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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham

We see this status very often, well in the guise of getting prepared for a mega hangover. We don't like seeing people in this state at clubs. Not great to be like this when consent is top of the agenda at swinging clubs. We steer clear of folk in this state. Question is do these posts on club discussions put you off going to clubs that seem to promote this. Clubs often put in their rules that if you have had to much alcohol they will ask you to leave and then seem to encourage drinking to excess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps when they say hope to get hammered it is not in the context of alcohol and maybe sexual hammered!

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By *iceGuyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"perhaps when they say hope to get hammered it is not in the context of alcohol and maybe sexual hammered!"

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough

We’ve been and had a drink and also been and not had a drink.

We both like a drink but don’t get hammered, nor have I come across anyone hammered. When we socialise in a club there’s usually a mix of people who are drinking and who aren’t.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"We’ve been and had a drink and also been and not had a drink.

We both like a drink but don’t get hammered, nor have I come across anyone hammered. When we socialise in a club there’s usually a mix of people who are drinking and who aren’t.

"

We have seen many in a state of hammered at clubs which is why we posted this topic. Do remember just before Covid there was a girl in her early 30's she had collapsed over a pool table at one of the clubs we used to visit. Wouldn't say it is prevalent and we do keep our alcohol intake to a minimum when we are in clubs.

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By *wfunCouple
over a year ago

Margate

Yep seen a number of people utterly wasted, mainly drink sometimes too. Saw someone to through a glass table at a so-called upmarket party could've died. Horrible to see.

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By *edhead72Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham and Ashby

Me and the gorgeous mabon just love to have a drink, a disco dance and we’ve just discovered it’s a lot of fun to do it in a club. Not getting hammered but enough to warrant getting a hotel room

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By *lueFireCouple
over a year ago

just somewhere around here

I (Mrs R) will have a couple of drinks but will not let myself get beyond the point if a little bit merry. I want to know what I am doing and also enjoy it and remember it! My Husband normally drives so neither if us get "hammered".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see this status very often, well in the guise of getting prepared for a mega hangover. We don't like seeing people in this state at clubs. Not great to be like this when consent is top of the agenda at swinging clubs. We steer clear of folk in this state. Question is do these posts on club discussions put you off going to clubs that seem to promote this. Clubs often put in their rules that if you have had to much alcohol they will ask you to leave and then seem to encourage drinking to excess"

It's funny you mention this because we were talking about this a couple of days ago. We've not visited a club yet and neither of us drink very much. We were saying that we wouldn't get involved with anyone who was d*unk, no matter how well we clicked, specifically because of potential issues around consent. Everyone involved should be able to consciously give consent. And withdraw it at any time of they aren't comfortable

Mrs

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By *ingeandTCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough


"We’ve been and had a drink and also been and not had a drink.

We both like a drink but don’t get hammered, nor have I come across anyone hammered. When we socialise in a club there’s usually a mix of people who are drinking and who aren’t.

We have seen many in a state of hammered at clubs which is why we posted this topic. Do remember just before Covid there was a girl in her early 30's she had collapsed over a pool table at one of the clubs we used to visit. Wouldn't say it is prevalent and we do keep our alcohol intake to a minimum when we are in clubs. "

Ah we’ve not come across anything like that (yet) x

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By *inkForLifeCouple
over a year ago

North Shields

It happens, and really makes me feel urgh.

I see more _very_ d*unk, inappropriate females than males though.

For example one of the last times I (male) was in a club, a woman I was talking to (she beckoned me over after she'd been chatting to my gf) who was with her partner, lent over the table, grabbed the ring on my leather collar, pulled me half across the table, said "see you're my bitch now", and then grabbed my nipple and twisted it.

I just walked away and had a semi laugh about it with my gf, but totally inappropriate behaviour.

