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"I think most clubs do filter them out once they've got the measure of them. Tbh they're unlikely to get any attention so hopefully won't go back anyway. " Agreed, hard to exclude someone before they have stepped out of line. The sentiment expressed by the OP is spot on but making it work needs a lot of opperational suppltey. | |||
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"I’ve been going to clubs for many years and this is not aimed at only one club , because I’ve seen happening in many clubs . The so called wanking dead is not a new thing I know . It’s just that it seems now more and more men think because they’re in a club can treat women like a piece of meat and have no manners, decorum or respect at all . I know times are tough and clubs need money through the door. But letting people like this has the adverse effect. I shall be voting with my feet at a few venues and would urge club owners to provide a nice environment whilst making a profit to exclude these type of from their clubs . Rant over " I've left clubs because of not wanting to be associated with these types. Too many people migrating from Tinder and the like I think. | |||
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"I’ve been going to clubs for many years and this is not aimed at only one club , because I’ve seen happening in many clubs . The so called wanking dead is not a new thing I know . It’s just that it seems now more and more men think because they’re in a club can treat women like a piece of meat and have no manners, decorum or respect at all . I know times are tough and clubs need money through the door. But letting people like this has the adverse effect. I shall be voting with my feet at a few venues and would urge club owners to provide a nice environment whilst making a profit to exclude these type of from their clubs . Rant over I've left clubs because of not wanting to be associated with these types. Too many people migrating from Tinder and the like I think." That's been the case for many years now hence why we block single guys on here. | |||
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"Totally agree there I get totally ignored or made uncomfortable at clubs just for being a kind and Respectful person I am no oil painting or hung like a horse but when you are trying your best and some guy just takes over and then walks off with the persons that you have had the courage to chat to for a while just because thay are the right colour or endowed enough and keep holding it in full view of the world it makes you wonder if there is any point in being there " This comment makes you sound very entitled. So someone chooses someone else over you because as you say 'thay are the right colour or endowed enough' ? That's their right. Just because you've chatted to someone it doesn't mean you're entitled to anything from them at all. This attitude is as negative as the behaviour people have already mentioned of guys following people and being pushy. A | |||
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" If you see bad behaviour report it. Clubs can't do anything about adverse behaviour if they don't know it's happened. " Club management are completely aware that single men can behave badly (If they are not they shouldn't be running the place). I've consistently said that clubs should have a permanent floor walker who's job it is to maintain behaviour, I've seen this in the US and it works. | |||
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" If you see bad behaviour report it. Clubs can't do anything about adverse behaviour if they don't know it's happened. Club management are completely aware that single men can behave badly (If they are not they shouldn't be running the place). I've consistently said that clubs should have a permanent floor walker who's job it is to maintain behaviour, I've seen this in the US and it works. " Many do. But some clubs are large and have multiple playrooms, social areas, bars, corridors, wet zones etc. How many staff clubs have is dependent on each venue. More staff means more wages. More wages means higher entry prices. They can't be everywhere and certainly won't be in private rooms so club members are as responsible for policing behaviour as anyone. People are quick to bemoan bad behaviour but often less willing to challenge it or report it at the time. All you have to do is tell staff and they should act. If they don't then the club isn't worth attending. A | |||
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" More staff means more wages. More wages means higher entry prices. " I argue that a good floor walker would increase attendance and therefore be self funding. Does it ever cross any-ones mind that if there is no security on the floor that any violence would not be dealt with in a timely manner? | |||
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" More staff means more wages. More wages means higher entry prices. I argue that a good floor walker would increase attendance and therefore be self funding. Does it ever cross any-ones mind that if there is no security on the floor that any violence would not be dealt with in a timely manner?" Which clubs have you been to that don't have staff walking the floors? Because I've never been to one that doesn't..... A | |||
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" More staff means more wages. More wages means higher entry prices. I argue that a good floor walker would increase attendance and therefore be self funding. Does it ever cross any-ones mind that if there is no security on the floor that any violence would not be dealt with in a timely manner?" Violence, I don't know which clubs you've been too but I suggest going elsewhere. | |||
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"If you see bad behaviour report it. Clubs can't do anything about adverse behaviour if they don't know it's happened. It's all well and good moaning about it after it's happened but how many will actually confront them at the time? Few I suspect. If you're not comfortable with confronting someone at the time then you can report it to club staff so they can act, or you an stand by and watch it happen. The choice is yours. People are forever calling out things they see in clubs in the forums but don't seem willing or able to try and prevent it at the time. It's too late once you or they have left. A" 100% this people doing wrong in clubs need dealing with there and then and op why just single out guys ?? seems a bit cock blocking to me ? this does not happen at all clubs ... im firm and blunt when in a club if i dont like whats happening when being followed or pressured then they know about it as i will tell then in a loud and direct voice if that dont work then its str8 to management ... however me and hubs has visted clubs all over the Uk and Europe and its not always single guys i get more hassle from the male halfs of couples who think they have some sort of rights just because they are part of a couple the ones where there wives are either playing without them or they are at the bar to lets the husbands do as please so for me the male halfs of couples are the biggest pain .. the next pain before single men is d*unk / loud / you cant say no to me type women they have ruined more nights than anyone and of course the club dont and wont ban them its ok for them to grope and not worry about consent or just be a embarrassment ... every club ive ever been to has that single guy who there every week who sits in the back ground who dont speak or join in everyone one says oh hes harmless hes just likes to watch or wank and its kinda unsettling for some .. so its not a single guy problem its more than that but no the skin all the single guys who will have already been fucked over at paying to get in and then listen to those couples who dont want him there moaning all night and telling others that swinging is for couples only bordom rubbish .. ps if anything we need more guys in alot of the clubs .. | |||
