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By *i4bicpls OP   Man
over a year ago

Darwen

I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

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By *udandBryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston

Simple case of supply and demand.

If you don't like it, don't go.

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By *i4bicpls OP   Man
over a year ago

Darwen


"Simple case of supply and demand.

If you don't like it, don't go."

An expected and typical answer.

Try putting yourself in the position of a single man.

Or maybe imagine if the shoe was on the other foot, and couples or single ladies had to pay the highest prices.

Then you might actually have a different opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simple case of supply and demand.

If you don't like it, don't go.

An expected and typical answer.

Try putting yourself in the position of a single man.

Or maybe imagine if the shoe was on the other foot, and couples or single ladies had to pay the highest prices.

Then you might actually have a different opinion."

It is simply that - supply and demand. It’s about business end of the day and as long as single guys are prepared to pay more that’s how it is. Fair? No.

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Men are charged more because they want the sniff of sex and to walk around being ignored all night. Women are there as sex bait so get in cheaper/ free, whether on their own or in a 'couple'.

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By *ustforshow25Couple
over a year ago

Leatherhead


"If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

"

This.

Higher prices for women/couples would likely mean less in attendance, so a lot of guys are happier to pay the higher price.

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By *i4bicpls OP   Man
over a year ago

Darwen


"If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

This.

Higher prices for women/couples would likely mean less in attendance, so a lot of guys are happier to pay the higher price. "

Or you charge everyone the same and limit the numbers attending. If a club is more than willing to bulk up numbers of men attending and charge them more, and the result being crowds of men following people around making them feel uncomfortable. Is that not counter productive.

Either way, everyone goes to a club for basically exploring and fulfilling their sexual inhibitions. So why should we all be charged different prices, some are extreme.

I understand the reasoning, but there are other ways of achieving the goal of controlling the number of single men attending a club without financially discriminating against them.

Maybe the club owners need to be more inclusive by making cost equal.

This is why we have the equality act. What's the point of having it, if people are picking and choosing when it applies.

I'm just glad the clubs I visit are more inclusive than some I could mention.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport

The clubs would make no money and close if single men stopped going.

But we know that will not happen so they get ripped off still.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

My detailed answer is in here. The question crops up a lot.

It's legal.

https://fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/1465703

A

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By *.T.Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

This.

Higher prices for women/couples would likely mean less in attendance, so a lot of guys are happier to pay the higher price.

Or you charge everyone the same and limit the numbers attending. If a club is more than willing to bulk up numbers of men attending and charge them more, and the result being crowds of men following people around making them feel uncomfortable. Is that not counter productive.

Either way, everyone goes to a club for basically exploring and fulfilling their sexual inhibitions. So why should we all be charged different prices, some are extreme.

I understand the reasoning, but there are other ways of achieving the goal of controlling the number of single men attending a club without financially discriminating against them.

Maybe the club owners need to be more inclusive by making cost equal.

This is why we have the equality act. What's the point of having it, if people are picking and choosing when it applies.

I'm just glad the clubs I visit are more inclusive than some I could mention."

So what criteria do you filter by?

Cock size?

Looks?

First come first served?

Build?

An extensive review and psychometric assessments?

Personal recommendation of a female or couple?

I think you are fighting windmills.

Whichever method is used to control numbers, someone won't be happy about it.

Clubs have to cover overheads, and if charging men more who are willing to pay achieves that then so be it.

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish

Some single guys don't want to pay the higher rate.

There are three choices (sorry to be blunt):

1. Pay up

2. Don't go

3. Get a girlfriend who also wants to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it

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By *oulou22Woman
over a year ago

Sutton

It could be argued that the costs of attending clubs are higher for women when you take into account outfits, lingerie and all the time and products involved in making ourselves club ready

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth, South west

I think it evens out a bit, couples pay more than single men and women tend to pay more for their outfits etc, clubs are getting double drinks money from couples as opposed to singles etc...

I see it from both sides, but its just one of those things in life, different rules and costs for guys and gals

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By *i4bicpls OP   Man
over a year ago

Darwen


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it"

There never a guarantee for anything to happen in a club, whether you're male or female.

Maybe ALL singles and couples should pay the same.

There plenty who believe that swinging is also social, and yes you can social outside the clubs.

Other than the sex, clubs also offer saunas, jacuzzi, bar, food and drink in some, and a room/bed to have fun in.

I don't think many would walk away from the club's just because the prices have been equalised.

Many play and meet in clubs because they don't want to take the play home, and want that separation.

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By *i4bicpls OP   Man
over a year ago

Darwen


"It could be argued that the costs of attending clubs are higher for women when you take into account outfits, lingerie and all the time and products involved in making ourselves club ready "

Not really.

What you wear has nothing to do with the club.

Just like going to a nightclub. We are all charged the same. Regardless of what you wear or your gender. And the same at the bar. Men tend to drink more, but they don't get charged any less.

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By *urboTongue21Man
over a year ago

Walsall

Most clubs are private members clubs so the club sets it's own rules including pricing. Totally legal and questionable if they would lose in court.

Political parties work on the same basis.

Most single gender clubs e.g. golf clubs have only allowed female membership because of campaigns for change not legal challenges.

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it"

Wrong....

The Equality Act which supercedes the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, applies differently to private members clubs.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Men are lucky to get in at all. Most would pay twice as much

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By *wosmilersCouple
over a year ago

Heathrowish


"Most clubs are private members clubs so the club sets it's own rules including pricing. Totally legal and questionable if they would lose in court.

Political parties work on the same basis.

Most single gender clubs e.g. golf clubs have only allowed female membership because of campaigns for change not legal challenges."

Absolutely...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some single guys don't want to pay the higher rate.

There are three choices (sorry to be blunt):

1. Pay up

2. Don't go

3. Get a girlfriend who also wants to go."

Take the sex bait for a guaranteed fuck and cheaper entry. Win win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to attend a ladies only gym. I payed a lot more the membership than for the mixed ones that were on offer. Nobody forced me to me opt to pay the extra fees, I actively did it because it's where I wanted to go. That's the beauty of freedom of choice

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By *ustforshow25Couple
over a year ago

Leatherhead


"If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

This.

Higher prices for women/couples would likely mean less in attendance, so a lot of guys are happier to pay the higher price.

Or you charge everyone the same and limit the numbers attending. If a club is more than willing to bulk up numbers of men attending and charge them more, and the result being crowds of men following people around making them feel uncomfortable. Is that not counter productive.

Either way, everyone goes to a club for basically exploring and fulfilling their sexual inhibitions. So why should we all be charged different prices, some are extreme.

I understand the reasoning, but there are other ways of achieving the goal of controlling the number of single men attending a club without financially discriminating against them.

Maybe the club owners need to be more inclusive by making cost equal.

This is why we have the equality act. What's the point of having it, if people are picking and choosing when it applies.

I'm just glad the clubs I visit are more inclusive than some I could mention."

I get where you're coming from, but the fact is they need the women and couples to get the men to attend regardless of the price point, and the easiest way to do that is by offering discounted entry.

How would you propose they set up the entrance to make it fairer?

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By *exy and HotCouple
over a year ago

St Albans


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Boringly this topic crops up again and again!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

"

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man's two year old pair of pants cost far less than a full lingerie set. It all balances out.

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By *omtom7Man
over a year ago

Tralee

Two year old pants, look at the big spenders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

The other methods of controlling single guys tends to lead to a few selected men being invited.

Usually the same guys week after week.

You should raise your point loudly and frequently with everyone in every club that you go to though just to be sure that your point is fully appreciated.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England

OP

Go to the clubs that don't charge more for single men. Simple as that. Clubs charge what they deem necessary to cover their overheads.

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

This is literally the first time this has ever been discussed here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to a club where males pay alot less to get in and guess what. The place was crawling with mouth breathers all expecting things to happen just because they were in a club.