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By *d4fun73Man
over a year ago

Shipley


"We see this status very often, well in the guise of getting prepared for a mega hangover. We don't like seeing people in this state at clubs. Not great to be like this when consent is top of the agenda at swinging clubs. We steer clear of folk in this state. Question is do these posts on club discussions put you off going to clubs that seem to promote this. Clubs often put in their rules that if you have had to much alcohol they will ask you to leave and then seem to encourage drinking to excess"

I don't think any club encourages drinking to excess!? Which club are you referring to?

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By *amnaughtybutniceWoman
over a year ago

tf1

I’ve seen very d*unk people in clubs and last weekend white stuff. Not my scene and not good look.

But I will admit to having had too much to drink on occasion particularly when I first started going to clubs. Bit of Dutch courage and misjudged my limit.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"We see this status very often, well in the guise of getting prepared for a mega hangover. We don't like seeing people in this state at clubs. Not great to be like this when consent is top of the agenda at swinging clubs. We steer clear of folk in this state. Question is do these posts on club discussions put you off going to clubs that seem to promote this. Clubs often put in their rules that if you have had to much alcohol they will ask you to leave and then seem to encourage drinking to excess

I don't think any club encourages drinking to excess!? Which club are you referring to?"

Not referring to any club, just as we look through the forum on the club discussion section we see the reference several times which got us thinking about past visits to clubs and seeing people wasted and not being challenged by staff. We were at a club back in October. There was a nice looking woman eyeing Mrs F up, we were watching said woman over the next 2 hours slowly drinking to excess. Later in the night she could hardly walk. It was at this point she decided to start touching Mrs F without asking, we both just gave her the look. If it had happened again we would have told staff and we know with which club we were in she would have been asked to leave. Like we said we don't find this prevalent in clubs but do find it amazing some plan to go to clubs with getting hammered in mind, really isn't a good look

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"We see this status very often, well in the guise of getting prepared for a mega hangover. We don't like seeing people in this state at clubs. Not great to be like this when consent is top of the agenda at swinging clubs. We steer clear of folk in this state. Question is do these posts on club discussions put you off going to clubs that seem to promote this. Clubs often put in their rules that if you have had to much alcohol they will ask you to leave and then seem to encourage drinking to excess

It's funny you mention this because we were talking about this a couple of days ago. We've not visited a club yet and neither of us drink very much. We were saying that we wouldn't get involved with anyone who was d*unk, no matter how well we clicked, specifically because of potential issues around consent. Everyone involved should be able to consciously give consent. And withdraw it at any time of they aren't comfortable

Mrs "

Go for it. We think clubs are the most relaxing place to be. Over the years we seem to have stopped going to pubs in town, now that is where you will find more hammered people than sober, we now spend nearly all our social time in clubs. We do our homework on which clubs to visit some we will never attend and some we have attended we will never go back to for different reasons.

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester


"It happens, and really makes me feel urgh.

I see more _very_ d*unk, inappropriate females than males though.

For example one of the last times I (male) was in a club, a woman I was talking to (she beckoned me over after she'd been chatting to my gf) who was with her partner, lent over the table, grabbed the ring on my leather collar, pulled me half across the table, said "see you're my bitch now", and then grabbed my nipple and twisted it.

I just walked away and had a semi laugh about it with my gf, but totally inappropriate behaviour.

"

Second that on inappropriate behavior from some "ladies" after alcohol..

One tried to drag Mr on the dance floor whilst trying to remove his belt and shirt, grabbing at his crotch and telling him what she was going to do to him..

Obviously I am biased, he's a hot, very good looking guy and many will say "lucky guy" or "my fantasy".

But he found her unattractive and had tried politely declining without making a scene, I was told straight for finding it amusing..

There seems a little double standards on such entitled behavior.

I hold my hands up for being guilty of that too and not being there for D as he would be for me

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By *edplusoneCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

We’ll take it in turns driving, and the non-driver drinks just a few to take the nerves off/settle in.

