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"I like going to clubs as they allow me to meet other like-minded people by chance. They offer safe environment, both social areas and play areas, and there is no pressure to play there, as opposed to 1:1 meets or some private parties. You can do as much or as little as you want there, and, in case the person you arranged to meet there doesn't turn up or you don't get on, there are others who you may be interested in getting to know better. Cons: can be an expensive night out (depends on the club), often not accessible via public transport (I don't drive), there can be twats there who believe everyone is "fair game" once they stepped over the club's threshold (just point them out to staff and they'd be dealt with in a suitable manner), hard work if you're not able to chat to strangers. " Thanks for that and a great insight | |||
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"I suspect based on other forum posts I've read recently that you've been steered that way as people in a club are real and tangible, whereas fab people are mostly flakes, ghosts and fakes. So if fab is already working for you, there's no need to change it! If you want to try something new though, then dip your toes in at a club that doesn't require membership cos no cost commitment, pick a good event that appeals to you and see what happens. Also, if you don't have to stay over it's a cheap night imho, and even if you do it is cheaper than a night out if it's a place you can take your own drink! Fortune favours the bold haha "I am not following your first paragraph ? | |||
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"I would love to go to some clubs. But not on my own. " You’re more than welcome to join me in a club night xx | |||
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"I would love to go to some clubs. But not on my own. " Maybe you could tag along with a like minded female for moral support ? I am sure you’d be able to find someone, maybe start a thread on the forums looking for a club buddy ? | |||
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"Same as the other ladies have said theres no pressure to do anything, i can change my mind about attending or how long i spend there, if who ever i’ve arranged to meet doesn't turn up its ok as there are other folks there to talk to, you can see the reality of people (photos are great but they're not always a true reflection of a person). There no worries about accommodating. " Great input thank you, see we always do a social first unless we’ve made contact in other forms prior to meeting so usually we are confident before anything goes further, the accommodation side of it I can totally understand especially if it’s an issue | |||
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"It's a good way to actually meet people. If fab works for you, that's brilliant. However, we've found it's rare fab works, it's full of people who like the idea but not the follow through, fake profiles and people who cancel last minute. At a club you meet genuine people where you can chat, get to know others, make friends etc. It's also a great place for a social that can lead to play or simply a place to watch others and learn what you'd like as a couple (or individual getting involved with couples). It's also a place you know will be safe, you're not turning up to meet a stranger in a risky situation. It's personal preference really, clubs aren't for everyone. Worth giving a couple a go (each is different so worth trying a few, and possibly even a few different events/nights) but if you make fab work then you may not need to venture down that route. " Thanks for that love the points you make | |||
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"It's a good way to actually meet people. If fab works for you, that's brilliant. However, we've found it's rare fab works, it's full of people who like the idea but not the follow through, fake profiles and people who cancel last minute. At a club you meet genuine people where you can chat, get to know others, make friends etc. It's also a great place for a social that can lead to play or simply a place to watch others and learn what you'd like as a couple (or individual getting involved with couples). It's also a place you know will be safe, you're not turning up to meet a stranger in a risky situation. It's personal preference really, clubs aren't for everyone. Worth giving a couple a go (each is different so worth trying a few, and possibly even a few different events/nights) but if you make fab work then you may not need to venture down that route. Thanks for that love the points you make "That's basically my first paragraph  | |||
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"It's a good way to actually meet people. If fab works for you, that's brilliant. However, we've found it's rare fab works, it's full of people who like the idea but not the follow through, fake profiles and people who cancel last minute. At a club you meet genuine people where you can chat, get to know others, make friends etc. It's also a great place for a social that can lead to play or simply a place to watch others and learn what you'd like as a couple (or individual getting involved with couples). It's also a place you know will be safe, you're not turning up to meet a stranger in a risky situation. It's personal preference really, clubs aren't for everyone. Worth giving a couple a go (each is different so worth trying a few, and possibly even a few different events/nights) but if you make fab work then you may not need to venture down that route. Thanks for that love the points you make
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! But I also like the vibes the music and chatting to people. The clubs up here aren't to badly priced depending on the night " Yeah I can imagine it’s heavy going for single gents on here, what on average are you paying ? | |||
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! But I also like the vibes the music and chatting to people. The clubs up here aren't to badly priced depending on the night Yeah I can imagine it’s heavy going for single gents on here, what on average are you paying ?" On average it's around 35 | |||
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! But I also like the vibes the music and chatting to people. The clubs up here aren't to badly priced depending on the night Yeah I can imagine it’s heavy going for single gents on here, what on average are you paying ? On average it's around 35" is that just for entry or membership included ? I assume most need you to be a member to enter ? | |||
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! But I also like the vibes the music and chatting to people. The clubs up here aren't to badly priced depending on the night Yeah I can imagine it’s heavy going for single gents on here, what on average are you paying ? On average it's around 35 is that just for entry or membership included ? I assume most need you to be a member to enter ? " That's the entrance. Depends on the night or the event | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in "So many good things The dressing up, the sexy atmosphere, the social side the safe environment So many to list As seasoned club goers (over 500 visits) and nearly all choosing not to play but to connect with others for meets after , it’s definitely our preference No expectations , no pressure it’s all about a great night | |||