Fast forward to another night where the club charges more and the single gents there are polite and made more of an effort than any of the undateables in the other club.

Not pure science granted but it's pretty obvious you charge a higher price to a market you have more of you are going to out the bad bunch and attract the more serious folk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the price was same for all, then the numbers inside would likely be more men women ratio. Nobody wants that especially us ugly men who don’t need the competition. Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it

There never a guarantee for anything to happen in a club, whether you're male or female.

Maybe ALL singles and couples should pay the same.

There plenty who believe that swinging is also social, and yes you can social outside the clubs.

Other than the sex, clubs also offer saunas, jacuzzi, bar, food and drink in some, and a room/bed to have fun in.

I don't think many would walk away from the club's just because the prices have been equalised.

Many play and meet in clubs because they don't want to take the play home, and want that separation.

"

You know there's no guarantee of anything hapening, and I know there's no guarantee of anyting happening, but, as with a lot of men joining fab, there's unrealistic expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe offering free condoms would help negate the extra cost

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By *hades Of GreyMan
over a year ago

Leeds


"

I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club ...

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Quest in Leeds have a greedy girl night where mf couples and single ladies get free entrance, men pay £30. It's the best night they have!

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

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By *inda May SimmonsTV/TS
over a year ago

hexham

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

Erm

Well I kind of enjoy being followed around by wanking zombies and groups of guys who want to use me for sex!

Oooh does that make me really bad?

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"

I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club ...

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

Quest in Leeds have a greedy girl night where mf couples and single ladies get free entrance, men pay £30. It's the best night they have!"

. In North London we have OP4F.Tuesday is greedy girl night and something similar to Quest single guys £30 couples £20 single girls free.Friday is a normal club night single guys £50 couples £30 single girls free.Saturday is couples with 5-6 select single guys single guys £80 couples £40 single girls free.Tuesday and Friday all both well attended and are both good nights out.Saturday I have not been for a long time but when I did attend they were good nights and from what I hear from other club members are still good nights.

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


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The Equality Act which supercedes the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, applies differently to private members clubs.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics. "

Ahhh, thanks for this explanation - so it's not that they charge single men more, it's that they offer a "membership benefit" of a discounted rate to single women.

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By *g1979Man
over a year ago

bexley

I remember at a club where you had a guy complaining to staff that he had paid £40 to get in but no had had sex with him so he wanted a refund.

Funny old world.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Stick to bi male-only events (Townhouse hold these for example), then you’ll pay the same as everyone else in the club.

You’re pretty much guaranteed a fuck too

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

It costs us married guys lots to dress wives in the clothes they wear , my wife likes to put an effort in when attending clubs , guys may pay £5/10 more for entry , I don’t think that is too much more , I would not complain when attending without my wife , and some nights they pay same amount , we could say why should we pay anything as a couple when single women get in free , the club we use has great facilities (jaydees) so no complaints on price from us

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Simple case of supply and demand.

If you don't like it, don't go.

An expected and typical answer.

Try putting yourself in the position of a single man.

Or maybe imagine if the shoe was on the other foot, and couples or single ladies had to pay the highest prices.

Then you might actually have a different opinion."

As a single man who's visited several clubs, I'm happy to pay a higher entry tariff.

I understand why we tend to pay more and what legislation applies.

If I didn't like it, I wouldn't go.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

If you’re that upset about it then commence legal action.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone feels that clubs have it all wrong, and you have all the answers.

Why not aim to set up your own club with your own rules.

Surely it'll pay off so well, it'll be worth the venture.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"

As a single man who's visited several clubs, I'm happy to pay a higher entry tariff.

I understand why we tend to pay more and what legislation applies.

If I didn't like it, I wouldn't go."

I’ve visited several clubs as a single guy myself, and accept whatever the cost of entry is, it’s my choice whether I pay it or not, for a different experience and surroundings to the usual Friday night out.

I would prefer to be treated as an equal once inside though, something which was sadly lacking on most occasions…

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By *rufflesCouple
over a year ago

manchester


"If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

This.

Higher prices for women/couples would likely mean less in attendance, so a lot of guys are happier to pay the higher price.

Or you charge everyone the same and limit the numbers attending. If a club is more than willing to bulk up numbers of men attending and charge them more, and the result being crowds of men following people around making them feel uncomfortable. Is that not counter productive.

Either way, everyone goes to a club for basically exploring and fulfilling their sexual inhibitions. So why should we all be charged different prices, some are extreme.

I understand the reasoning, but there are other ways of achieving the goal of controlling the number of single men attending a club without financially discriminating against them.

Maybe the club owners need to be more inclusive by making cost equal.

This is why we have the equality act. What's the point of having it, if people are picking and choosing when it applies.

I'm just glad the clubs I visit are more inclusive than some I could mention."

Clubs are privately owned and provide a service.

Equality act has no bearing on (privately owned) public services.

My wife pays £40++ each visit to her hairdresser ....I pay around £15 to mine....should I stand outside with my "sex equality banner"??

If your not happy....don't go!!!

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Because no one has sued. That's how these things change.

If you're willing to identify yourself by your real name as a swinger who is bothered enough by this to take legal action - in open court in public documents - knock yourself out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The Clubs we attend are 'Private Members

Clubs' and under The Equality Act different rules apply.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics.

It would, however, be illegal to refuse someone membership because of a protected characteristic if it is not directly relevant to the club’s membership entry requirements. For example, a gentleman’s club can refuse to admit a woman but cannot refuse to admit a man as a member because of their sexual orientation.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

OP, swinging is not a cheap hobby, and sadly many more men are happy to attend swingers clubs than women or couples. Therefore, there has to be the difference in price or the clubs would be overrun by men.

The hairdressing example is a good one- a man pays £10-15, comes in looking like a homeless person, comes out looking like a model (slight exaggeration but you get my point). A woman goes in for just a haircut, comes out looking like nothing has been done, but is at least £40 in. Where is gender equality there?

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Hythe


"The Clubs we attend are 'Private Members

Clubs' and under The Equality Act different rules apply.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics.

It would, however, be illegal to refuse someone membership because of a protected characteristic if it is not directly relevant to the club’s membership entry requirements. For example, a gentleman’s club can refuse to admit a woman but cannot refuse to admit a man as a member because of their sexual orientation."

Perfectly explained!

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it

Wrong....

The Equality Act which supercedes the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, applies differently to private members clubs.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics. "

From a club owners perspective that hears this a lot we are glad someone pointed out its perfectly legal to charge different prices as a private members club for different groups.

True story -

We once did an event and let EVERYONE in free on a Friday with a paid bar, guess what happened next? We got over run with way to many single men, the next one we limit numbers of single men and got the same argument, it was discrimination from the guys who couldn't get in with limited numbers.

The truth is single men are plenty and single ladies are not and why prices in clubs are the way they are. As someone has already said it's the law of supply & demand.

With the greatest respect to those guys who dont like the price's just don't go because it never going to change.

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By *havencoupleCouple
over a year ago

Essex

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By *netobeextraMan
over a year ago

location varies

OP I hear and I understand the frustration

From experience (appreciate everyone may have different experiences):

Where I’ve been to clubs with low single male entry fees (no place names mentioned) then you’ll tend to find yourself swarmed by a majority of males (very few females or couples). The males tend to follow each other around like wanking zombies, banging doors expecting to be let in to take part in private room action and it may as well be an all male venue

The higher entry fee reduces the single male ratio. The atmosphere is often better. Couples and singles are more likely to chat and engage with you rather than run and hide

For me, it’s a case of you get what you pay for in terms of an entry fee. Although you’re never guaranteed to find compatible partners to you play with whether you pay a higher fee or lower fee, it’s almost certainly a better experience to pay more if there’s a lower male ratio

But that’s just my humble opinion based on my own experiences

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it

Wrong....

The Equality Act which supercedes the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, applies differently to private members clubs.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics.