Last few club visits we have seen people drinking a lot, you must wonder why some feel they have to get hammered before they can play. Never seen white powder but it must happen, we’d avoid anyone high/d*unk for sure.

Maybe we are strange perverse people but we like going to clubs to play not get d*unk

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

once seen a man from a cpl leave his mrs in a little cul de sac in a club sat on her own asleep out mouth open, as he went upstairs for a bj off a lady ."oh she be ok theres people about" comment . unreal never ever would i leave the mrs unattended but she would never be in thay state anyway.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"once seen a man from a cpl leave his mrs in a little cul de sac in a club sat on her own asleep out mouth open, as he went upstairs for a bj off a lady ."oh she be ok theres people about" comment . unreal never ever would i leave the mrs unattended but she would never be in thay state anyway."
Some peoples actions are just so hard to comprehend. Him leaving her alone in that state and even worse her getting in that state if she knew she didn't have a partner who wouldn't put her safety first. But then again the said club should have been asking them to leave as a duty of care on the clubs behalf

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By *ustagentMan
over a year ago

wa14

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By *ustagentMan
over a year ago

wa14

Once saved a ladys life in a club, d*unk lady goes into the jaccuzi which is in a seperate room in the club, next to the loos, i go to use loo and find said lady underwater and unresponsive, drag lady out, and my old military training came in handy for cpr ,got help and managed to save her just in time, husband at bar oblivious to whats gone on, and inebriated, could easily of ended badly

drink in moderation please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (micky) have personally intervened to stop a gangbang when the lady receiving was somebody I knew and she was very intoxicated. I knew she was consenting to the sex but not bareback which people were trying and she had no idea. Have also asked a lady to stop and leave during a MFF as she was too d*unk to consent. Both of us like a drink more than most but never play with others if we’ve had a few (not that we ever have too much in a club environment). It’s a legal minefield to all parties if anything goes wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some it’s just like going to the pub. I wonder where I got that idea from

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"For some it’s just like going to the pub. I wonder where I got that idea from "

To be honest we don't go into town anymore. Pubs have lots of hammered folk in them and just a few who have only had the odd drink. Clubs have lots of folk who have had just an odd drink or two and just the occasional hammered person or two. Since we started going to clubs we found people are much more respectful towards others. When we used to go to pubs Mrs F would be touched regularly and getting unwanted attention, in clubs this just doesn't happen, well very very rarely and if people are touching without asking, the clubs we go to would ask people with a lack of respect to leave. As we have seen in previous posts on this thread people are seeing people in clubs getting into a state where the club should be asking them to leave. We do think a lot of clubs do police their policy but unfortunately there are lots of clubs that don't

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

I rarely drink at a club, and have seen a few d*unk people in various venues but it's always been dealt with swiftly and discreetly. Doesn't put me off attending clubs

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

Never seen someone completely hammered, seen a few past the point of being a bit merry though.

If they’re d*unk we won’t do anymore than talk and even that’s at a push. I don’t drink and can’t stand d*unk people shouting in my ear.

If the club continues to keep plying someone with drink then that’s down to the club. If we saw that then we probably wouldn’t be back.

As for women grabbing men etc, speak to the staff. If they won’t eject someone for that behavior then we’d leave. It’s sexual assault, being in a swingers club does not change that.

Mr.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We have never seen anyone in Madrid or London at the classy clubs we play at in this state. It is both very unattractive and also dangerous with consent issues.

G & A

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By *allguynowMan
over a year ago

durham

Let's make no bones about it. I've seen people in clubs drinking vast amounts of booze that would kill an elephant. I've seen people so pissed they are totally out of control. Shouting on, thinking they are funny when actually they are completely boring. I've seen people virtually passing out and they have been told to leave. I was in a club one night when one guy fell asleep in jacuzzi with too much booze and nearly drowned. Far better to limit the booze, be confident, sexy with a bit of class.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We prefer to be sober whilst at clubs. We did have a drink on our first visit to calm the nerves but I feel much more comfortable alcohol free I’ve seen a few people quite d*unk at clubs but we just don’t play with them.