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! But I also like the vibes the music and chatting to people. The clubs up here aren't to badly priced depending on the night Yeah I can imagine it’s heavy going for single gents on here, what on average are you paying ? On average it's around 35 is that just for entry or membership included ? I assume most need you to be a member to enter ? " Quite a lot you don't. And even those you do, most have non member nights. I can't speak for the two in Newcastle but there's a section in the forum listing every club, with reviews, so it's a good starting place for research! | |||
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! But I also like the vibes the music and chatting to people. The clubs up here aren't to badly priced depending on the night Yeah I can imagine it’s heavy going for single gents on here, what on average are you paying ? On average it's around 35 is that just for entry or membership included ? I assume most need you to be a member to enter ? Quite a lot you don't. And even those you do, most have non member nights. I can't speak for the two in Newcastle but there's a section in the forum listing every club, with reviews, so it's a good starting place for research! " I’ll have to have a look and get researching | |||
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"I like the fact you can see in person if there is an attraction. And it’s nice to socialise then have the chance to play if everyone is on the same page. Plus, any club with a jacuzzi is a draw in itself "Do they usually let stuff happen in the jacuzzi ? | |||
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"I like the fact you can see in person if there is an attraction. And it’s nice to socialise then have the chance to play if everyone is on the same page. Plus, any club with a jacuzzi is a draw in itself
Do they usually let stuff happen in the jacuzzi ?"Certainly in the ones I’ve been to. My top tip is to get in there early  | |||
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"I like the fact you can see in person if there is an attraction. And it’s nice to socialise then have the chance to play if everyone is on the same page. Plus, any club with a jacuzzi is a draw in itself
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Certainly in the ones I’ve been to. My top tip is to get in there early "Hahaha yeah early entry to the Jacuzzi is a must I can imagine haha | |||
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"Just my experience going with Mr Fox, I found there was a lot of pressure so maybe it's about where you go in particular. X" Fair play for putting your experience out there, I feel sometimes on the threads it’s harder to put an opinion out there that goes against the more popular opinions so much respect | |||
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"Just my experience going with Mr Fox, I found there was a lot of pressure so maybe it's about where you go in particular. X" I noticed that with "greedy girls" nights, particularly one I attended before COVID, with my FWB. It was our first (and last) visit to that particular club, and we did not know that particular night's theme before attending, so we did not go for that night on purpose. As soon as we walked through the door, there were men, everywhere! Some looked as if they have not seen a bath or shower for at least a month... We very nearly turned round and went back to our hotel, and, in hindsight, we probably should have. Anyway, what I am trying to say, do your research before you turn up as the event may not suit what you are looking for. | |||
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"Just my experience going with Mr Fox, I found there was a lot of pressure so maybe it's about where you go in particular. X I noticed that with "greedy girls" nights, particularly one I attended before COVID, with my FWB. It was our first (and last) visit to that particular club, and we did not know that particular night's theme before attending, so we did not go for that night on purpose. As soon as we walked through the door, there were men, everywhere! Some looked as if they have not seen a bath or shower for at least a month... We very nearly turned round and went back to our hotel, and, in hindsight, we probably should have. Anyway, what I am trying to say, do your research before you turn up as the event may not suit what you are looking for. " Male hygiene has been an issue at clubs we’ve been to more than once. I think the low point was at a club (that we won’t name) where a guy who smelt so bad it was unreal, was dressed in shorts and dirty trainers and wondering around carrying a Lidl carrier bag. Each to their own and all that but not a turn on for us! | |||
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"So, you’ve got two local clubs on your doorsteps, plus the Newcastle socials are massive. First, please don’t fuck in the hot tub and ignore any southerners who tell you it’s ok. (It’s not.) Secondly: clubs and socials open doors to you that might not be there otherwise. It’s a good night out, you’ll likely meet some lovely people, and you never know what will happen. " I think that’s possibly a nod to my reply so just in case, I don’t think it’s ok to fuck in the jacuzzi it’s why I go in early. I just love chilling in them. | |||
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"So, you’ve got two local clubs on your doorsteps, plus the Newcastle socials are massive. First, please don’t fuck in the hot tub and ignore any southerners who tell you it’s ok. (It’s not.) Secondly: clubs and socials open doors to you that might not be there otherwise. It’s a good night out, you’ll likely meet some lovely people, and you never know what will happen. Do they do group socials away from clubs do you know ? Or is all just based around attending the clubs ? " | |||
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"So, you’ve got two local clubs on your doorsteps, plus the Newcastle socials are massive. First, please don’t fuck in the hot tub and ignore any southerners who tell you it’s ok. (It’s not.) Secondly: clubs and socials open doors to you that might not be there otherwise. It’s a good night out, you’ll likely meet some lovely people, and you never know what will happen. I think that’s possibly a nod to my reply so just in case, I don’t think it’s ok to fuck in the jacuzzi it’s why I go in early. I just love chilling in them. "There’ll be no jiggery pokery in the jacuzzi | |||
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"So, you’ve got two local clubs on your doorsteps, plus the Newcastle socials are massive. First, please don’t fuck in the hot tub and ignore any southerners who tell you it’s ok. (It’s not.) Secondly: clubs and socials open doors to you that might not be there otherwise. It’s a good night out, you’ll likely meet some lovely people, and you never know what will happen. I think that’s possibly a nod to my reply so just in case, I don’t think it’s ok to fuck in the jacuzzi it’s why I go in early. I just love chilling in them.
There’ll be no jiggery pokery in the jacuzzi "Chameleons allows jaggery pokery in the hot tubs. Although I do know one or two that don't. | |||
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"So, you’ve got two local clubs on your doorsteps, plus the Newcastle socials are massive. First, please don’t fuck in the hot tub and ignore any southerners who tell you it’s ok. (It’s not.) Secondly: clubs and socials open doors to you that might not be there otherwise. It’s a good night out, you’ll likely meet some lovely people, and you never know what will happen. I think that’s possibly a nod to my reply so just in case, I don’t think it’s ok to fuck in the jacuzzi it’s why I go in early. I just love chilling in them.
