a club some than I would a night club or a bar. I feel with nightclubs and bars there is a palpable Spence of violence in the air. Like going to a football game."

This is a real good point which we agree with.

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By *jswingerMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I go on my own myself alot to clubs especially attic and nice to be yourself and don't be judge and yes be smart and say hi others

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

If its worth it or not depends on you. There are plenty of single guys who thrive in the club environment and far more who don't.

Don't worry about the creeps or wanking dead if you don't intend to join their ranks. They are nothing to do with you and if you're not one of them you won't be associated with them.

As to success that depends on you as an individual and what you seek. Clubs are a good night out with like minded people. If that's all you seek or at least happy with a base level then go. As to something more success is often a factor of personal qualities. Are you simply good company to be around? Can you hold a good and engaging conversation? Who good are you at reading the vibes off others? Are you quietly confident and self assured? Some guys just get it and others don't. The best advise we could give is go, be yourself and socialise. You'll soon discover if clubs are for you or not. Nothing to lose.

As to being ignored chances are if you sit in the corner and don't make effort to make peoples acquaintance you will be. Generally people will not go out their way to introduce themselves to you (often people forget that couples and single ladies are shy too). So you do need to make the effort because no one will do it for you. Also you need to be able to judge the room and if the timing/vibe is appropriate to go say hello. Some people this is more natural than others but club experience will help you judge when is right over time. And sometimes you will be ignored/batted off. We know this as a couple and also Mr from the experience of clubs as a single guy. However it's rare people will be rude unless you're timing is terrible or you're being a bit of a dick. We can't be everyones cup of tea. And even if it goes terribly, just be kind to yourself, pick yourself up and move on. Don't take it to heart.

Also worth remembering not all clubs are the same and some clubs may work better for you than others. And as is the same for everyone sometimes we are just at the mercy of the right people being in on the right night.

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By *oxesMan
over a year ago

Southend, Essex


"If its worth it or not depends on you. There are plenty of single guys who thrive in the club environment and far more who don't.

Don't worry about the creeps or wanking dead if you don't intend to join their ranks. They are nothing to do with you and if you're not one of them you won't be associated with them.

As to success that depends on you as an individual and what you seek. Clubs are a good night out with like minded people. If that's all you seek or at least happy with a base level then go. As to something more success is often a factor of personal qualities. Are you simply good company to be around? Can you hold a good and engaging conversation? Who good are you at reading the vibes off others? Are you quietly confident and self assured? Some guys just get it and others don't. The best advise we could give is go, be yourself and socialise. You'll soon discover if clubs are for you or not. Nothing to lose.

As to being ignored chances are if you sit in the corner and don't make effort to make peoples acquaintance you will be. Generally people will not go out their way to introduce themselves to you (often people forget that couples and single ladies are shy too). So you do need to make the effort because no one will do it for you. Also you need to be able to judge the room and if the timing/vibe is appropriate to go say hello. Some people this is more natural than others but club experience will help you judge when is right over time. And sometimes you will be ignored/batted off. We know this as a couple and also Mr from the experience of clubs as a single guy. However it's rare people will be rude unless you're timing is terrible or you're being a bit of a dick. We can't be everyones cup of tea. And even if it goes terribly, just be kind to yourself, pick yourself up and move on. Don't take it to heart.

Also worth remembering not all clubs are the same and some clubs may work better for you than others. And as is the same for everyone sometimes we are just at the mercy of the right people being in on the right night."

This is wonderful advice. Each club has a feel and a theme each night is similar. Some clubs are like hanging in rich persons home while others are more like nightclubs. Then their is the vibe the club's are after. OP4F has over 1/2 the club dedicated to play areas and no socialising side. It's is sex focused. Pandora has a dance floor, swimming pool and other social areas than mate up a similar size as the playrooms. It is socialising with side of sex.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Pick an event and club you like the sound of and try it out.

Some events are more lined to single males than others, but there’s usually always something for everyone.

Many of us only meet single men, and for the most part people aren’t rude at all and friendly even if they don’t want to play with single men.

You can go to the same club 5 times and have 5 different experiences based on the event so don’t be put off and find the right one for you

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Hi Op

If you're able to get over some of the barriers on here chatting with someone you'll have no problems in a club if you are a sociable guy. Still boils down to chemistry, looks, someone nice to be around. So go forth and explore the club scene you may come across others whom like you their first time or only recently started

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

You got plenty of good advice already, OP. My advice: talk to people rather than just stare at them. We had an off-putting situation in the club lately where a guy would sit near us, stare at us but not say a word, not even make any facial expressions, just stare. It happened a few times on the same night, when we were just sitting in the lounge, chatting. And I have seen this guy around before, with exactly the same behaviour.

I also encountered plenty of "mutes", who wouldn't even say "hi" to me, but as soon as my guard was down, they'd try to sneak in and touch without asking. Please don't join their ranks.

But if you're friendly, smiling, smelling nice people may talk to you. Best places- hot tub and smokers area, at least in my local club, as well as the kitchen (yes, they do have a kitchen there) and lounge.

Good luck, OP.

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By *oe WestMan
over a year ago

Wigan

I am thinking of going to a Club on the 1st Sept on my own, In the past I have been with a partner but she is not going to clubs at present so this will be a first for me.

I live in the Wigan area so have plenty of choice to go to, Club play in Blackpool sounds good, if anyone would like a lift I can pick up and drop you off as I will be driving.

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By *ualityNotQuantityUKCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Two top tips to add to the plenty you already received.

1. Don't walk round the club constantly circuiting , especially carrying a water bottle. It's very noticeable and not flattering.

2. When talking to people, talk as if you are in a pub or park etc, not a club. First thing a lady/couple etc don't want to hear are comments like "do you want a %$#@" , start with a normal conversation and if things click it will naturally move on to a conversation level all parties are happy with.

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