From a club owners perspective that hears this a lot we are glad someone pointed out its perfectly legal to charge different prices as a private members club for different groups.

True story -

We once did an event and let EVERYONE in free on a Friday with a paid bar, guess what happened next? We got over run with way to many single men, the next one we limit numbers of single men and got the same argument, it was discrimination from the guys who couldn't get in with limited numbers.

The truth is single men are plenty and single ladies are not and why prices in clubs are the way they are. As someone has already said it's the law of supply & demand.

With the greatest respect to those guys who dont like the price's just don't go because it never going to change. "

Exactly this

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By *uzie_jennifer_2TV/TS
over a year ago

near Wembley


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Start your own club charging the same to all attendees, you will have 100 men and no women

Welcome to the real world

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's wrong ethically and I hope that during my lifetime, such practices are seen as abhorrent. We should have full equality, of income, opportunities and services, etc

Steeped almost in ancient history, equality laws from the last century still have power. Private clubs were allowed exemptions, that other businesses didn't have.

Clubs may have greater male interest but should look for other ways to manage capacity, as some and other types of businesses do.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Its definetly discrimination against single men. Especially if a couple can enter a club cheaper then single men. Good thing I dont go to these things as they seem to end up being a sausage fest where it 10 guys to 1 women

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By *ames_SoloMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

It's expensive but I've got no problem with it, given the ratio.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its definetly discrimination against single men. Especially if a couple can enter a club cheaper then single men. Good thing I dont go to these things as they seem to end up being a sausage fest where it 10 guys to 1 women "

A couple MF can attend for less as they're still basically 'supplying' a female... Ironically, they would still be bringing the 'sausage fest' numbers down... Go figure

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
over a year ago

Salford

It is true

Companies that do this would be sued.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is true

Companies that do this would be sued.

"

Private clubs are recreation not a work space. And amazingly nobody batted an eye for a very long time when women got paid less... Suddenly its a big issue men have to fork out an extra £20 to lurk in a swingers club?... The horror

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By *eammeupMan
over a year ago

Wooburn


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Because it’s a lottery. Some cunts (you) are charged a high amount, other cunts (attached to women) pay less. Simples

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
over a year ago

Salford


"It is true

Companies that do this would be sued.

Private clubs are recreation not a work space. And amazingly nobody batted an eye for a very long time when women got paid less... Suddenly its a big issue men have to fork out an extra £20 to lurk in a swingers club?... The horror "

Enter the construction trade, lots of money to be had here over low level and middle level white collar jobs. I know an 18yo labourer that's on £620 a week so theres money to be had.

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
over a year ago

Salford


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

Because it’s a lottery. Some cunts (you) are charged a high amount, other cunts (attached to women) pay less. Simples"

I just game it, go with my female mates. I get in for cheaper, they get a bodyguard and they crash at mine. Win win. Guys in there buy the drinks and we go 5050 into the club and taxi home

Guys do that

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!


"It's wrong ethically and I hope that during my lifetime, such practices are seen as abhorrent. We should have full equality, of income, opportunities and services, etc

Steeped almost in ancient history, equality laws from the last century still have power. Private clubs were allowed exemptions, that other businesses didn't have.

Clubs may have greater male interest but should look for other ways to manage capacity, as some and other types of businesses do. "

Under your logic any type of managing of a male ratio would be discrimination so that argument would be null and void straight away.

The reason private members clubs have an exception in law is because they are private in nature for the members and not public like other binssness, it's really that simple.

If that was to change nearly every club in the land would be shut instantly and the whole swinging movement would move to private meets or ungrounded to unsafe unregulated private events.

Please all of you that are complaining we dare you to put your money where you mouths are and open a swingers club yourselves and charge everyone the same and see what happens?

If not just expect it's the way it is and don't attend clubs because its not changing anytime soon because its

just suicidal for any club to even consider it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

Because it’s a lottery. Some cunts (you) are charged a high amount, other cunts (attached to women) pay less. Simples

I just game it, go with my female mates. I get in for cheaper, they get a bodyguard and they crash at mine. Win win. Guys in there buy the drinks and we go 5050 into the club and taxi home

Guys do that"

Do you also purchase couples membership every time with them? Because that seems less cost effective than just stumping up the extra to attend alone to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is true

Companies that do this would be sued.

Private clubs are recreation not a work space. And amazingly nobody batted an eye for a very long time when women got paid less... Suddenly its a big issue men have to fork out an extra £20 to lurk in a swingers club?... The horror

Enter the construction trade, lots of money to be had here over low level and middle level white collar jobs. I know an 18yo labourer that's on £620 a week so theres money to be had."

And a body totally screwed by the age of 50.

Work with your head not your strength.

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By *hycouple18Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

We understand what u saying and we agree to a point it should be same price but limited that’s why we try and just go clubs on couples nights now as too many times when we been any other time we been followed about with not just one or two but pack full of single males expecting get laid because they paid over the odds to get in and want something in return for their money and the social part out as they just want sit there with cock in hand hoping someone will help them sometimes we just like go along and chill out not always wanting play and when full guys u can’t even chill as they think female is pice of meat so spoils it for all good single guys who just go along social

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This subject comes up again and again and again, there is always talk of different legislation, but nobody ever seems to mention one bit of legislation which has been around for millennia and to the best of my knowledge has never been repealed. I speak of course of the “LIFE ISN’T FAIR” act.

There never has been, nor in my humble opinion will ever be, a level playing field. There have been ideals around “everyone being equal” such as socialism, but even that was(is) hierarchical.

I have previously been on the scene as a single guy, and yes, there was the disparity in cost of entry to a club for me as a single. As part of a couple, there is disparity between what we pay, and a single lady getting in for free.

There is so much in life where some things cost more than others. As cognitive beings, and living in a democracy, we are blessed with the gift of choice. If you don’t like it, choose not to go. Contrary to the apparently underlying feeling of entitlement in our society, nobody is entitled to things.

If you can gain understanding of the Life Isn’t Fair act you’ll enjoy your life more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and that post is from me (Fire) not my lovely lady

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1


"It is true

Companies that do this would be sued.

Private clubs are recreation not a work space. And amazingly nobody batted an eye for a very long time when women got paid less... Suddenly it’s a big issue men have to fork out an extra £20 to lurk in a swingers club?... The horror "

This.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

Also men are paying extortionate amount of money to a sex club with no gurantees that they laid in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Also men are paying extortionate amount of money to a sex club with no gurantees that they laid in there"

There is a difference between a sex club and a swingers club.

At a swingers club nobody is paying for sexual services or obliged to offer them, the entrance cost is to use the club facilities.

If men want a "guarantee" of sex they should either be booking a working girl or paying an exorbitant amount to go to one of the venues or events where they have "hostesses" to ensure all the paying gents get some "action".

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By *ustSomeDarkieMan
over a year ago

Salford


"It is true

Companies that do this would be sued.

Private clubs are recreation not a work space. And amazingly nobody batted an eye for a very long time when women got paid less... Suddenly it’s a big issue men have to fork out an extra £20 to lurk in a swingers club?... The horror

This. "

Hahaha men always have to pay. That's life. Why I'm very selective on what I spend my money and who on for example with dates it's all 50/50 even when ypu my girl. No free lunch

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea


"Also men are paying extortionate amount of money to a sex club with no gurantees that they laid in there"
This is one of the main issues it isn’t a sex club and just because men pay the entry the men that just don’t understand the lifestyle expect sex.

If clubs brought the price down it would be full of men with this kind of attitude.If you want guaranteed sex then visit a brothel .

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"Also men are paying extortionate amount of money to a sex club with no gurantees that they laid in there"
. There is a massive difference between a swingers club and a sex club.At a swingers club there has to be a mutual attraction or some sort of conversation / interaction for something sexual to happen.At a sex club the 3-6 single girls that are there are paid to provide a service.These two type of clubs can be hard to spot when you first come on to the swingers scene but as time goes on you notice the difference

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By *ischiefManaged69Couple
over a year ago

Preston


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

A few people have referenced the laws relating to this, and clarified that it's not illegal, just a system designed to make the most of those in it.

