FabSwingers.com forum: Single female going to clubs

By *din fun OP Woman
over a year ago

Dumfries and Galloway

Looking for advise. I'd love to go to one of the clubs for a night but not sure about it as a single female. Any do's/don'ts, should I go with a male friend etc?

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By *ebauchery DivineWoman
over a year ago

Down in Dickleburgh Drive

Any idea which club you would like to try?

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By *din fun OP Woman
over a year ago

Dumfries and Galloway

"Any idea which club you would like to try?

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probably Edinburgh or I've heard Blackpool. They are about a 2hr drive

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Do: Be able to say no. You will receive attention, and some of it won't be wanted. A simple 'no' is almost always enough. If you're unfortunate enough to run into one of the exceptions, let staff know as soon as you can. They're there to keep you safe and happy.

Take a friend if that will make it easier to step through the door (bonus if this friend has been to clubs before). When I was single I preferred to go by myself, as that forced me to socialise. But the single man experience is a rather different one to yours.

Read the reviews of clubs that you're considering, pay particular attention to ones written by other single women, and keep in mind what you're hoping to get from your visit.

Bring a few outfit options for dress-down. The most important thing is to be comfortable in what you're wearing, and if you have a few you can pick one depending on how you're feeling in the moment.

Choose the right night. A lot of people will suggest couples nights as a safer gentler introduction for new single women, but if you're only interested in men that's probably not the best (I haven't read your profile and have no idea what you're after).

As you'll be travelling a fair distance, consider a club with on-site accommodation.

Don't: go with a man you don't know. A club can work as a first date, but the risks are too high for me. Definitely don't rely on someone you don't know for transport or accommodation.

Don't have too much to drink. It might be tempting if you're nervous, but it isn't a good idea.

I'll add ClubF near Durham and Townhouse near Liverpool as suggestions. I've been to both and have no hesitation recommending them

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By *teph BitchTV/TS
over a year ago

Manchester

"Looking for advise. I'd love to go to one of the clubs for a night but not sure about it as a single female. Any do's/don'ts, should I go with a male friend etc?"

Hope you get some good advice

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By *irty filthy milfWoman
over a year ago

somewhere only i know!

"Any idea which club you would like to try?

probably Edinburgh or I've heard Blackpool. They are about a 2hr drive "

I can highly recommend Club Play as it’s my go to club even when I’m not hosting there but can’t comment on Infusion as I’ve not been there since before lockdown or the Edinburgh clubs as not visited those either, the 1 thing that’s clear in any club is that No means NO at all times, it’s you’re body and up to you what you choose to do, my inbox is always open should you wish to ask any direct questions xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any idea which club you would like to try?

probably Edinburgh or I've heard Blackpool. They are about a 2hr drive "

Edin Fun I am planning a trip to Blackpool as a single male if you want to chat and maybe join me?

I can't message you as my age is wrong on here and I can't change it but I am 35.

Jon x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"Looking for advise. I'd love to go to one of the clubs for a night but not sure about it as a single female. Any do's/don'ts, should I go with a male friend etc?"
Don't couple up.... unless you know the person really really well..and even then.. I'd say go alone first.

Tell staff it's your first time, keep an eye on who else maybe going. See if any other single ladies are going.

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

"Any idea which club you would like to try?

probably Edinburgh or I've heard Blackpool. They are about a 2hr drive

Edin Fun I am planning a trip to Blackpool as a single male if you want to chat and maybe join me?

I can't message you as my age is wrong on here and I can't change it but I am 35.

Jon x"

I believe you can change it once if you made a mistake but not twice as this stops people trying to get around filters.

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By *otbeefandonionsCouple
over a year ago

Bathgate

We visit after dark regularly and it's a good club for people who haven't been to clubs before

As a single woman,I personally would do after dark first before _lub play

I also wouldn't go with a man, but check the forums as someone usually posts asking about going. As we have today lol.

Happy to meet you there if its a night we'll be going x

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

Club Play in Blackpool offer Single Ladies FREE at anytime x

I happen to be hosting on the 30th June & 22nd July.