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"If you see bad behaviour report it. Clubs can't do anything about adverse behaviour if they don't know it's happened. It's all well and good moaning about it after it's happened but how many will actually confront them at the time? Few I suspect. If you're not comfortable with confronting someone at the time then you can report it to club staff so they can act, or you an stand by and watch it happen. The choice is yours. People are forever calling out things they see in clubs in the forums but don't seem willing or able to try and prevent it at the time. It's too late once you or they have left. A 100% this people doing wrong in clubs need dealing with there and then and op why just single out guys ?? seems a bit cock blocking to me ? this does not happen at all clubs ... im firm and blunt when in a club if i dont like whats happening when being followed or pressured then they know about it as i will tell then in a loud and direct voice if that dont work then its str8 to management ... however me and hubs has visted clubs all over the Uk and Europe and its not always single guys i get more hassle from the male halfs of couples who think they have some sort of rights just because they are part of a couple the ones where there wives are either playing without them or they are at the bar to lets the husbands do as please so for me the male halfs of couples are the biggest pain .. the next pain before single men is d*unk / loud / you cant say no to me type women they have ruined more nights than anyone and of course the club dont and wont ban them its ok for them to grope and not worry about consent or just be a embarrassment ... every club ive ever been to has that single guy who there every week who sits in the back ground who dont speak or join in everyone one says oh hes harmless hes just likes to watch or wank and its kinda unsettling for some .. so its not a single guy problem its more than that but no the skin all the single guys who will have already been fucked over at paying to get in and then listen to those couples who dont want him there moaning all night and telling others that swinging is for couples only bordom rubbish .. ps if anything we need more guys in alot of the clubs .." Here,Here regarding single gents! On Friday, we witnessed one single lady getting in a guys face (he was just sitting chatting to another couple)and being quite confrontational and loudly questioning what he "brings to swinging" and then later on allegedly another lady who was one half of a couple got quite verbally abusive to a guy who said "no thanks" to a blowjob! | |||
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"so its not a single guy problem its more than that but no the skin all the single guys who will have already been fucked over at paying to get in and then listen to those couples who dont want him there moaning all night and telling others that swinging is for couples only bordom rubbish .." This rings a bit true. I went to a club a couple of weeks ago, it was their Greedy Girls night. It looked like it was going to be a good night, about half a dozen couples in, some single girls too. Then 3 of the couples headed off to do a group thing that lasted till they went home, Talking to the female members of two of the other couples, they were not even aware that it was Greedy Girls night, and then commented that tey were only there for single girls or other couples. The other couple DID play and invilved some of the guys. Now as I see it, that's just how it goes sometimes, I go for the social side of things as much as the potential for fun, so it doesn't bother me too much but it does make you scratch your head sometimes... | |||
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"so its not a single guy problem its more than that but no the skin all the single guys who will have already been fucked over at paying to get in and then listen to those couples who dont want him there moaning all night and telling others that swinging is for couples only bordom rubbish .. This rings a bit true. I went to a club a couple of weeks ago, it was their Greedy Girls night. It looked like it was going to be a good night, about half a dozen couples in, some single girls too. Then 3 of the couples headed off to do a group thing that lasted till they went home, Talking to the female members of two of the other couples, they were not even aware that it was Greedy Girls night, and then commented that tey were only there for single girls or other couples. The other couple DID play and invilved some of the guys. Now as I see it, that's just how it goes sometimes, I go for the social side of things as much as the potential for fun, so it doesn't bother me too much but it does make you scratch your head sometimes... " If they didn't know there was a themed night then that's unfotunately on them. Clubs always advertise if there's a theme. Aside from that....just because it's a greedy girls night that doesn't mean men are guaranteed anything. Women still can decide who they want to fuck and if that's not you then that's life. Maybe the three couples decided there weren't any single guys that took their fancy and decided to have some fun with eachother? We pretty much only look to meet with single guys but if there's nobody we find interesting/attractive then we'll sure as hell not just settle for whoever is there that night. A | |||
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"Totally agree there I get totally ignored or made uncomfortable at clubs just for being a kind and Respectful person I am no oil painting or hung like a horse but when you are trying your best and some guy just takes over and then walks off with the persons that you have had the courage to chat to for a while just because thay are the right colour or endowed enough and keep holding it in full view of the world it makes you wonder if there is any point in being there This comment makes you sound very entitled. So someone chooses someone else over you because as you say 'thay are the right colour or endowed enough' ? That's their right. Just because you've chatted to someone it doesn't mean you're entitled to anything from them at all. This attitude is as negative as the behaviour people have already mentioned of guys following people and being pushy. Sounds a bit like you think you have the right. We all have our preferences A" | |||
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" Violence, I don't know which clubs you've been too but I suggest going elsewhere. Which clubs have you been to that don't have staff walking the floors? " Violence: A situation at my very popular local club ended up with a beer glass being thrown in the dress down area, there was broken glass everywhere and not a member of staff to be seen until he had time to leave the bar and sort it out. Floor walkers: I'm not talking about a member of bar staff who may or may not walk around once an hour, I'm talking about someone who's job it is to maintain a permanent presence and hence a better behaved clientele. | |||
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