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Chameleons allows jaggery pokery in the hot tubs. Although I do know one or two that don't. "That can’t be hygienic after one round  | |||
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"We started going to a club just over a month ago and we're there every week now.... We're getting ready to go tonight as it happens. I think we just enjoy the safety, knowing the staff have got our back if anything goes awry. We're local to you, I think, so if you've got any questions about the club we go to, feel free to drop us a message "Thanks for the offer, which club is it by chance ? | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in "Basically it’s like a social club with benefits…… Also it’s a great neutral place where you can sort of “try before you buy “ and see what people are actually like in the wild so to speak | |||
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"Just my experience going with Mr Fox, I found there was a lot of pressure so maybe it's about where you go in particular. X Fair play for putting your experience out there, I feel sometimes on the threads it’s harder to put an opinion out there that goes against the more popular opinions so much respect "Thank you, it's not generally taken well but all experiences are valid! | |||
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"Just my experience going with Mr Fox, I found there was a lot of pressure so maybe it's about where you go in particular. X I noticed that with "greedy girls" nights, particularly one I attended before COVID, with my FWB. It was our first (and last) visit to that particular club, and we did not know that particular night's theme before attending, so we did not go for that night on purpose. As soon as we walked through the door, there were men, everywhere! Some looked as if they have not seen a bath or shower for at least a month... We very nearly turned round and went back to our hotel, and, in hindsight, we probably should have. Anyway, what I am trying to say, do your research before you turn up as the event may not suit what you are looking for. " It was just a regular night I believe, but worth bearing in mind for sure!! | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in
Basically it’s like a social club with benefits……
Also it’s a great neutral place where you can sort of “try before you buy “ and see what people are actually like in the wild so to speak "Could you not get that sorting a social down the local ? | |||
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"It's simple really. It's usually full of like-minded people!" So is fab though | |||
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"Just my experience going with Mr Fox, I found there was a lot of pressure so maybe it's about where you go in particular. X Fair play for putting your experience out there, I feel sometimes on the threads it’s harder to put an opinion out there that goes against the more popular opinions so much respect
Thank you, it's not generally taken well but all experiences are valid!"Yeah we’ve found the scene to be pretty defensive and clicky at times which again contributes to our unwillingness to attempt it | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in
Basically it’s like a social club with benefits……
Also it’s a great neutral place where you can sort of “try before you buy “ and see what people are actually like in the wild so to speak
Could you not get that sorting a social down the local ? "You could… but I find people just tend to let their hair down more if they know other people and all those surrounding are there for the same reasons I not going to say clubs are for everyone because they aren’t but chatting with a group of likeminded people isn’t a bad thing | |||
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"It's simple really. It's usually full of like-minded people! So is fab though" Fab also has the dreamers and time wasters. At least with a club they've made it through the door. | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in
Basically it’s like a social club with benefits……
Also it’s a great neutral place where you can sort of “try before you buy “ and see what people are actually like in the wild so to speak
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You could… but I find people just tend to let their hair down more if they know other people and all those surrounding are there for the same reasons
I not going to say clubs are for everyone because they aren’t but chatting with a group of likeminded people isn’t a bad thing "Oh I agree totally chatting with like minded people is brilliant and hence why over the past few days we’ve taken advantage of the forums on here for the first time, that said nothing is really jumping out at me that we can’t get outside of a club setting apart from the ease of the fact it’s there already, would you say the swinging/club scene is clicky so to speak ? | |||
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"It's simple really. It's usually full of like-minded people! So is fab though Fab also has the dreamers and time wasters. At least with a club they've made it through the door." Yeah granted I’ll give you time wasters are ruled out as if someone has made the effort to attend the club they are automatically showing willingness, but from comments above chancers and pushy people still seem to be present, the club scene has a bit of reputation as being clicky would you say that’s a fair comment ? | |||
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"I like going to clubs as they allow me to meet other like-minded people by chance. They offer safe environment, both social areas and play areas, and there is no pressure to play there, as opposed to 1:1 meets or some private parties. You can do as much or as little as you want there, and, in case the person you arranged to meet there doesn't turn up or you don't get on, there are others who you may be interested in getting to know better. Cons: can be an expensive night out (depends on the club), often not accessible via public transport (I don't drive), there can be twats there who believe everyone is "fair game" once they stepped over the club's threshold (just point them out to staff and they'd be dealt with in a suitable manner), hard work if you're not able to chat to strangers. " This is a great view of the club scene, I love how liberating it is going there as a super curvy woman and feeling sexy as hell! Other women lift each other too - even when they're as straight as you | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in
Basically it’s like a social club with benefits……
Also it’s a great neutral place where you can sort of “try before you buy “ and see what people are actually like in the wild so to speak
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You could… but I find people just tend to let their hair down more if they know other people and all those surrounding are there for the same reasons
I not going to say clubs are for everyone because they aren’t but chatting with a group of likeminded people isn’t a bad thing
Oh I agree totally chatting with like minded people is brilliant and hence why over the past few days we’ve taken advantage of the forums on here for the first time, that said nothing is really jumping out at me that we can’t get outside of a club setting apart from the ease of the fact it’s there already, would you say the swinging/club scene is clicky so to speak ?"I will say that if you go once or twice it may look that way… but most people will have been there before so may know other people there and have built up friendships…..if you have been there more than once to a new person you may look like you are in the group as you may have seen people there before.. so bear that in mind We all know what it was like the first time we all went so we will always bear that in this… go out, be bold, say hello to all and sundry ( the instinctive thing to do is just sit in a corner and people watch.. but that is going to make a click feeling feel worse!) | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in
Basically it’s like a social club with benefits……
Also it’s a great neutral place where you can sort of “try before you buy “ and see what people are actually like in the wild so to speak
Could you not get that sorting a social down the local ?
