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Attending BMFC OR similar events as a non-black man

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

Been looking at BMFC, teamplayer parties and dark desire party reviews and it seems like these parties are very well organised and fun.

Planning on attending some of the above parties soon.

Have any non-black men attended these parties and what was your experience like?

Couple and ladies that attend these parties would love to hear of your experiences at these parties.

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By *hegirlwiththepeachtattooWoman
over a year ago

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I’m a single woman and I’ve been to a fair few interracial events. I can’t see any photos on your profile so I don’t know if you’re writing as a white man or POC, so I’ll say what I’ve seen for both.

I see a fair few asian men at these parties, partly because some of them are marketed as “interracial” rather than just aimed at black guys, but also (so one guy told me) because it takes away a level of stress that they’ll be rejected based on their skin colour.

There’s often white MF couples at these events, largely because the female half likes playing with black men.

Single white men aren’t the most commonly seen at interracial parties but it’s not totally unheard of. Obviously depending on the specific event they might be there because they have a taste for black ladies. In general though if it’s an event for people to admire black men, whilst single white men might not be stopped at the door, I wouldn’t recommend going. It’s like a really slim woman going to a curve event, sure you might get to play, but your chances are limited because you’re not what people are there for. You’ve got more chance of playing on another night.

Hope this helps

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I’d echo the above. Whilst no party is going to turn you away, if you’re turning up to a party that is geared towards play with black men you’re likely going to be disappointed at the response you’ll get if you’re not black. You won’t be nearly as popular as you would be at an event that isn’t so niche and a lot of women who play with black men do so exclusively.

BMFC is literally Black Man’s Fan Club. White men do go, but generally with their wives or to observe.

Other interracial parties attract non white women, so if you’re seeking them out you might have a great time.

I’ve been to interracial parties before and witnessed some very frustrated behaviour by a couple of white guys because no one wanted to play with them. They’d been chatting people up but getting people up but getting the cold shoulder. It’s an expensive night to not get dust you’re looking for.

I suppose if depends on what you’re hoping to get out of the party. If it’s lots of play then you’re more likely to find that at a different event.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mirror what the first two ladies said.

If you're attending an interracial party for your love of black women, then I'd try a different interracial party than BMFC as previously mentioned this is aimed at black men and their female admirers.

However, there are so many more non interracial events that you could chose from that I think you'd have more success at sexually and socially to ensure you have a great time and not waste your time and money x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Contact the profiles of the folks that run the parties and see what the response is. I did green arrow so can see BMFC replied to your question on their party thread. Maybe a general interracial party would be more suited OP as opposed to the specifics of BMFC. Good luck.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Have you considered Greedy Girl/hotwife events? These have a wide range of attendees and have are catered to a generalist crowd. I can wholeheartedly recommend Le Boudoir parties. They are exceptionally organised and the guys who attend are respectful and well and truly understand the rules and etiquette.

As a woman I feel completely safe doing them.

Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you considered Greedy Girl/hotwife events? These have a wide range of attendees and have are catered to a generalist crowd. I can wholeheartedly recommend Le Boudoir parties. They are exceptionally organised and the guys who attend are respectful and well and truly understand the rules and etiquette.

As a woman I feel completely safe doing them.

Xx

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I have been to the LB Thursday events. You’re totally right, it is an amazing event. Will be going again soon. Maybe see you there

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By *anted by NightMan
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Hi

Been looking at BMFC, teamplayer parties and dark desire party reviews and it seems like these parties are very well organised and fun.

Planning on attending some of the above parties soon.

Have any non-black men attended these parties and what was your experience like?

Couple and ladies that attend these parties would love to hear of your experiences at these parties. "

You are more likely to get rejected because of your colour and race at these parties. Why waste money and time if you are not what they looking for?

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By *ideandvibeCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


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You are more likely to get rejected because of your colour and race at these parties. Why waste money and time if you are not what they looking for? "

Absolutely. The OP will find that the guest listing policy of such themed events does vary - many with less integrity (without naming) do allow anyone to attend, but in general one would have to ask why on earth they would even consider attending, unless of course it’s just to observe (albeit in a rather limited capacity).

It’s akin to attending a meat-eating festival as a strict vegetarian, being disappointed that there’s absolutely nothing for you there, and wondering why the vast majority of attendants are looking at you thinking “why the heck are they here?”.

Quality organisers of such events such as Team Players wouldn’t permit such attendance unless as the partner of a female.

Wish you all the best of luck, but there will be so many other parties at which your presence would be appreciated.

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By *op2Couple
over a year ago

North west

Is the op wanting to attend these parties just to watch any interracial action? If so is that such a problem aslong as he doesn’t get upset if he gets no offers to play ? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm honest I don't get the appeal of white guys who attend. This party is for people who have a preference of black guys so if you were going on the hoping of playing with someone, it's unlikely to happen. I've had far too many awkward conversations and had people be rude to me at these parties because of this, I shouldn't have to explain myself as the party is what is says on the tin. If you're going for the vibe and social aspect then sure but if it's solely about sex I'd advise to try other parties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve only been to one BMFC event and there was a handful of white guys there maybe 5 or 6 and 2 or 3 of them looked like and said that they’d had some success.

If you want to go, I wouldn’t let the fact that it’s an interracial night stop you, I would however, manage my expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if the White Guy went to see white women with black guys its still a kink an not a reason not to go x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The non black men are usually the husbands and they do not get a look in . Not even by their wives as we are here to meet black men .

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