Like any other service, if no one bought it, it would either get cheaper or stop being provided.

First up, no single men bashing. You're just getting answers to a question you asked your fab peers.

If all single men stop going to clubs because they think the pricing is unfair, clubs would have a choice to make.

Like anything you pay for, the choice is yours. You can choose which clubs to go to, or choose not to go. This works the same as where you buy your groceries, and what brands you buy. There's just a much smaller selection of clubs, and you won't die if you don't go!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

When we’re all said and done, clubs are for couples. Single guys are an extra form of income for the club. Their presence is tolerated, rather than encouraged, for the revenue generated.

Based on my experiences of the club scene, there’s always more single ladies in your average Wetherspoons than any club I’ve been to, and I’ve always felt more welcome there as a single guy.

You pay your money, you take your choice

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

As a single female who has been attending clubs for over a decade, it was free for single ladies back then anytime of the week.

Now they do charge us something,as the running costs have gone up as has everything else, and there is a lot more single females attending clubs now than there used to be believe me.

As someone who runs a guestlist for an event even with the difference in price for single males, I have to close my single males list over a month before the event due to the huge amount of single males willing to pay the price you are moaning about, this is to try and stand a chance of balance in numbers.

Now these events have a massive single female following but if not managed I will end up with a sausage fest which then puts single female and couples off returning to the event, it's in a swingers club for swingers and not all of these people want 5 plus blokes to every lady in attendance.

So I think although you feel the price difference is unfair the 150 plus blokes willing to pay it to gain entry to an event proves it works for the clubs.

The busy nights at clubs are there bread and butter, on quite nights they don't even cover there running costs (they are not cheap to run).

Equal out the pay difference, you would have to put couples and singles female up (to cover running cost) you would have less single females in attendance and that means less couples though the door (they would attend socials and do home or hotel meets with select single males as not all couples want to meet single males they want a single female for that magic mff) meaning clubs would turn in to sausage fest and loss of business means clubs closing

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over a year ago


"When we’re all said and done, clubs are for couples. Single guys are an extra form of income for the club. Their presence is tolerated, rather than encouraged, for the revenue generated.

Based on my experiences of the club scene, there’s always more single ladies in your average Wetherspoons than any club I’ve been to, and I’ve always felt more welcome there as a single guy.

You pay your money, you take your choice "

I've been to clubs as a couple for years and understand what it can be like been harassed by the none talking wanking dead. Also we have met some amazing single guys over the years.

To flip it last year and this year I have been to clubs as a solo male and as long as you are polite, friendly, clean and fresh with all your own teeth and you actually understand and embrace the swinging lifestyle, thereby treating everyone with respect then you really shouldn't go far wrong.

Good social graces, intelligence and charm are also pretty helpful.

Every time I've attended a club as a solo male I've always been invited to play with couples and had a fantastic time on every visit.

KJ

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over a year ago

Personally, I believe that if pricing was matched across board, all genders, we'll see a shift in those attending.

First there would be more men with no understanding of swinging, and with the expectation that because they're there and have paid, they will get sex.

Look at some of the comments across the forum that assume that site support means a more guaranteed chance of a meet, for example.

I feel a club may then become oversaturated with opportunists with less actual swinger's, leading to less and less couples and single women visiting.

If men vote with their feet, I believe this may even attract more couples and single women, those that are put off by the opportunists, the wanking dead as they're sometimes referred to.

This I feel isn't far from accurate, and so the current system works.

If an opportunist visits and finds he has no luck, he may not return, whereas the ones that have an understanding of swinging may well get lucky and therefore come back again.

It's a way to steady the flow, and encourage fitting clientele.

This of course is only assumption, one I believe is a safe bet.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"It's wrong ethically and I hope that during my lifetime, such practices are seen as abhorrent. We should have full equality, of income, opportunities and services, etc

Steeped almost in ancient history, equality laws from the last century still have power. Private clubs were allowed exemptions, that other businesses didn't have.

Clubs may have greater male interest but should look for other ways to manage capacity, as some and other types of businesses do.

Under your logic any type of managing of a male ratio would be discrimination so that argument would be null and void straight away.

The reason private members clubs have an exception in law is because they are private in nature for the members and not public like other binssness, it's really that simple.

If that was to change nearly every club in the land would be shut instantly and the whole swinging movement would move to private meets or ungrounded to unsafe unregulated private events.

Please all of you that are complaining we dare you to put your money where you mouths are and open a swingers club yourselves and charge everyone the same and see what happens?

If not just expect it's the way it is and don't attend clubs because its not changing anytime soon because its

just suicidal for any club to even consider it."

Ultimately, clubs can manage their admissions, including needing advance requests for attendance. I'm glad I'm not having to do it and I feel for the clubs, such as the incredible Club Play.

I'm assuming that in my lifetime there will be greater restrictions imposed by law. For now, clubs have to do their best and I think we all wish them the best.

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By *rMrs84Couple
over a year ago

Doncaster


"

I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club ...

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

Quest in Leeds have a greedy girl night where mf couples and single ladies get free entrance, men pay £30. It's the best night they have!"

IF that’s your thing. Tell me how many ladies you get there.

We’ve never done a GG night there but know that if you go in the ‘bi Tuesdays’ the price difference is lower but you get a lot more men. Why? It’s a bi day you should get a solid number of bi ladies too but it just doesn’t work that way for whatever reason.

When attending as a couple or as a lady you get followed around for the afternoon by a pack of hungry guys who expect action just for paying to get in.

The higher price for guys on a ‘normal night’ does tend to put off the chancers who mistake swingers clubs for brothels and that increased scarcity of men following around brings in more ladies.

It just works.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it

Wrong....

The Equality Act which supercedes the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, applies differently to private members clubs.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics. "

I'm yet to hear of any such "clubs" canvassing their membership to attend the AGM. You can't cherry pick the bits you like and ignore the bits you don't. There are many regulatory requirements to opening and sustaining a private members club. My strong guess is that the huge majority of these knocking shops are complying with close to none of those requirements.

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By *harlieD69Man
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Simple case of supply and demand.

If you don't like it, don't go."

Such an intellectual reply

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By *harlieD69Man
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Simple case of supply and demand.

If you don't like it, don't go."

I don’t mind paying, Club owners are like pimps lol, they let the “ladies” and couples in for free cos they know they are gonna make the money from the single guys…

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Which clubs let couples in for free?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Because men pay it.

I don’t agree with it, I prefer a well controlled, selective guest list and would charge per person the same (so couples pay double a single).

But as long as men pay, it’ll continue.

I always couple up with men at clubs it’s allowed to get them in cheaper even if I don’t have any intention of playing

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
over a year ago

Midlothian

Personally, I think the volume of single men should be controlled by the amount of them allowed on the guest list, rather than charging them way more. But, I'm not a business-minded type, idk what works best, I'd just rather things were fair.

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By *redy81Man
over a year ago

London


"Personally, I think the volume of single men should be controlled by the amount of them allowed on the guest list, rather than charging them way more. But, I'm not a business-minded type, idk what works best, I'd just rather things were fair.

"

And then the same guys will shout "sexual discrimination" because they will be turned down at the door coz of number limits, while girls can go through.

I rather vote for ignoring overly sensitive snowflakes and enjoying our lives just as we did before this madness about looking for discrimination everywhere started.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keeping it simple.

No whining penny pincher will ever get to fuck my wife.

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By *awty_TwoCouple
over a year ago

Near Maidstone


"If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

"

Exactly this

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"

The Equality Act which supercedes the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, applies differently to private members clubs.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics.

Ahhh, thanks for this explanation - so it's not that they charge single men more, it's that they offer a "membership benefit" of a discounted rate to single women. "

That is the best way to look at it!