You could… but I find people just tend to let their hair down more if they know other people and all those surrounding are there for the same reasons
I not going to say clubs are for everyone because they aren’t but chatting with a group of likeminded people isn’t a bad thing
Oh I agree totally chatting with like minded people is brilliant and hence why over the past few days we’ve taken advantage of the forums on here for the first time, that said nothing is really jumping out at me that we can’t get outside of a club setting apart from the ease of the fact it’s there already, would you say the swinging/club scene is clicky so to speak ?
I will say that if you go once or twice it may look that way… but most people will have been there before so may know other people there and have built up friendships…..if you have been there more than once to a new person you may look like you are in the group as you may have seen people there before.. so bear that in mind
We all know what it was like the first time we all went so we will always bear that in this… go out, be bold, say hello to all and sundry ( the instinctive thing to do is just sit in a corner and people watch.. but that is going to make a click feeling feel worse!)"Love this reply and understanding shown, thank you | |||
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"Like many have said. If it works for you don’t change, from our point of view, when time is at a premium we prefer clubs because you know everybody there is of a similar mindset. That doesn’t mean we will play with anyone but at least you know they are real. We would also echo do your research. What are you after? Does the club cater for that and is there event what you are looking for? Clubs are great but if they are not for an individual then you do you.x" Great response and thanks for taking the time to reply and giving us your advice | |||
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"Hey here is my penny worth. The thing I love about clubs is that you know all the people are on the same wavelength and want to be there. A person who attends a club has made effort and know exactly why they are there. But i would say sales clubs have been my biggest life lesson regarding sex. It made me realise more than ever sex is a connection which can be reached via good old banter. Clubs made me more respectful of others and their wishes and boundaries Plus the buzz. The smell, the vibe and good old fun can only be reached in a club. " It’s brill you get that from them, would you say you had any negatives or just all positive for you ? | |||
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"Clubs are great, if you want to meet a lot of people and are happy to chat to people it can be fun, especially for couples looking for fun. As mentioned they offer a unique environment where everyone knows the score and generally play by the rules in a safe, suitable environment. There are down sides such as you can't control who is there and there will be people going with different things in mind and different tastes and desires. I can't comment as a couple or woman, but for guys clubs can be a hard sell. " Great comments and loving the balance you give thanks for taking the time to reply | |||
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"At a club, everyone there has actually turned up, which is more than can be said for private meets. Those who have a dying nan or a guinea pig in need of urgent vet treatment like so many chaps seem to just before a pre-arranged meet won't be on your radar at a club because they don't turn up, and you haven't wasted time chatting and getting ready only to be let down. " Would agree it does totally eliminate time wasters for sure, thanks for taking the time to reply | |||
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"Hey here is my penny worth. The thing I love about clubs is that you know all the people are on the same wavelength and want to be there. A person who attends a club has made effort and know exactly why they are there. But i would say sales clubs have been my biggest life lesson regarding sex. It made me realise more than ever sex is a connection which can be reached via good old banter. Clubs made me more respectful of others and their wishes and boundaries Plus the buzz. The smell, the vibe and good old fun can only be reached in a club. It’s brill you get that from them, would you say you had any negatives or just all positive for you ?" I’ve had 90% positive experiences. I really can’t think of any negatives bar the money side. My approach was i was going to socialise with ppl on same wave length and if sex happened it did. Weird concept and way to look at it but it was the best approach for me. | |||
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"Hey here is my penny worth. The thing I love about clubs is that you know all the people are on the same wavelength and want to be there. A person who attends a club has made effort and know exactly why they are there. But i would say sales clubs have been my biggest life lesson regarding sex. It made me realise more than ever sex is a connection which can be reached via good old banter. Clubs made me more respectful of others and their wishes and boundaries Plus the buzz. The smell, the vibe and good old fun can only be reached in a club. It’s brill you get that from them, would you say you had any negatives or just all positive for you ? I’ve had 90% positive experiences. I really can’t think of any negatives bar the money side. My approach was i was going to socialise with ppl on same wave length and if sex happened it did. Weird concept and way to look at it but it was the best approach for me. " I think that’s probably the best approach for sure almost try and forget the fact sex is even an issue, just go and let your personality come through and what will be will be kind of thing. | |||
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"Hey here is my penny worth. The thing I love about clubs is that you know all the people are on the same wavelength and want to be there. A person who attends a club has made effort and know exactly why they are there. But i would say sales clubs have been my biggest life lesson regarding sex. It made me realise more than ever sex is a connection which can be reached via good old banter. Clubs made me more respectful of others and their wishes and boundaries Plus the buzz. The smell, the vibe and good old fun can only be reached in a club. It’s brill you get that from them, would you say you had any negatives or just all positive for you ? I’ve had 90% positive experiences. I really can’t think of any negatives bar the money side. My approach was i was going to socialise with ppl on same wave length and if sex happened it did. Weird concept and way to look at it but it was the best approach for me. I think that’s probably the best approach for sure almost try and forget the fact sex is even an issue, just go and let your personality come through and what will be will be kind of thing." My advice is set your own rules and go! | |||
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"Hey here is my penny worth. The thing I love about clubs is that you know all the people are on the same wavelength and want to be there. A person who attends a club has made effort and know exactly why they are there. But i would say sales clubs have been my biggest life lesson regarding sex. It made me realise more than ever sex is a connection which can be reached via good old banter. Clubs made me more respectful of others and their wishes and boundaries Plus the buzz. The smell, the vibe and good old fun can only be reached in a club. It’s brill you get that from them, would you say you had any negatives or just all positive for you ? I’ve had 90% positive experiences. I really can’t think of any negatives bar the money side. My approach was i was going to socialise with ppl on same wave length and if sex happened it did. Weird concept and way to look at it but it was the best approach for me. I think that’s probably the best approach for sure almost try and forget the fact sex is even an issue, just go and let your personality come through and what will be will be kind of thing. My advice is set your own rules and go! " And thank you for such advice it’s appreciated | |||