PLUS an added bonus to whoever visits on a Fri/Sat night will automatically be able to come along Sunday for FREE.

If you happen to want to visit Club Play and have any questions mu inbox is ALWAYS open xxxxxx

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

Strongly advice against going with a single male friend, there’s a lot of potential for drama there: though my first club visit, a couple of male friends got me through the door.

F’s my local, and it’s very single woman friendly.

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By *ustus555Couple
over a year ago

NG 21

"Looking for advise. I'd love to go to one of the clubs for a night but not sure about it as a single female. Any do's/don'ts, should I go with a male friend etc? Don't couple up.... unless you know the person really really well..and even then.. I'd say go alone first.

Tell staff it's your first time, keep an eye on who else maybe going. See if any other single ladies are going. "

This. 100%

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

As others have alluded to...if you swing as a single then go alone, same advice for men otherwise you're suddenly seen as a couple which I'm sure isn't the intention.

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!

We welcome single ladies at Club Play all the & even better we give totally FREE entry to all single ladies every time we open xxx

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally I think as a single lady you should go alone and experience the club environment for yourself without having to consider the needs of anyone else. A good club is safe and friendly. You dont need no chaperone or someone to show you the ropes. You can find your own way and own fun without influence, bias or hindrance from anyone else. You can really enjoy a club in a different way when you go alone.

Do your research, find the club for you. Ring or email before if you have any questions or want to judge the vibe or just want to touch base prior. On the night introduce your self, tell them it's your first time and ask for a tour (although this should be offered anyway). State any apprehensions or worries you have. They hopefully be able to put your mind at easy and/or introduce you to the right people maybe.

Just go have a great time. Make the club your playground.

Should you really not be comfortable going alone I would recommend going with another single female rather than a guy or a couple.

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By *omoflexible84Woman
over a year ago

I have been to club shh in Newcastle alone as thats my local and like others have said when staff know its your 1st time they are propa helpful and friendly and theres always regulars in who spot newbies and there welcoming too. With people been like this I'm traveling to _lub play on Friday on me tod (tho I still resemble a rabbit in headlights when I walk in)

I dont plan any meets when I go as like someone else has mentioned it helps to socialise and why add any pressure to a already nervous experience.

Im very vocal from the start of what I'm into giving I'm a single gay women but I've not had to be blunt with NO cause I am straight to the point.

Find a quite pub on the way and have a drink before hand if your nerves act up (i will have 1 or 2).

Make sure your dressed in what makes you comfortable both for walking in and dressing down (if you dress down).

I usually get to a club a hour or 2 after its opened and thats cause others will be in.

Hope that helps a little

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’m a single woman and clubbed for 7 years (at many different clubs from London to the north west)x

Townhouse is by far, the safest club for single women in my opinion. Full security. All have to show proper ID which is kept on record, tickets have to be bought in advance, staff who actually work and supervise and don’t get involved in play, legit taxi driver who works there and they can contact….

- pick your event well. What you’ll feel most comfortable with. Some events have more singles than couples and vice versa. Or some are heavier kink than others.

- speak to the club and staff prior, they’ll know to expect you and be super friendly, will give you a tour and make sure you have someone to talk too at the bar

Clubs are the friendliest place in the world if your open and happy to make an effort and speak to people

I’ve made some of the best friends and now club with groups of women across the North West so it’s defo been worth it xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have been to club shh in Newcastle alone as thats my local and like others have said when staff know its your 1st time they are propa helpful and friendly and theres always regulars in who spot newbies and there welcoming too. With people been like this I'm traveling to _lub play on Friday on me tod (tho I still resemble a rabbit in headlights when I walk in)

I dont plan any meets when I go as like someone else has mentioned it helps to socialise and why add any pressure to a already nervous experience.

Im very vocal from the start of what I'm into giving I'm a single gay women but I've not had to be blunt with NO cause I am straight to the point.

Find a quite pub on the way and have a drink before hand if your nerves act up (i will have 1 or 2).