Drugs is a big no too.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We are definitely in the defense of those that like a drink. I think there is a difference between stating your going to have a fair few drinks resulting in a hangover the next day and being so steaming d*unk you've lost control.

We often like a good drink too. Not always and we also enjoy clubs totally sober as well. But we do to love a drink, let our hair in and out of the club environment. We are perfectly capable of being a bit intoxicated and be in control of our ability to obtain and give consent. We're all adults and it's big rules. Totally understand those who avoid those who are intoxicated. We have ourselves avoided those who have not handled their drink well.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Drinking to excess in swinger clubs is no different to being out in the vanillaland; there’s a fine line between having a great time and becoming a nuisance. You just avoid those who have had too much

I’ve turned down ladies in swinger clubs who can’t walk in their heels, as it just didn’t feel ‘right’….? The worst I saw was a woman in La Chambre. She was so d*unk, that after putting on a show on the stage pole (which resulted in her gushing all over the stage), she collapsed onto a sofa. Five minutes later a taxi arrived, and she was literally carried out unconscious…..

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By *ainbows_can_be_metal_tooCouple
over a year ago

Darlington

When we first went to club f yes we drank way too much but we were nervous as hell. We did however anticipate this and promised not to engage in any play that night which we didn't, it was more of a recon mission. We made friends, had some great chats and spent time in the hot tub. Second time around we hardly drank and still had a great time with the option of play being on the table, again we didn't.

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By *TG3Man
over a year ago

Dorchester

Drinking to excess just isn't needed ever and drinking and sex do not go together, being pissed in a club or walking around a club with a bottle of beer in your hand isn't good for you or your image

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"I rarely drink at a club, and have seen a few d*unk people in various venues but it's always been dealt with swiftly and discreetly. Doesn't put me off attending clubs"

Good the clubs you attend deal with it as it shows they are looking out for people and run their club professionally

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"We see this status very often, well in the guise of getting prepared for a mega hangover. We don't like seeing people in this state at clubs. Not great to be like this when consent is top of the agenda at swinging clubs. We steer clear of folk in this state. Question is do these posts on club discussions put you off going to clubs that seem to promote this. Clubs often put in their rules that if you have had to much alcohol they will ask you to leave and then seem to encourage drinking to excess"

The first time I ever went to a club (not the one I love going to now I want to make that clear) there was a couple going through the doors and they were hammered! At that point I thought “oh what happens if they do something in here they regret and were not in a position to have all their faculties about them?”

It’s the last time I took alcoholic drinks to a club!

People who know me know that if I see someone d*unk in a club i turn into “Sean the social worker” consent is a blurry enough line without alcohol also being involved!

Besides nice enough non alcoholic wines beer and Guinness are available!!!

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By *eau and ArrowCouple
over a year ago

Bromsgrove

Potentially controversial but..

We have on very rare occasions done exactly this. Booked a hotel room and planned to get d*unk…in the sense that it is similar to doing this at a pub (nye etc) admittedly rarely but we would rather do this in a swingers club than a vanilla? Pub/club

On these occasions we don’t go to play but it gives us a chance to let off steam without pressure. We genuinely find people in clubs less pushy than vanilla venues

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By *entlemanFoxMan
over a year ago

North East / London

OP,

As I usually have to drive to clubs, I never drink alcohol.

I get to really watch people. I much prefer people who make intelligent decisions.

Someone who is hammered just isn't attractive, no matter how physically beautiful they may be.

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By * and B OP   Couple
over a year ago

Durham


"OP,

As I usually have to drive to clubs, I never drink alcohol.

I get to really watch people. I much prefer people who make intelligent decisions.