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"There's loads of reasons we only have meets a clubs.... - what happens there stays there - no random strangers coming to our home. - no visiting strangers Houses with no idea if it's safe or clean. - no pressure to play at clubs - safe environment at clubs - it's a night out - you get a much better idea about somebody meeting them in person rather than just a picture online. - we enjoy socialising with people we feel we can speak to freely and have things in common with them. The lists endless "These are all very valid points and I would re-iterate the safety one with reference to homes. I need a club visit soon!! | |||
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"There's loads of reasons we only have meets a clubs.... - what happens there stays there - no random strangers coming to our home. - no visiting strangers Houses with no idea if it's safe or clean. - no pressure to play at clubs - safe environment at clubs - it's a night out - you get a much better idea about somebody meeting them in person rather than just a picture online. - we enjoy socialising with people we feel we can speak to freely and have things in common with them. The lists endless "Not a single negative ? | |||
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"There's loads of reasons we only have meets a clubs.... - what happens there stays there - no random strangers coming to our home. - no visiting strangers Houses with no idea if it's safe or clean. - no pressure to play at clubs - safe environment at clubs - it's a night out - you get a much better idea about somebody meeting them in person rather than just a picture online. - we enjoy socialising with people we feel we can speak to freely and have things in common with them. The lists endless
Not a single negative ? "Not for us. Works really well especially when it comes to safety. | |||
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"There's loads of reasons we only have meets a clubs.... - what happens there stays there - no random strangers coming to our home. - no visiting strangers Houses with no idea if it's safe or clean. - no pressure to play at clubs - safe environment at clubs - it's a night out - you get a much better idea about somebody meeting them in person rather than just a picture online. - we enjoy socialising with people we feel we can speak to freely and have things in common with them. The lists endless
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Not for us. Works really well especially when it comes to safety."Would you say the swinging community is pretty distrusting ? I am not saying that in a bad way just we are finding that especially on fab | |||
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"Feel like we need to give clubs another go, if I in particular (because I'm the oddball who can't roll into an orgy like others can) don't gel then I guess I'm the common denominator!
Great thread, I hope you find what you're looking for OP! X"Thank you and good luck if you do give it another go, let us know how you get on | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X " All very true. I love the social side of clubs. And that’s a very interesting point made reference coat for ladies preparing & clothes! What’s your fav clubs? | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in "Safety. If your meet doesn't turn up, there's plenty other fish in the sea. Pub full of swingers. I could go on | |||
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! " Absolute tosh! 
You’ll meet more women in your average Weatherspoons than you will in a swinger club, with no gender-biased pricing structures, restricted times a single guy can gain entry, cliques to navigate, or standing waiting in line….. | |||
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"At the moment we are really enjoying our swinging experience and using Fab to navigate our way through it, clubs are not and haven’t ever really been on our agenda, but we are increasingly noticing a lot of people we chat too trying to steer us down this route. So the question we are asking is what’s so great about them ? Keen to here everyone’s views so whatever your view is get it fired in
Safety.
If your meet doesn't turn up, there's plenty other fish in the sea.
Pub full of swingers.
I could go on"Not a single negative ? | |||
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"As a single guy it's about the only way of actually meeting anyone! Absolute tosh!
You’ll meet more women in your average Weatherspoons than you will in a swinger club, with no gender-biased pricing structures, restricted times a single guy can gain entry, cliques to navigate, or standing waiting in line….. "Good point well made | |||
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"I agree with 95% of what's been said on this thread. I'm a host at various clubs and what I'd say is choose your event well. For instance the person complaining at sausage fest - that's likely to happen at a greedy girls party as the very nature of the event means a lot of males are required. I co-host body positivity and Rock n metal events predominantly which I fully understand aren't everyones cup of tea - but if they are, I can assure an attendee of a well put together guestlist with balanced ratios. A clean venue, good music and busy party. All new attendees receive a your of venue and quick chat about rules on the way around. This gives you best chances of enjoying your evening so all you have to do is enjoy it. Try a club at some point but choose your venue wisely (see club reviews and don't be fooled by numbers, the amount of reviews won't necessarily mean it's the best) watch out for a lot of repeat reviews or forum posts by staff in venues too, it can give false ideas on numbers attending a party and biased reviews on clubs. Have a great evening wherever you choose to go "Thanks for your response and taking the time to reply, to be fair a rock and metal if it’s based up on the music rock and metal and not someone lashing us with rocks and metal would be right up our street haha | |||
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"If your not a fan of clubs then that's ok. There are plenty of people who don't enjoy. Personally I love clubs it gives me an excuse for a rare night out, as a single male I feel safe in going alone. But if give it a go onee, twice, thrice then make you mind up. Doing go with any preconceptions and have fun. Note. That there are different type of sex clubs. They're are clubs that are like hanging out a rich persons house and there are clubs that act and feel more like a night club. Some focus more sex room size of things while others have more of a dance floor." Why would I want to hang out at a rich persons house haha | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X " It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ? | |||
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"Going to clubs no hassle wasting time trying to arrange things on here for people to block/pull out or ignore. Just turn up go with the flo and have fun " No negative ? | |||
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"We're pretty new to clubs and only been to 2 in blackpool. There what you want to make of them. Take a seat grab a drink and people perv sorry meant watch. Then go for a walk about and either plat or just hang out.we find the voyeurs room in club play lots of fun knowing people are watching. We've yet to leave the door unlocked lol our only gripe is the guys that follow you all over playing with themselves. So if a couple maybe we will try a couple night. But as for wanting to know just do it you'll either like it or hate it. Either way make sure it's always fun." We’ve heard that about blokes and to be fair find it pretty off putting and for us seems as if the clubs are no better than Fab in that regard | |||