Men as the norm and others getting discounts to tempt to come along… rather that others paying norm and men being harshly treated….

It’s very much in the mindset.. I am not comparing myself to others, I am comparing to an equivalent activity…

It’s almost like the first test to see if men actually “get it “ rather than just run around like mute zombies

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames


"Keeping it simple.

No whining penny pincher will ever get to fuck my wife. "

a strong answer that is direct ... we are realists ... it is elasticity of demand (men will pay more, women and couples less)

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England


"Because men pay it.

I don’t agree with it, I prefer a well controlled, selective guest list and would charge per person the same (so couples pay double a single).

But as long as men pay, it’ll continue.

I always couple up with men at clubs it’s allowed to get them in cheaper even if I don’t have any intention of playing "

Surely as a club to get the same turnover you'd potentially end up with the same amount of single ladies, double or treble the single guys and very few couples.

For each couple that doesn't go you need to replace them with 2 single guys.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Personally, I think the volume of single men should be controlled by the amount of them allowed on the guest list, rather than charging them way more. But, I'm not a business-minded type, idk what works best, I'd just rather things were fair.

And then the same guys will shout "sexual discrimination" because they will be turned down at the door coz of number limits, while girls can go through.

I rather vote for ignoring overly sensitive snowflakes and enjoying our lives just as we did before this madness about looking for discrimination everywhere started."

If clubs were filled with ladies like Amanita, no man would complain about entry fees….

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By *ebauchery DivineWoman
over a year ago

Down in Dickleburgh Drive


"Keeping it simple.

No whining penny pincher will ever get to fuck my wife. "

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

Have you looked at swingers clubs abroad?

A huge number are couples only (and single women). Hell - there are clubs in the UK that are rhe same.

Would single men prefer that, because trust me - as has already been said clubs can survive without single men because many swingers simply aren't looking to meet them. Its why most mixed clubs split nights between couples and single women only and mixed nights. If no men were allowed it would boost the liklihood of some couples attending clubs. It would piss us off no end, but if the law was changed to prevent differential pricing then that kind of moe is a distinct possibility.

Be careful what you wish for because the solution could be one you don't like.

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By *breedyouMan
over a year ago

Chobham

At the end of the day private members clubs can charge what they like as it’s a members only club.

If you’re not a member you haven’t signed the terms and conditions.

Like many have said if you don’t like it don’t go.

After all it’s m sure a dogging spot or pay for a brass is another option?

No one wants a heard of walking dead zombies

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I disagree with the idea that higher prices brings in better behaviour from single guys- if anything it could raise someone's expectations a level.

Personally, if I pay more to enter a venue I expect more for my money. Not in terms of sex but in terms of atmosphere etc.

Also there's the risk that you price out decent singles and only get those who can (and are willing) to pay more. Swinging becomes an affluent activity.

I understand that single guys pay more, I just think that it's down to club owners and party organisers to be responsible and monitor the ratio sensibly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally understand why clubs do it and that it's largely a better experience for everyone when ratios are controlled but is it definitely legal?

If I started a golf club and the ladies membership was 3x the men's cost that would presumably be illegal? Is it legal because it's specifically due to higher demand from one demographic?

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.


"Keeping it simple.

No whining penny pincher will ever get to fuck my wife. "

...and what does your wife think about this?

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke

Parliamentary Bills

Gender-based Pricing (Prohibition) Bill

Private Members' Bill (Presentation Bill)

Originated in the House of Commons, Session May 2019-21

News - Gender-based Pricing (Prohibition)

The Bill failed to complete its passage through Parliament before the end of the session. This means the Bill will make no further progress.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Totally understand why clubs do it and that it's largely a better experience for everyone when ratios are controlled but is it definitely legal?

If I started a golf club and the ladies membership was 3x the men's cost that would presumably be illegal? Is it legal because it's specifically due to higher demand from one demographic?"

Yes it's legal. See all the previous posts explaining why.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly I cannot see a problem why we have to pay more. I would rather go to a club that's not a complete sausage fest at times

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


" I would rather go to a club that's not a complete sausage fest at times "

Can you recommend any?

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London

But the problem is when men do go these things and having to pay a lot more for it,99% of the time it is a sausage fest where its 30 men to 5 women for example. To me thats a very poor ratio

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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago

Fabville


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

"

Like women have never been discriminated against, ever...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Keeping it simple.

No whining penny pincher will ever get to fuck my wife.

...and what does your wife think about this? "

Seriously?

What do you imagine she thinks about fucking some guy that’s just had a huge moan to her about how much it cost him to get in the door compared to her.

She’s probably already wet at the prospect.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

People who run clubs explaing why is not discrimination and not illegal, why reducing male prices or raising female prices won't work.

Vs

People who don't go to clubs and have no intention of going to clubs saying it's illegal and an equal entry tariff will work.

Interesting discussion.

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By *ogloomMan
over a year ago

Levens

How about a "corking charge"? I'm sure it would be easy to get some voyeur volunteers to monitor and anyone popping their Cork gets an additional charge

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"People who run clubs explaing why is not discrimination and not illegal, why reducing male prices or raising female prices won't work.

Vs

People who don't go to clubs and have no intention of going to clubs saying it's illegal and an equal entry tariff will work.

Interesting discussion. "

. On another thread it looks like you are involved in starting up a event / club.I hope this thread is giving you a idea of what sort of pricing structure , ratio , type of nights / events you would be looking to run.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

If it isn’t a single man moaning about women ignoring and deleting the messages they thought would guarantee them a shag, it’s a single man moaning about entry prices.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Because men pay it.

I don’t agree with it, I prefer a well controlled, selective guest list and would charge per person the same (so couples pay double a single).

But as long as men pay, it’ll continue.

I always couple up with men at clubs it’s allowed to get them in cheaper even if I don’t have any intention of playing

Surely as a club to get the same turnover you'd potentially end up with the same amount of single ladies, double or treble the single guys and very few couples.

For each couple that doesn't go you need to replace them with 2 single guys. "

Well no, for each couple that doesn’t go you’d need to replace them with 2 people. If everyone paid the same.

If everyone paid per person and the guest list controlled then that’s a winner for me.

Couples not wanting to pay more could affect turnover… but I bet the parties would be much classier of genuine people willing to pay… look at KK prices

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Wah wah wah. Yet another thread on the same thing. We live in the world we live in, not the one we want to live in.

The cost for single men is a double-edged sword… too high a cost and they feel like they’re owed sex. These same people feel like they don’t need to and shouldn’t have to pay a Pro. In the next breath they’re demanding refunds because their thirst attitude leads to not getting laid.

Too low, and there is no way to control a guest list and we get broke, unclean, low involvement thirsty zombies.

Too often single men forget what swinging is, and that this is most often a swinging activity not a sex club. If you want a sex club, go to a specific club night/club. Once again, do your research, no one owes you anything. More often than not, it’s swinging not hedonism in swing clubs (and on here) which should come as no surprise, but surprisingly often seems to.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"People who run clubs explaing why is not discrimination and not illegal, why reducing male prices or raising female prices won't work.

Vs

People who don't go to clubs and have no intention of going to clubs saying it's illegal and an equal entry tariff will work.

Interesting discussion. "

It's like being in the Virus forum when microbiologists and people with scientific backgrounds argue with folk who watch YouTube videos......

A

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By *oyahandrussCouple
over a year ago

Nr Rugby

There are clubs that charge the same for single guys as couples.We have been to them

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By *urboTongue21Man
over a year ago

Walsall

I am fascinated as to why this thread is still going...private members clubs have their own rules for which there is a right to challenge via the courts. Anyone wishing to do this fine, otherwise its a moot debate.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley

Personally I won't pay beyond 40 I think it's ridiculous. I do object to women being free as that's just bait and they use the club the same as everyone else. Couple prices are about the same as a single guy! So guess who you're paying for!!! Lol

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By *atEvolutionCouple
over a year ago

atlantisEVOLUTION Swingers Club. Stoke


"I am fascinated as to why this thread is still going...private members clubs have their own rules for which there is a right to challenge via the courts. Anyone wishing to do this fine, otherwise its a moot debate."