Someone who is hammered just isn't attractive, no matter how physically beautiful they may be. "

I Mr B drives to clubs if we are staying in a Hotel not close. If I am not driving I might have a couple of cans of Guinness. Mrs F doesn't really drink, if she does fancy a tipple she does take a small bottle of Prosecco which holds 2 small glasses. We love people watching and we can pick out very early the people who are going to be very wobbly later in the night. It isn't a good look in a club at all. We started out going to a local club to us and seen quite a few people in this state and as a poster said just a few up we also decided we wouldn't be going back to that club and never have. Going to a club where you see it now and again is all part of life but to be in a club that has that kind of culture is a no from us

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By *ittle MonkeysCouple
over a year ago

Kimberley


"Potentially controversial but..

We have on very rare occasions done exactly this. Booked a hotel room and planned to get d*unk…in the sense that it is similar to doing this at a pub (nye etc) admittedly rarely but we would rather do this in a swingers club than a vanilla? Pub/club

On these occasions we don’t go to play but it gives us a chance to let off steam without pressure. We genuinely find people in clubs less pushy than vanilla venues"

^^^^^ THIS ^^^^^^

We always have a drink, and more often than not we are a little pissed but the end of the night and we are cool with that. We go for a good time and find it’s much easier to have a good time in swinger clubs than venturing into town on a Saturday night. In your standard bars and clubs excessive alcohol tends to followed with arguments or even violence which I don’t tend to see in swinger venues. Yes we may be a little wobbly and some might think that’s not a good look, but we don’t really care. We are not out to impress anyone and are more than happy to wobble home without any play….our aim is to enjoy ourselves and we generally do

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By *ightNWet69Woman
over a year ago

dark side of the moon


"Potentially controversial but..

We have on very rare occasions done exactly this. Booked a hotel room and planned to get d*unk…in the sense that it is similar to doing this at a pub (nye etc) admittedly rarely but we would rather do this in a swingers club than a vanilla? Pub/club

On these occasions we don’t go to play but it gives us a chance to let off steam without pressure. We genuinely find people in clubs less pushy than vanilla venues

^^^^^ THIS ^^^^^^

We always have a drink, and more often than not we are a little pissed but the end of the night and we are cool with that. We go for a good time and find it’s much easier to have a good time in swinger clubs than venturing into town on a Saturday night. In your standard bars and clubs excessive alcohol tends to followed with arguments or even violence which I don’t tend to see in swinger venues. Yes we may be a little wobbly and some might think that’s not a good look, but we don’t really care. We are not out to impress anyone and are more than happy to wobble home without any play….our aim is to enjoy ourselves and we generally do

"

I've said similar myself, the vibe in clubs is totally different, you don't seem to get the aggressive kind of d*unks that want to cause fights or trouble. Yes some people may get d*unk & maybe a lot more d*unk than expected or they should be BUT there doesn't seem to be the bad behaviour that you find in 'vanilla' kind of clubs

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By *eordiesCouple
over a year ago

newcastle

Yeah, we have seen all stages of d*unkeness in clubs. Years ago when we went to a long gone club in Newcastle it was very evident, as was people smoking dope. Amazing tales from that place, but can't remember any violence.

Probably the amount of d*unkeness is a bit less in clubs these days.

But you know what we do see fairly often in clubs ? Unsafe sex !

Strangely, in peoples' profiles you might see "prefer bareback" or similar. You don't often see stuff like "yes we like a drink at a club".

But which is more dangerous, waking up with a hangover or waking up with an STI.

So yeah, come and talk to us if you have had a drink, but please avoid us if you want unsafe sex !

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

No, doesn’t put me off.

It’s up to the individual, not everyone goes to have sex.

How the club chose to deal with very d*unk, I’m considering or disrespectful people is what I judge them on, not if individuals wish to have a drink.

I’ve gone plenty of times for a social and got d*unk with good friends.

