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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

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By *he Dark GentlemanMan
over a year ago

London


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

"

I've noticed it over the past 10 years or so.

I hate hearing about their work or how the price of consumables has gone up or trying to diagnose their car issues.

It totally kills the vibe

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds

I suspect they’re making a point about your door being closed/locked. Honestly all they want to do is ogle your bits and play with themselves honestly, throw them a bone why dontcha

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow

Totally agree with this. There definitely seems to be more of this now. Clubs are becoming more and more just social clubs. On our last visit to a club we were having a foursome whilst two guys stood nearby talking loudly about the temporary traffic lights and contra flow on the A road 5 miles away. Totally killed the vibe!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they were outside the room what harm were they doing? Surely they dont have to discuss sexual things all the time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

"

At a party, I once had to take my partners cock out of my mouth and say to the couples perching on the end of the sofa we were playing on discussing weightwatchers ...'fascinating as your conversation is, we're trying to have sex here...'...they did move but got all huffy and were giving me the evil eye for the rest of the night...

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By *valanche1001Man
over a year ago

Leeds


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

At a party, I once had to take my partners cock out of my mouth and say to the couples perching on the end of the sofa we were playing on discussing weightwatchers ...'fascinating as your conversation is, we're trying to have sex here...'...they did move but got all huffy and were giving me the evil eye for the rest of the night..."

Nice to note you were brought up well and wouldn’t speak with your mouth full

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

Think the worst offenders for this are people talking loudly in a dungeon area whilst play is happening. Was once told by someone that it's best to think of a dungeon as a library unless there's already a bit of ambient noise

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

the mrs invited a young man for play he wanted a private room so we waited for 1 of the private rooms to be free as we made our way to the room 1 of 2 men said "oh here comes our entertainment" we ignored just going in the room when they started to follow mrs locks door they keep trying the handle which put the lad off .

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

At least they weren't talking about their grandkids etc.

Seriously though, it is like some people have no concept of what is an appropriate conversation in an appropriate place.

We're there, in a large part, because it's a world away from reality, leave that shit at the door!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they were outside the room what harm were they doing? Surely they dont have to discuss sexual things all the time?"

Thing is the private rooms are there away from social areas so there is absolutely no need to talk about the last concert you saw. Just enjoy the show and keep quiet. It's really off-putting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

At a party, I once had to take my partners cock out of my mouth and say to the couples perching on the end of the sofa we were playing on discussing weightwatchers ...'fascinating as your conversation is, we're trying to have sex here...'...they did move but got all huffy and were giving me the evil eye for the rest of the night..."

Hope you told them that cock is zero syns

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By *raceAverageCouple
over a year ago

Preston

What’s worse than that is being at a club and witnessing couples sitting outside playrooms taking the piss out of couples enjoying themselves - that’s disgusting and put us off and I’m sure many other couples from playing that evening and actually going to that club ever again

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"What’s worse than that is being at a club and witnessing couples sitting outside playrooms taking the piss out of couples enjoying themselves - that’s disgusting and put us off and I’m sure many other couples from playing that evening and actually going to that club ever again "

What?! I think you need to elaborate, that sounds horrendous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What’s worse than that is being at a club and witnessing couples sitting outside playrooms taking the piss out of couples enjoying themselves - that’s disgusting and put us off and I’m sure many other couples from playing that evening and actually going to that club ever again

What?! I think you need to elaborate, that sounds horrendous "

Agreed. This sounds awful

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

"

It's their night out as well.

Private rooms are just private and not guaranteed soundproof.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"What’s worse than that is being at a club and witnessing couples sitting outside playrooms taking the piss out of couples enjoying themselves - that’s disgusting and put us off and I’m sure many other couples from playing that evening and actually going to that club ever again

What?! I think you need to elaborate, that sounds horrendous "

I agree that this is really not on at all.

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By *londebiguyMan
over a year ago

Southport


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

At a party, I once had to take my partners cock out of my mouth and say to the couples perching on the end of the sofa we were playing on discussing weightwatchers ...'fascinating as your conversation is, we're trying to have sex here...'...they did move but got all huffy and were giving me the evil eye for the rest of the night..."

You could just as easily moved away and carried on somewhere else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

It's their night out as well.

Private rooms are just private and not guaranteed soundproof."

I think you are missing the point here or have fallen foul of doing this yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is this a new trend these days? Second time in just over a week we have been in a private room in a club and people have just stood outside talking about what they have benched at the gym the day before or where they are going on holiday next month.

Last night really was the icing on the cake with 5 guys outside our room talking utter bollocks. We even shouted if you want to hold your WI meeting please do so outside!

It's so off putting!! Anyway rant over

At a party, I once had to take my partners cock out of my mouth and say to the couples perching on the end of the sofa we were playing on discussing weightwatchers ...'fascinating as your conversation is, we're trying to have sex here...'...they did move but got all huffy and were giving me the evil eye for the rest of the night...

You could just as easily moved away and carried on somewhere else."

Why on earth should I? It was a play area at a sex party...they can go and talk about their calorie intake next to the buffet, they're not allowed to eat...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they were outside the room what harm were they doing? Surely they dont have to discuss sexual things all the time?

Thing is the private rooms are there away from social areas so there is absolutely no need to talk about the last concert you saw. Just enjoy the show and keep quiet. It's really off-putting "

Ah right a get u now, didnt know they were watching thought when you said private room the door was closed off to everyone and noone could see anything

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By *annaBeBeachBumMan
over a year ago

Sunny SouthWest


"If they were outside the room what harm were they doing? Surely they dont have to discuss sexual things all the time?"

Yes too right. Surely it’s better them chatting/ socialising than acting like the wanking dead zombies which ‘self-entitled’ couples more usually whinge about!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they were outside the room what harm were they doing? Surely they dont have to discuss sexual things all the time?