'Parliamentary Bills

Gender-based Pricing (Prohibition) Bill

Private Members' Bill (Presentation Bill)

Originated in the House of Commons, Session May 2019-21

News - Gender-based Pricing (Prohibition)

The Bill failed to complete its passage through Parliament before the end of the session. This means the Bill will make no further progress.'

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By *ris smithMan
over a year ago

Southend On Sea

They have to make it worthwhile you wouldn't get the nos otherwise

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!


"There are clubs that charge the same for single guys as couples.We have been to them "

We charge the same for single men as couples with free membership for all.

What most singles men are arguing for is to pay the same as single ladies or for everyone to pay completely the same price which is impossible.

As we have already said, we have tried it and it simply does not work in a swingers club at all.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"People who run clubs explaing why is not discrimination and not illegal, why reducing male prices or raising female prices won't work.

Vs

People who don't go to clubs and have no intention of going to clubs saying it's illegal and an equal entry tariff will work.

Interesting discussion.

It's like being in the Virus forum when microbiologists and people with scientific backgrounds argue with folk who watch YouTube videos......

A"

I wonder if on the virus forum, your inbox gets filled up with uninformed nonsense, by people without the courage of their convictions to post on the thread.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"People who run clubs explaing why is not discrimination and not illegal, why reducing male prices or raising female prices won't work.

Vs

People who don't go to clubs and have no intention of going to clubs saying it's illegal and an equal entry tariff will work.

Interesting discussion.

It's like being in the Virus forum when microbiologists and people with scientific backgrounds argue with folk who watch YouTube videos......

A

I wonder if on the virus forum, your inbox gets filled up with uninformed nonsense, by people without the courage of their convictions to post on the thread. "

...often yes

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Personally I won't pay beyond 40 I think it's ridiculous. I do object to women being free as that's just bait and they use the club the same as everyone else. Couple prices are about the same as a single guy! So guess who you're paying for!!! Lol "

The last time I went to Townhouse, I got a lift in with one of the female hosts. As we checked in, the person on reception said "£10 please" to her, then "£30 please" to me. I looked at my feet, then hers, and said; "It looks like I'm using three times the floor space as you".....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"But the problem is when men do go these things and having to pay a lot more for it,99% of the time it is a sausage fest where its 30 men to 5 women for example. To me thats a very poor ratio"

Totally agree - I’d much rather it was 30 men to 1 woman (me)

Smoke

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Its definetly discrimination against single men. Especially if a couple can enter a club cheaper then single men. Good thing I dont go to these things as they seem to end up being a sausage fest where it 10 guys to 1 women "

If you don't go to clubs how do you know they're a sausage fest?

Genuinely curious.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"But the problem is when men do go these things and having to pay a lot more for it,99% of the time it is a sausage fest where its 30 men to 5 women for example. To me thats a very poor ratio"

Pick better events.

8 years clubbing and never a “sausage fest”

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By *am and johnCouple
over a year ago

york

Perhaps aggrieved males would care to pursue a discrimination case through the courts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hulu say sausage fest we say choice

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

As said by a few, it’s swings n roundabouts.

Ladies will always be spending money on products to look good, whether it be make up, lingerie, a new dress to wear, new shoes. Then the cost of getting there and drinks etc inside.

Couples will have that cost, plus entrance and then drinks etc inside.

Single men have their expenses too.

As a female who’s attended on my own and with my hubby, there’s nothing worse than the wanking brigade who follow from room to room thinking they’re entitled to a fuck because they’ve paid entrance fee. Us females do not get a share of your entrance fee if we fuck you.

Everyone is there to meet new people and enjoy the evening. We all have our own expectations and expenses. If you’re not happy spending the money, then don’t go

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"But the problem is when men do go these things and having to pay a lot more for it,99% of the time it is a sausage fest where its 30 men to 5 women for example. To me thats a very poor ratio

Totally agree - I’d much rather it was 30 men to 1 woman (me)

Smoke "

Well you're just plain greedy aint you lool

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Personally, I think price’s should be proportionate to entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've noticed single men very often have to pay more to enter a club.

Surely this is sexual discrimination!

There are other ways of controlling the number if single men who enter a club.

At the end of the day single men get the same as everyone else once through the doors.

So why is this practice allowed to continue?

Men are charged more because they want the sniff of sex and to walk around being ignored all night. Women are there as sex bait so get in cheaper/ free, whether on their own or in a 'couple'. "

I like your description of women as "sex bait" - gave me a giggle

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop baiting me while I’m trying to bate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop baiting me while I’m trying to bate. "

Oh, I do apologise....

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t mean stop!

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood

Would you rather they raised the price for single women and couples to same as men and thus encouraging less females in? But on plus side be more room for single men for you to talk to all night about football

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By *he fab twoCouple
over a year ago

brentwood


"As said by a few, it’s swings n roundabouts.

Ladies will always be spending money on products to look good, whether it be make up, lingerie, a new dress to wear, new shoes. Then the cost of getting there and drinks etc inside.

Couples will have that cost, plus entrance and then drinks etc inside.

Single men have their expenses too.

As a female who’s attended on my own and with my hubby, there’s nothing worse than the wanking brigade who follow from room to room thinking they’re entitled to a fuck because they’ve paid entrance fee. Us females do not get a share of your entrance fee if we fuck you.

Everyone is there to meet new people and enjoy the evening. We all have our own expectations and expenses. If you’re not happy spending the money, then don’t go"

Well said! Never thought about Cody of a girl getting ready before but true! Us men can wear same 5 shirts for years to go out lol

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I disagree with the idea that higher prices brings in better behaviour from single guys- if anything it could raise someone's expectations a level.

Personally, if I pay more to enter a venue I expect more for my money. Not in terms of sex but in terms of atmosphere etc.

Also there's the risk that you price out decent singles and only get those who can (and are willing) to pay more. Swinging becomes an affluent activity.

I understand that single guys pay more, I just think that it's down to club owners and party organisers to be responsible and monitor the ratio sensibly."

Here is the thing….

The pricing isn’t actually stopping you going to a club…. It’s then stopping you from going to a club as often as you would like!

And like all things in life if you want to do something more… then budget! You budget for a holiday, or that new tablet… do you really need that movie package ect….

Yes there are elements of general swinging price structures that annoy me like paying membership on visit 1… especially if you are in the area visiting and are not likely to come back in the year is extremely punitive and doesn’t really encourage people to try

Generally clubs have different prices for different days to try and attract different people and different atmospheres

I don’t begrudge anyone paying less than me, I compare my prices to what I could be doing otherwise.. I mean going to a city centre on the lash isn’t cheap by any stretch

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

The Equality Act 2010 makes it illegal to discriminate against someone because of certain ‘protected characteristics’. 

The Act defines discrimination as being where someone treats another less favourably than they treat others because of a protected characteristic such as:

* Sex

* Disability 

* Gender reassignment – this includes individuals proposing to undergo, undergoing or having undergone a process to change their sex.

* Pregnancy and maternity 

* Age

* Race –this includes ethnic or national origins, 

* Colour and nationality 

* Religion or belief – this includes lack of belief 

* Sexual orientation

 

The Equality Act applies to any business in England, Scotland and Wales that provides goods, facilities or services to members of the public. These are known as ‘service providers’ and include nighttime economy businesses, such as nightclubs, bars and pubs. 

The Equality Act applies differently to private members clubs rather than nightclubs, pubs and bars. 

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as Sex

So I guess they can and they will continue to do so to keep the balance right and the tills ringing.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

A different point and perspective.

Say it costs £1,500 a night to keep a club open, rent, rates, utilities, staff etc.

That club will be licensed for x number of people to enter.