Each to their own

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By *_the_impalerMan
over a year ago

canterbury

I expect it’s just like everyone’s normal comfortable levels

I tend to stay away from plastered people and same in a club but my caring side in a club I find if the staff don’t get the person home I have been known to help them to a comfortable corner to sleep it off

I personally wouldn’t enjoy my night if I couldn’t stand

J

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By *oShrinkingVioletWoman
over a year ago

the land of unicorns and fairytales

well twice in a year I’ve had a good drink but behaved

!! But predominantly I’m a driver I am pretty much teetotal

I see it all the time people taking the Dutch courage too far and end up spoiling the night for themselves and others not to mention making the staff who work at the clubs lives harder trying to get them out safely, get taxis and often clean up the mess they’ve made !!

When it’s someone new as well it’s hard for people to ascertain whether someone is capable of giving consent and when questioned many will say they’re fine and happy but really you have to get that hammered to play, more often than not all parties playing have had a good swally however some folk are totally sober and begs the question are they actively going to target the ones who are d*unk ?

It’s not just in the swinging community but society as a whole ! There’s this acceptance that alcohol is part and parcel of life when truth be told even as a single female if a guy was in my opinion even more than a little tipsy I’d much rather NOT go there unless we were together as a couple no matter how sexy and hot he may be let’s wait till the morning and see if you still wanna fuck me !!

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By *rPeachPiercedPrincessCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"We see this status very often, well in the guise of getting prepared for a mega hangover. We don't like seeing people in this state at clubs. Not great to be like this when consent is top of the agenda at swinging clubs. We steer clear of folk in this state. Question is do these posts on club discussions put you off going to clubs that seem to promote this. Clubs often put in their rules that if you have had to much alcohol they will ask you to leave and then seem to encourage drinking to excess"

We’ve seen many of sloppy d*unks over period we have been going to clubs and events. I get sometimes you need a bit of Dutch courage but there is a difference between that and getting hammered. If you wanted to get blindo, get yourself out on the town

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By *eiaorganaWoman
over a year ago

Dundee


"I rarely drink at a club, and have seen a few d*unk people in various venues but it's always been dealt with swiftly and discreetly. Doesn't put me off attending clubs

Good the clubs you attend deal with it as it shows they are looking out for people and run their club professionally "

CJ has been running her place for a long time and hires decent staff, they take no shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to be tipsy in clubs to be honest. I’ll get hammered on events if I’m bored or uncomfortable or someone spikes my drinks..

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

I've worked in a few clubs and have quite happily refused someone more alcohol when they have d*unk too much. I have also had to look after a few pretty d*unk women and ensure they were safe. It's remarkable the amount of people who would try to get them to play in such a state but they wouldn't have been capable of giving sound consent at all. I've never really come across many overly d*unk men to be honest. Being a non drinker I don't really find d*unk people very attractive so wouldn't play with them at all. The most pushy people for me have always been quite d*unk women.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry


"I've worked in a few clubs and have quite happily refused someone more alcohol when they have d*unk too much. I have also had to look after a few pretty d*unk women and ensure they were safe. It's remarkable the amount of people who would try to get them to play in such a state but they wouldn't have been capable of giving sound consent at all. I've never really come across many overly d*unk men to be honest. Being a non drinker I don't really find d*unk people very attractive so wouldn't play with them at all. The most pushy people for me have always been quite d*unk women.

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To be fair this is a risk factor, especially with very d*unk lone females. We have seen a sort of preditor behaviour from some couples and single guys trying to lead them off to rooms when it's clear their not in a good way (some people also come mentality in the wrong frame of mind for whatever reasons in their personal life), not quite with it and/or just not exactly giving the vibe they are really up for it. Its not to say you can't give consent d*unk. We're all adults and it's not about policing people's good times. However you know when something is just not right and when a vibe is all wrong. In those instances we and our freinds have found ourselves having to sort of step in and make sure they're safe. Obviously is someones determined to do something they will, but most of the time they'll come with you. Which in its self is a sign that they are in a state where they are suggestible, easily lead, not exactly of their own free will and thus probably not in the best place to give sound consent.

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