Yes too right. Surely it’s better them chatting/ socialising than acting like the wanking dead zombies which ‘self-entitled’ couples more usually whinge about!"

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By *inx_xxWoman
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

On the flip side, last week we'd just finished a steamy session and were having a chat. A single guy then knocked the door and said "Are you guys finished and just going to chat now".......what was a potential next victim, quickly turned into creep.

P.S. it was mid week in an almost empty club, so no rooms were hogged during chat

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By *ICK47Man
over a year ago

banbury

Surely etiquette should be followed in these places and everyone respect each other.

Never been to a club before as my wife has absolutely no interest,such a pity.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow


"If they were outside the room what harm were they doing? Surely they dont have to discuss sexual things all the time?

Yes too right. Surely it’s better them chatting/ socialising than acting like the wanking dead zombies which ‘self-entitled’ couples more usually whinge about!"

Don’t agree with that at all. Most clubs have a bar area where you can chat/dance/socialise or whatever. But the other areas are or should be for people who want to play. It’s nothing to do with feeling entitled.

It’s a bit like in a swimming pool when they section off lanes for people who really want to swim. You wouldn’t want people from the main bit of the pool standing in there. They’ve got another bit they can just stand in and splash around if they want to.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If they were outside the room what harm were they doing? Surely they dont have to discuss sexual things all the time?

Yes too right. Surely it’s better them chatting/ socialising than acting like the wanking dead zombies which ‘self-entitled’ couples more usually whinge about!

Don’t agree with that at all. Most clubs have a bar area where you can chat/dance/socialise or whatever. But the other areas are or should be for people who want to play. It’s nothing to do with feeling entitled.

It’s a bit like in a swimming pool when they section off lanes for people who really want to swim. You wouldn’t want people from the main bit of the pool standing in there. They’ve got another bit they can just stand in and splash around if they want to. "

Nail on the head. Nearly every club has a separate bar area for socialising. Chat there and not right outside the door of a private room.

Funny thing was where we were on Tuesday we planned to put on a show but they missed out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Far too much socialising and not enough sex in a couple of the sex clubs we've been to. If you want a chat over a drink go to a bar, if you want to fuck then fuck.

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields


"Far too much socialising and not enough sex in a couple of the sex clubs we've been to. If you want a chat over a drink go to a bar, if you want to fuck then fuck."

I don't agree with this. It's perfectly acceptable to go to a club and drink in the bar and socialise and not play.

What's not OK is to socialise in the play areas, and definitely not the dungeon.

Our club has a rule that you're not allowed to play in the bar, I don't see that expecting people not to socialise in the play areas is unreasonable.

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By *lexV16Man
over a year ago

Welling


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Don’t agree with that at all. Most clubs have a bar area where you can chat/dance/socialise or whatever. But the other areas are or should be for people who want to play. It’s nothing to do with feeling entitled.

It’s a bit like in a swimming pool when they section off lanes for people who really want to swim. You wouldn’t want people from the main bit of the pool standing in there. They’ve got another bit they can just stand in and splash around if they want to. "

As a swimmer I can’t agree more to this comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no,

Don't talk about Monday mornings

Don't talk about life outside

Don't talk about Morning mornings

Do me a favour and take a ride...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wanna harp on about the postmodern swing culture, but the climate did seem rather different a couple of decades back... There appears to be a huge crossover of social with swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ridiculing other party goers seems a massive lack of respect

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

If it was outside a locked door then I see no issue to be fair. It's a swingers club which means it's also a social.... if it had been an open play area or a dungeon then I would have thought differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the way it is nowadays. The zenith may well have been 1995 to about 2010...

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Don't wanna harp on about the postmodern swing culture, but the climate did seem rather different a couple of decades back... There appears to be a huge crossover of social with swinging. "
I've been doing clubs for 27 years now.. don't think it's changed that much except there are a lot of younger swingers now.

Social and meeting like minded people is the main reason for a club in my eyes... play is always an added bonus but certainly not why I go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mibbe it was a case of "less is more". There seemed to be more of a private house party/basement club scene, like the one in Finsbury Pk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And yes, of course, different folks have varying reasons for club attendance...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't wanna harp on about the postmodern swing culture, but the climate did seem rather different a couple of decades back... There appears to be a huge crossover of social with swinging. I've been doing clubs for 27 years now.. don't think it's changed that much except there are a lot of younger swingers now.

Social and meeting like minded people is the main reason for a club in my eyes... play is always an added bonus but certainly not why I go. "

The social aspect is the best part and often we attend clubs and parties to just socialise. However out of respect there is always a bar area where we stick to talking about things. Never outside a private room away from the social space where people could be playing.

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By *hris_tMan
over a year ago

Dinnington

My old bi fem partner used to got nuts...she would often get up midway through a good fuck to have a go at groups of guys talking about work directly in front of you....she was abit loud & they soon moved on.

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By *hris_tMan
over a year ago

Dinnington

My old bi fem partner used to got nuts...she would often get up midway through a good fuck to have a go at groups of guys talking about work directly in front of you....she was abit loud & they soon moved on.

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By *wing66Couple
over a year ago

Burton-upon-trent


"Don't wanna harp on about the postmodern swing culture, but the climate did seem rather different a couple of decades back... There appears to be a huge crossover of social with swinging. I've been doing clubs for 27 years now.. don't think it's changed that much except there are a lot of younger swingers now.

Social and meeting like minded people is the main reason for a club in my eyes... play is always an added bonus but certainly not why I go. "

We have noticed this too in the last 10 years. Couldn't believe the amount of young swingers at Chams on our last visit. There does seem to be an increase in Eastern Europeans there too which is nice to see

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