The club then has to decide how to recover the £1,500 from x bums on seats. That's going to be single men, single women and couples.

It sets the tariff for each and crosses its fingers that numbers turn up.

Set the tariff for women too high and they won't attend.

Set the tariff for men to low and too many will turn up, too high and they won't.

All the time trying to find the right mix and balance of attendees, and still hit the turnover it needs to stay open.

We constantly read that "men pay too much", most often by men.

Can't recall anyone suggesting women or couples should pay more.

Men calling for equality by lowering their entrance fee. Men never complain that ladies should pay the same as men.....

How odd.

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By *eandmrsjones69Couple
over a year ago

Middle England


"Because men pay it.

I don’t agree with it, I prefer a well controlled, selective guest list and would charge per person the same (so couples pay double a single).

But as long as men pay, it’ll continue.

I always couple up with men at clubs it’s allowed to get them in cheaper even if I don’t have any intention of playing

Surely as a club to get the same turnover you'd potentially end up with the same amount of single ladies, double or treble the single guys and very few couples.

For each couple that doesn't go you need to replace them with 2 single guys.

Well no, for each couple that doesn’t go you’d need to replace them with 2 people. If everyone paid the same.

If everyone paid per person and the guest list controlled then that’s a winner for me.

Couples not wanting to pay more could affect turnover… but I bet the parties would be much classier of genuine people willing to pay… look at KK prices "

I disagree with your point that paying equally is going to materially affect the amount of women that attend.

We regularly attend clubs. Single guys attend and play with Mrs. If no guys are there we can still enjoy a good night. If you alienate the couples that's going adversely affect the turnover.

I can't believe that clubs haven't experimented with pricing structures/controlling guest lists over the years. What might work in one club/area might not in another and they adjust to what from experience works best for them.

It would be interesting to know if any clubs do charge per person.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton


"A different point and perspective.

Say it costs £1,500 a night to keep a club open, rent, rates, utilities, staff etc.

That club will be licensed for x number of people to enter.

The club then has to decide how to recover the £1,500 from x bums on seats. That's going to be single men, single women and couples.

It sets the tariff for each and crosses its fingers that numbers turn up.

Set the tariff for women too high and they won't attend.

Set the tariff for men to low and too many will turn up, too high and they won't.

All the time trying to find the right mix and balance of attendees, and still hit the turnover it needs to stay open.

We constantly read that "men pay too much", most often by men.

Can't recall anyone suggesting women or couples should pay more.

Men calling for equality by lowering their entrance fee. Men never complain that ladies should pay the same as men.....

How odd. "

. It’s a very tricky dilemma for club owners to get it right.Let’s play devils advocate if a club needs to make £1500 a night to stay open and pay salaries , rent , rates , utilities if they charged everyone £15 they would need 100 people to attend.Of those 100 my guess at those prices 70 would be some single guys 10 would be couples and 10 single ladies.This is really just a guess so perhaps the best people to answer if this type of business model is sustainable / profitable are club owners.Just to point out as a single guy when I go to OP4F I pay £30 on a Tuesday and £50 on a Friday and I am not complaining about what I pay as I go with the attitude to have a good night out no expectations no disappointments.

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over a year ago


"But the problem is when men do go these things and having to pay a lot more for it,99% of the time it is a sausage fest where its 30 men to 5 women for example. To me thats a very poor ratio

Totally agree - I’d much rather it was 30 men to 1 woman (me)

Smoke Well you're just plain greedy aint you lool"

Is that a bad thing ?

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley

If men don’t want to pay it then they can always vote with their feet.

There is inequality in other areas of life too, for example my wife pays £70 for a haircut! I pay a fiver….

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"If men don’t want to pay it then they can always vote with their feet.

There is inequality in other areas of life too, for example my wife pays £70 for a haircut! I pay a fiver…."

Female porn stars get paid 5 to 10 times as much as Male porn stars. Men should boycott porn until this is rectified! Men should lay on the M25 with "porn equality" banners.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"A different point and perspective.

Say it costs £1,500 a night to keep a club open, rent, rates, utilities, staff etc.

That club will be licensed for x number of people to enter.

The club then has to decide how to recover the £1,500 from x bums on seats. That's going to be single men, single women and couples.

It sets the tariff for each and crosses its fingers that numbers turn up.

Set the tariff for women too high and they won't attend.

Set the tariff for men to low and too many will turn up, too high and they won't.

All the time trying to find the right mix and balance of attendees, and still hit the turnover it needs to stay open.

We constantly read that "men pay too much", most often by men.

Can't recall anyone suggesting women or couples should pay more.

Men calling for equality by lowering their entrance fee. Men never complain that ladies should pay the same as men.....

How odd. . It’s a very tricky dilemma for club owners to get it right.Let’s play devils advocate if a club needs to make £1500 a night to stay open and pay salaries , rent , rates , utilities if they charged everyone £15 they would need 100 people to attend.Of those 100 my guess at those prices 70 would be some single guys 10 would be couples and 10 single ladies.This is really just a guess so perhaps the best people to answer if this type of business model is sustainable / profitable are club owners.Just to point out as a single guy when I go to OP4F I pay £30 on a Tuesday and £50 on a Friday and I am not complaining about what I pay as I go with the attitude to have a good night out no expectations no disappointments."

And that's one way the formula falls down, the number of people who the licence allows in.

If its only 75 people it can get very tricky.

Say 5 men at £40 and 10 women at £10 each. If only 4 men turn up the club would have to find 4 more women.

If everyone pays £10 (which is what some people here are suggesting) the club needs to find 150 bums on seats.

If its only licenced for 75 people it'll close within a week.

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By *lkShaftMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"It could be argued that the costs of attending clubs are higher for women when you take into account outfits, lingerie and all the time and products involved in making ourselves club ready "

Thats a ridiclous comment to make, women dress up every day for various reasons including going to work

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By *lkShaftMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it

There never a guarantee for anything to happen in a club, whether you're male or female.

Maybe ALL singles and couples should pay the same.

There plenty who believe that swinging is also social, and yes you can social outside the clubs.

Other than the sex, clubs also offer saunas, jacuzzi, bar, food and drink in some, and a room/bed to have fun in.

I don't think many would walk away from the club's just because the prices have been equalised.

Many play and meet in clubs because they don't want to take the play home, and want that separation.

"

This

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By *lkShaftMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"Men are lucky to get in at all. Most would pay twice as much "

Really

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see both sides but at the end of the day

1.Women can have anyone they want

2. You don't have to go

3. Rules are rules

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"If men don’t want to pay it then they can always vote with their feet.

There is inequality in other areas of life too, for example my wife pays £70 for a haircut! I pay a fiver….

Female porn stars get paid 5 to 10 times as much as Male porn stars. Men should boycott porn until this is rectified! Men should lay on the M25 with "porn equality" banners."

#juststopporn !!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I see both sides but at the end of the day

1.Women can have anyone they want - No they can’t; I’ve refused more women in clubs than I’ve played with.

2. You don't have to go - This is absolutely true.

3. Rules are rules - This would be bettered worded ‘If you don’t want to pay the entry fee, don’t’"

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By *x cplCouple
over a year ago

North of Oxford

You could argue that females and couples get reduced rates because there attendance at clubs is classed as essential for operation of the club..(unless it was for wholly male attendance). Thus men going for sex with women would require women in attendance...also as its a private members club they can be exempt from sexual discrimination in regards to members. But not in regards to staff.

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By *lkShaftMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"OP

Go to the clubs that don't charge more for single men. Simple as that. Clubs charge what they deem necessary to cover their overheads.

"

As already mentioned nothing to do with covering overheads, fuel stations were ripping car drivers off for age's was that to cover overheads or becomes they could?.

The big energy compaines are still ripping of households,I guess all the billions they making each year still isn't enough to cover there overheads and cover there life style. Maybe I'm wrong

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By *lkShaftMan
over a year ago

Walsall


"If you aren't a customer, you're the product.