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"I agree with 95% of what's been said on this thread. I'm a host at various clubs and what I'd say is choose your event well. For instance the person complaining at sausage fest - that's likely to happen at a greedy girls party as the very nature of the event means a lot of males are required. I co-host body positivity and Rock n metal events predominantly which I fully understand aren't everyones cup of tea - but if they are, I can assure an attendee of a well put together guestlist with balanced ratios. A clean venue, good music and busy party. All new attendees receive a your of venue and quick chat about rules on the way around. This gives you best chances of enjoying your evening so all you have to do is enjoy it. Try a club at some point but choose your venue wisely (see club reviews and don't be fooled by numbers, the amount of reviews won't necessarily mean it's the best) watch out for a lot of repeat reviews or forum posts by staff in venues too, it can give false ideas on numbers attending a party and biased reviews on clubs. Have a great evening wherever you choose to go
Thanks for your response and taking the time to reply, to be fair a rock and metal if it’s based up on the music rock and metal and not someone lashing us with rocks and metal would be right up our street haha "Lashings are by choice in the dungeon
The music though is very much a draw for a lot of people - you missed a fabulous night at Pandora in Leeds just last Sat - over 300 swingers that travelled from across the country for the music and a brilliant night as such! I host these a little more sporadically as they are a niche event as it were but keep your eye on my profile for dates if that's your thing
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"We're pretty new to clubs and only been to 2 in blackpool. There what you want to make of them. Take a seat grab a drink and people perv sorry meant watch. Then go for a walk about and either plat or just hang out.we find the voyeurs room in club play lots of fun knowing people are watching. We've yet to leave the door unlocked lol our only gripe is the guys that follow you all over playing with themselves. So if a couple maybe we will try a couple night. But as for wanting to know just do it you'll either like it or hate it. Either way make sure it's always fun. We’ve heard that about blokes and to be fair find it pretty off putting and for us seems as if the clubs are no better than Fab in that regard " This is more of a problem in some venues than others. Pandora for instance has a couples and single ladies only floor | |||
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"We're pretty new to clubs and only been to 2 in blackpool. There what you want to make of them. Take a seat grab a drink and people perv sorry meant watch. Then go for a walk about and either plat or just hang out.we find the voyeurs room in club play lots of fun knowing people are watching. We've yet to leave the door unlocked lol our only gripe is the guys that follow you all over playing with themselves. So if a couple maybe we will try a couple night. But as for wanting to know just do it you'll either like it or hate it. Either way make sure it's always fun. We’ve heard that about blokes and to be fair find it pretty off putting and for us seems as if the clubs are no better than Fab in that regard " Again, that a reason to do your research and choose your night wisely… there may be more singles (both men and women) on mixed nights than primarily on a night aimed more at couples… | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?"Yep to keep the numbers down | |||
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"We’ve heard that about blokes and to be fair find it pretty off putting and for us seems as if the clubs are no better than Fab in that regard " We went to a nudist beach, guess what? there were guys wanking! At a club in the bar\social areas guys aren't usually wanking. If you go to an open play area, eg a cinema room guys might wank whilst you play. If you know you don't like that sort of thing you can always go to a lockable room. As for guys following you around, usually a stern look or just tell them and they get the message your not interested. | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there "Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with. | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there
Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with.
"I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a criteria for us at all, I just think it’s disgusting that because of your sex which ever sex that may well be you’d be charged more to enter an establishment and that would be widely accepted in any community. | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there
Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with.
I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a criteria for us at all, I just think it’s disgusting that because of your sex which ever sex that may well be you’d be charged more to enter an establishment and that would be widely accepted in any community. "Personally I feel they could just limit numbers instead | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there
Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with.
I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a criteria for us at all, I just think it’s disgusting that because of your sex which ever sex that may well be you’d be charged more to enter an establishment and that would be widely accepted in any community.
Personally I feel they could just limit numbers instead"I would agree there’s surely a much fairer way to do it than by attempting to out price one gender with a given relationship status | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there
Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with.
I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a criteria for us at all, I just think it’s disgusting that because of your sex which ever sex that may well be you’d be charged more to enter an establishment and that would be widely accepted in any community.
Personally I feel they could just limit numbers instead
I would agree there’s surely a much fairer way to do it than by attempting to out price one gender with a given relationship status "Women usually get the cheapest price or completely free too | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there
Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with.
I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a criteria for us at all, I just think it’s disgusting that because of your sex which ever sex that may well be you’d be charged more to enter an establishment and that would be widely accepted in any community. "The guy pricing is around the same as a couple depending on club. Many of the events I go to at pandoras for example you have to be on a guest list, which even me as a single guy thinks is it better idea. | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there
Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with.
I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a criteria for us at all, I just think it’s disgusting that because of your sex which ever sex that may well be you’d be charged more to enter an establishment and that would be widely accepted in any community.
The guy pricing is around the same as a couple depending on club.
Many of the events I go to at pandoras for example you have to be on a guest list, which even me as a single guy thinks is it better idea."The pricing system for any club shouldn’t be structured in anyway around gender or relationship status, that’s just utter BS | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Wow not sure how I feel about that, infact I think that might just be a deal breaker there
Every club has their own pricing policy. Not all clubs do that, so if that's a criteria for you, just find a club with pricing you're happy with.
I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a criteria for us at all, I just think it’s disgusting that because of your sex which ever sex that may well be you’d be charged more to enter an establishment and that would be widely accepted in any community.
The guy pricing is around the same as a couple depending on club.
Many of the events I go to at pandoras for example you have to be on a guest list, which even me as a single guy thinks is it better idea.
The pricing system for any club shouldn’t be structured in anyway around gender or relationship status, that’s just utter BS"True it shouldn't, but there's been endless threads on that! Which gets nowhere. The justification is usually it keeps the riff raff out but it doesn't. Guest list does | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down "Actually…. Not legally true! Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go! 