Make sure your dressed in what makes you comfortable both for walking in and dressing down (if you dress down).

I usually get to a club a hour or 2 after its opened and thats cause others will be in.

Hope that helps a little

I’m sure you get lots of attention !

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By *nfusion_blackpoolCouple
over a year ago

Infusion Blackpool

We have many single ladies attending all the time. We offer a safe no pressure environment. We are located on a safe street in Blackpool town centre with many hotels, bars and parking nearby.

We offer many facilities including a proper 30 foot indoor heated swimming pool

"Looking for advise. I'd love to go to one of the clubs for a night but not sure about it as a single female. Any do's/don'ts, should I go with a male friend etc?"

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By *lub playCouple
over a year ago

Blackpool, At The Crack Of Dawn!!

I dont plan any meets when I go as like someone else has mentioned it helps to socialise and why add any pressure to a already nervous experience.

Im very vocal from the start of what I'm into giving I'm a single gay women but I've not had to be blunt with NO cause I am straight to the point.

Find a quite pub on the way and have a drink before hand if your nerves act up (i will have 1 or 2).

Make sure your dressed in what makes you comfortable both for walking in and dressing down (if you dress down).

I usually get to a club a hour or 2 after its opened and thats cause others will be in.

Hope that helps a little

We look forward to welcoming you at _lub play on Friday & promise we will look after you well xxx

Paul

& Dawn

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

I dont plan any meets when I go as like someone else has mentioned it helps to socialise and why add any pressure to a already nervous experience.

Im very vocal from the start of what I'm into giving I'm a single gay women but I've not had to be blunt with NO cause I am straight to the point.

Find a quite pub on the way and have a drink before hand if your nerves act up (i will have 1 or 2).

Make sure your dressed in what makes you comfortable both for walking in and dressing down (if you dress down).

I usually get to a club a hour or 2 after its opened and thats cause others will be in.

Hope that helps a little

We look forward to welcoming you at _lub play on Friday & promise we will look after you well xxx

They absolutely will. They'll give you VIP treatment. I have always had a smile and welcome from them every time I go there.

Paul

& Dawn

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By *aznshaneCouple
over a year ago

St Annes

Hey lovely, I work at infusion and always on hand to make you feel comfortable, safe and welcome. I come in as a single female on a Thursday night and sometimes on a Sunday when I’m not working. I always feel comfortable and safe. Hopefully see you soon Caz

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for advise. I'd love to go to one of the clubs for a night but not sure about it as a single female. Any do's/don'ts, should I go with a male friend etc?"

I go on my own and always have. Libs is a good one as it’s not too big, clean and good bunch of people. As a female everyone will speak to you and make you feel welcome. Best going on an events night like HWC as you’re guaranteed it to be busy. Hope that helps.

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By *ady GoodwitchWoman
over a year ago

Witchery wish lane

I feel the same way, would like to go just to see, but don't really want to go on my own

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By *omoflexible84Woman
over a year ago

I dont plan any meets when I go as like someone else has mentioned it helps to socialise and why add any pressure to a already nervous experience.

Im very vocal from the start of what I'm into giving I'm a single gay women but I've not had to be blunt with NO cause I am straight to the point.

Find a quite pub on the way and have a drink before hand if your nerves act up (i will have 1 or 2).

Make sure your dressed in what makes you comfortable both for walking in and dressing down (if you dress down).

I usually get to a club a hour or 2 after its opened and thats cause others will be in.

Hope that helps a little

I’m sure you get lots of attention !

Haha well you went right through my pictures didnt you

. Truth be told from single males yes but that isn't me so I spend more time in a club chatting about bloody football haha, havent been on a day when its been more females or couples sooo my play in a club cherry is yet to be popped but I dont go with the intention to play anyway its been more to get the confidence as I do like to get away from the north east

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By *din fun OP Woman
over a year ago

Dumfries and Galloway

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By *din fun OP Woman
over a year ago

Dumfries and Galloway

"I feel the same way, would like to go just to see, but don't really want to go on my own "

I know it's the stepping through the door and then sitting by yourself.

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