Oversupply of males in clubs mean they can charge what they want. Lets face it, we don't generally go to clubs to socialise, but to try and get laid.

Women know they can go to a club and get laid so why would they want to pay over the odds when they can post a meet on fab and have 200+ messages.

Rather than whining about everyone else viewing things from a male perspective, view it from a woman or couples. Fancy being followed round by wanking zombies? Want to meet people who have just gone there to get laid?

This.

Higher prices for women/couples would likely mean less in attendance, so a lot of guys are happier to pay the higher price.

Or you charge everyone the same and limit the numbers attending. If a club is more than willing to bulk up numbers of men attending and charge them more, and the result being crowds of men following people around making them feel uncomfortable. Is that not counter productive.

Either way, everyone goes to a club for basically exploring and fulfilling their sexual inhibitions. So why should we all be charged different prices, some are extreme.

I understand the reasoning, but there are other ways of achieving the goal of controlling the number of single men attending a club without financially discriminating against them.

Maybe the club owners need to be more inclusive by making cost equal.

This is why we have the equality act. What's the point of having it, if people are picking and choosing when it applies.

I'm just glad the clubs I visit are more inclusive than some I could mention.

Clubs are privately owned and provide a service.

Equality act has no bearing on (privately owned) public services.

My wife pays £40++ each visit to her hairdresser ....I pay around £15 to mine....should I stand outside with my "sex equality banner"??

If your not happy....don't go!!!"

This

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By *entlegiant26Man
over a year ago

Staffs Nr,Alton Towers


"As said by a few, it’s swings n roundabouts.

Ladies will always be spending money on products to look good, whether it be make up, lingerie, a new dress to wear, new shoes. Then the cost of getting there and drinks etc inside.

Couples will have that cost, plus entrance and then drinks etc inside.

Single men have their expenses too.

As a female who’s attended on my own and with my hubby, there’s nothing worse than the wanking brigade who follow from room to room thinking they’re entitled to a fuck because they’ve paid entrance fee. Us females do not get a share of your entrance fee if we fuck you.

Everyone is there to meet new people and enjoy the evening. We all have our own expectations and expenses. If you’re not happy spending the money, then don’t go"

Well said I couldn't agree more with you,I go to enjoy the atmosphere and all the facilities inside my favourite club (Chameleons) I find the price I pay is very reasonable, I always say to myself if I get a invite to join in its a added bonus to the day/evening ,I don't go on the understanding I've paid so I'm expecting to get laid,I've chatted to quite a few cpls and that situation puts them off,It's quite simple if you're not happy with the price stay at home I'm sure there's always others to take your place

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"OP

Go to the clubs that don't charge more for single men. Simple as that. Clubs charge what they deem necessary to cover their overheads.

As already mentioned nothing to do with covering overheads, fuel stations were ripping car drivers off for age's was that to cover overheads or becomes they could?.

The big energy compaines are still ripping of households,I guess all the billions they making each year still isn't enough to cover there overheads and cover there life style. Maybe I'm wrong

"

Any idea what it costs to get a club open?

Any idea what it costs to keep a club open?

Any club that's not making a profit isn't going to stay in business for long.

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By *aribbean King 1985Man
over a year ago

South West London


"But the problem is when men do go these things and having to pay a lot more for it,99% of the time it is a sausage fest where its 30 men to 5 women for example. To me thats a very poor ratio

Totally agree - I’d much rather it was 30 men to 1 woman (me)

Smoke Well you're just plain greedy aint you lool

Is that a bad thing ?

"

If your husband is fine with you being with 30 men at once then I guess not lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what it is.

On Thursday night I was out for work drinks. The younger lads had a group of girls latched onto them. They them bought drinks all night. The boys were hoping, the girls knowing. All juniors so on shite money, but credit card almighty may just help you get your nuts in!

Clubs play on that premise as well. Mankind thinks with their cock and not rationale. We are such a disappointment.

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By *rincess-PeachWoman
over a year ago

irrelevant

Mens swinger club issues ...

Waaah I have to pay more money

There's too many men

I might not get laid

Women's swinger club issues...

I ask every time if someone can walk me to my car so I don't get attacked because the one time I didn't ask someone followed me

There's too many men

I get followed everywhere.

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Personally we’d prefer it if there were no single men at clubs all together. Appreciate many couples and women require their services but being followed around all night and trying door handles etc. is just creepy. We just go on couples’ nights nowadays.

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants

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By *illan-KillashMan
over a year ago

London/Sussex/Surrey/Berks/Hants


"Personally we’d prefer it if there were no single men at clubs all together. Appreciate many couples and women require their services but being followed around all night and trying door handles etc. is just creepy. We just go on couples’ nights nowadays. "

"Male entry prices - sexual discrimination"

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante


"Personally we’d prefer it if there were no single men at clubs all together. Appreciate many couples and women require their services but being followed around all night and trying door handles etc. is just creepy. We just go on couples’ nights nowadays. "

Couples nights are definitely our preference.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Personally we’d prefer it if there were no single men at clubs all together. Appreciate many couples and women require their services but being followed around all night and trying door handles etc. is just creepy. We just go on couples’ nights nowadays. "

As the majority of clubs make no attempt to make single guys feel welcome, I’m happy to only visit as a couple.

“Fantastic! Another single guy!” said no club ever…

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"Personally we’d prefer it if there were no single men at clubs all together. Appreciate many couples and women require their services but being followed around all night and trying door handles etc. is just creepy. We just go on couples’ nights nowadays. "

With an attitude like that I'm rather glad you go couples only nights.

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By *ate234567Woman
over a year ago

maidstone


"Yes, it is OP.

It IS actually illegal what they're doing - and yes, I have studied the 1975 sex discrimination act to check.

But...

Are you going to be the one to report your local club?

Do ypu want to see them get shut down?

Because ultimately, if they were forced to comply with the law, I doubt many would remain in business for very long.

Why?

Simple, because the reason why women are given preferential treatment is to tempt and encourage them to go along.

As soon as you charge them a fair and equal price to men, you'll find hardly any will turn up.

Which, in turn, will piss off all the men folk who have likely paid their money in the hope of getting some action.

So the men then stop going and the club goes bust.

I'm not saying it's right or acceptable or that I agree with it - but I do get it

Wrong....

The Equality Act which supercedes the Sex Discrimination Act 1975, applies differently to private members clubs.

Private members clubs would usually fall under the definition of a ‘membership association’ under the Act, rather than being ‘service providers’, if they have 25 or more members and club membership is regulated by rules.

If a club qualifies as a private members club, it can lawfully restrict membership and membership benefits to individuals who share a particular protected characteristic, such as physical or mental disability, gender, sex, sexual orientation, ethnicity, nationality, colour, religion and other protected characteristics.

From a club owners perspective that hears this a lot we are glad someone pointed out its perfectly legal to charge different prices as a private members club for different groups.

True story -

We once did an event and let EVERYONE in free on a Friday with a paid bar, guess what happened next? We got over run with way to many single men, the next one we limit numbers of single men and got the same argument, it was discrimination from the guys who couldn't get in with limited numbers.

The truth is single men are plenty and single ladies are not and why prices in clubs are the way they are. As someone has already said it's the law of supply & demand.

With the greatest respect to those guys who dont like the price's just don't go because it never going to change. "

Yes I agree. So when I was a single girl, I went to a club which actively stopped the typical follow around like a zombie queue. I got in free and I travelled about 1 and an half to get there. I always had a great night and single men and couples all seemed to as well. Would I have gone if I had to pay petrol, hair and prep stuff plus entrance fee? No is the simple answer.

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By *andN2Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

If it bothers you that much taken them to court, rather than whinge about it on a forum.

Clubs we go to, single fems get in free and couples n single guys are the same price. Just seems the norm and we accept it.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

And we're done.

A

*probably until same time next week, but.....

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