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Actually…. Not legally true!
Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go!
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
I am not begrudging anyone paying less than me if the effect is getting more people through those doors! "If you took the sex out of the equation or should I say free sex that’s potentially on offer would you feel the same ? I don’t solely blame clubs for this and it is a example of the wider issues encountered within the swinging community in terms of how women, men and couples approach it all also, men need to be less desperate to empty their balls to the point that they would willingly accept this total BS. | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Actually…. Not legally true!
Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go!
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
I am not begrudging anyone paying less than me if the effect is getting more people through those doors!
If you took the sex out of the equation or should I say free sex that’s potentially on offer would you feel the same ? I don’t solely blame clubs for this and it is a example of the wider issues encountered within the swinging community in terms of how women, men and couples approach it all also, men need to be less desperate to empty their balls to the point that they would willingly accept this total BS."There’s no guarantee of sex. Guys go because they want to go. | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Actually…. Not legally true!
Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go!
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
I am not begrudging anyone paying less than me if the effect is getting more people through those doors!
If you took the sex out of the equation or should I say free sex that’s potentially on offer would you feel the same ? I don’t solely blame clubs for this and it is a example of the wider issues encountered within the swinging community in terms of how women, men and couples approach it all also, men need to be less desperate to empty their balls to the point that they would willingly accept this total BS.
There’s no guarantee of sex. Guys go because they want to go. "Are you seriously gonna try and convince us single men go because they don’t expect to get some form of sexual contact here ? | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Actually…. Not legally true!
Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go!
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
I am not begrudging anyone paying less than me if the effect is getting more people through those doors!
If you took the sex out of the equation or should I say free sex that’s potentially on offer would you feel the same ? I don’t solely blame clubs for this and it is a example of the wider issues encountered within the swinging community in terms of how women, men and couples approach it all also, men need to be less desperate to empty their balls to the point that they would willingly accept this total BS.
There’s no guarantee of sex. Guys go because they want to go.
Are you seriously gonna try and convince us single men go because they don’t expect to get some form of sexual contact here ? "I'm certainly not desperate! I go because it's usually a good night out, if sex happens that's great. If not I've met people hopefully for the future | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Actually…. Not legally true!
Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go!
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
I am not begrudging anyone paying less than me if the effect is getting more people through those doors!
If you took the sex out of the equation or should I say free sex that’s potentially on offer would you feel the same ? I don’t solely blame clubs for this and it is a example of the wider issues encountered within the swinging community in terms of how women, men and couples approach it all also, men need to be less desperate to empty their balls to the point that they would willingly accept this total BS.
There’s no guarantee of sex. Guys go because they want to go.
Are you seriously gonna try and convince us single men go because they don’t expect to get some form of sexual contact here ? "Absolutely!!!! That why we say to every single person who goes… men women and couples.. go with an open mind and no expectations!! If you want guaranteed sex… there are plenty of adverts in local papers where you can get that! What you are paying for when you go to a club are the facilities… that why I use the sauna, that why I used the Hottub, people go to use the dungeons ect! Not only do clubs have potential play areas they are a great place to network, they are great places to socialise If anyone went to a club with the “empty their balls” mindset.. I would suggest that clubs are not for them! You also tend to be able to sense that sort of attitude a mile off as well | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Actually…. Not legally true!
Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go!
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
I am not begrudging anyone paying less than me if the effect is getting more people through those doors!
If you took the sex out of the equation or should I say free sex that’s potentially on offer would you feel the same ? I don’t solely blame clubs for this and it is a example of the wider issues encountered within the swinging community in terms of how women, men and couples approach it all also, men need to be less desperate to empty their balls to the point that they would willingly accept this total BS.
There’s no guarantee of sex. Guys go because they want to go.
Are you seriously gonna try and convince us single men go because they don’t expect to get some form of sexual contact here ?
Absolutely!!!! That why we say to every single person who goes… men women and couples.. go with an open mind and no expectations!!
If you want guaranteed sex… there are plenty of adverts in local papers where you can get that!
What you are paying for when you go to a club are the facilities… that why I use the sauna, that why I used the Hottub, people go to use the dungeons ect!
Not only do clubs have potential play areas they are a great place to network, they are great places to socialise
If anyone went to a club with the “empty their balls” mindset.. I would suggest that clubs are not for them! You also tend to be able to sense that sort of attitude a mile off as well "And there I was, only two weeks ago; sitting in the hot tub in Club f, on their Newbies Friday night ‘event’. I chatted with a couple of guys whilst I enjoyed a soak. One happy to boast to me about how he has “basically had every woman in here”, the other saying he’s “not leaving before I’ve had something tonight”, and all the while, other single guys popping their heads around the corner, then disappearing because no women were in the tub. It made me feel quite low to be a single guy in a club, so I got showered and left…..  | |||
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"I would love to go to some clubs. But not on my own. " try a couples and single females night to start with.. not got the single guys that way.. ease you in gently | |||
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"I have been to clubs alone, and just met people along the way who become really good friends. For me clubs are the best of both worlds a night out with the added twist of swinging. Get dressed up (and down) lots of sexy people, feel safe, no pressure and no time wasted cos either way you have a good time. Yes the costs are more expensive for single guys but it kinda balances with what women pay to prep for a night out nails, wax, lingerie etc. I’d happily pay more to attend clubs. X It costs more for single guys that can’t be true ?
Yep to keep the numbers down
Actually…. Not legally true!
Rather than thinking of it as couples paying the norm and single men paying a premium, think of it as single men paying the norm and couples paying a reduced rate to encourage more of them to go!
Anyway as a single man, I am spending less going to a club than I am spending on a night out in a city centre
Guys want to complain about comparisons but it’s depending on what you are comparing to….
I am not begrudging anyone paying less than me if the effect is getting more people through those doors!
If you took the sex out of the equation or should I say free sex that’s potentially on offer would you feel the same ? I don’t solely blame clubs for this and it is a example of the wider issues encountered within the swinging community in terms of how women, men and couples approach it all also, men need to be less desperate to empty their balls to the point that they would willingly accept this total BS.
There’s no guarantee of sex. Guys go because they want to go.
Are you seriously gonna try and convince us single men go because they don’t expect to get some form of sexual contact here ?
Absolutely!!!! That why we say to every single person who goes… men women and couples.. go with an open mind and no expectations!!
If you want guaranteed sex… there are plenty of adverts in local papers where you can get that!
What you are paying for when you go to a club are the facilities… that why I use the sauna, that why I used the Hottub, people go to use the dungeons ect!
Not only do clubs have potential play areas they are a great place to network, they are great places to socialise
If anyone went to a club with the “empty their balls” mindset.. I would suggest that clubs are not for them! You also tend to be able to sense that sort of attitude a mile off as well
And there I was, only two weeks ago; sitting in the hot tub in Club f, on their Newbies Friday night ‘event’. I chatted with a couple of guys whilst I enjoyed a soak. One happy to boast to me about how he has “basically had every woman in here”, the other saying he’s “not leaving before I’ve had something tonight”, and all the while, other single guys popping their heads around the corner, then disappearing because no women were in the tub. It made me feel quite low to be a single guy in a club, so I got showered and left….. "Fair play on saying that and providing a balanced view to it and also the fact you left, all too often In these threads I’ve seen people thinking its their way or the high way and they potentially haven’t even read what’s been said properly and become defensive just because they are so staunchly for the given topic. Respect on providing balance and honesty | |||
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"Decent clubs I might join but many are far from me. So would need to be planned. Yes, expensive. Daunting first time round, went to the one in back of beyond. Only go if you feel its right op. " Yeah I don’t think it’s for us, thanks for your response though | |||
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"Mixed views; can be hit and miss. Have had some good nights where we’ve met hot people and played, or even if not just chatted and enjoyed the environment etc. Have had some nights where while nothing bad has happened, we just haven’t felt it. Either it might be that there’s nobody we’d “fancy” trying our luck with or that there were creepy single guys killing our mood. We usually go on couples’ nights to avoid that issue. We like the relaxed atmosphere and the fact I can make Mrs make as much noise as much as she wants without the neighbours or kids hearing. Oh and the wipe down beds are good too. We don’t always play (last meet was years ago) so sometimes we’ve just watched or got a private room (much prefer clubs with these) or gone home to fuck or even stopping en route
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"Cheers guys. Looking to do one within the next few weeks all being well. " hope you enjoy x | |||
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"Cheers guys. Looking to do one within the next few weeks all being well.
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"There's loads of reasons we only have meets a clubs.... - what happens there stays there - no random strangers coming to our home. - no visiting strangers Houses with no idea if it's safe or clean. - no pressure to play at clubs - safe environment at clubs - it's a night out - you get a much better idea about somebody meeting them in person rather than just a picture online. - we enjoy socialising with people we feel we can speak to freely and have things in common with them. The lists endless
Not a single negative ?
Not for us. Works really well especially when it comes to safety.
Would you say the swinging community is pretty distrusting ? I am not saying that in a bad way just we are finding that especially on fab "No I wouldn't say that but the problem is you never know 100% that people are genuine on here or any other site. | |||
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"We're pretty new to clubs and only been to 2 in blackpool. There what you want to make of them. Take a seat grab a drink and people perv sorry meant watch. Then go for a walk about and either plat or just hang out.we find the voyeurs room in club play lots of fun knowing people are watching. We've yet to leave the door unlocked lol our only gripe is the guys that follow you all over playing with themselves. So if a couple maybe we will try a couple night. But as for wanting to know just do it you'll either like it or hate it. Either way make sure it's always fun. We’ve heard that about blokes and to be fair find it pretty off putting and for us seems as if the clubs are no better than Fab in that regard This is more of a problem in some venues than others. Pandora for instance has a couples and single ladies only floor "Is that the leeds one | |||
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"We're pretty new to clubs and only been to 2 in blackpool. There what you want to make of them. Take a seat grab a drink and people perv sorry meant watch. Then go for a walk about and either plat or just hang out.we find the voyeurs room in club play lots of fun knowing people are watching. We've yet to leave the door unlocked lol our only gripe is the guys that follow you all over playing with themselves. So if a couple maybe we will try a couple night. But as for wanting to know just do it you'll either like it or hate it. Either way make sure it's always fun. We’ve heard that about blokes and to be fair find it pretty off putting and for us seems as if the clubs are no better than Fab in that regard This is more of a problem in some venues than others. Pandora for instance has a couples and single ladies only floor
Is that the leeds one "Yep, it's in Armley | |||
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"We're pretty new to clubs and only been to 2 in blackpool. There what you want to make of them. Take a seat grab a drink and people perv sorry meant watch. Then go for a walk about and either plat or just hang out.we find the voyeurs room in club play lots of fun knowing people are watching. We've yet to leave the door unlocked lol our only gripe is the guys that follow you all over playing with themselves. So if a couple maybe we will try a couple night. But as for wanting to know just do it you'll either like it or hate it. Either way make sure it's always fun. We’ve heard that about blokes and to be fair find it pretty off putting and for us seems as if the clubs are no better than Fab in that regard This is more of a problem in some venues than others. Pandora for instance has a couples and single ladies only floor
Is that the leeds one "There are 2 in Leeds. Pandora is one of them yes. I have a HUGE party there this Sat if that's the kind of thing you are looking for. If not I hope you find what you want | |||
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