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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do people think this rule does or does not apply in clubs?

I was in Chams this week and several times had to tell guys 'thanks but no thanks' when their fingers were already inside me.

Now in real life, this would be sexual assault.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You didn't notice until their fingers were inside you?

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By *uckbunnieCouple
over a year ago

Redcar

common courtesy to ask 1st, or give some sign of interest, so yes it defo applys in clubs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In any life it's sexual assault report them and get them ejected c

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The NO means NO rule should stand anywhere

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

both men and women should ask...

if it happens

men are rightly condemned for it

women, well it's all a bit of a giggle

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Always applies! Thats truly appalling hun. Its always a rule in respected clubs, did you complain to the owners at all?

We've had people do this and after them ignoring the no thanks and touching me again, we've gone and told the owners and they had a little word and if it happens again with anyone else they got banned. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You didn't notice until their fingers were inside you? "

No, I didn't notice until then, because I was busy playing with a partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"both men and women should ask...

if it happens

men are rightly condemned for it

women, well it's all a bit of a giggle"
That's very true altho I would never just make a grab for a guy, I know a few ladies that do but I've never seen a lady rejected by a male either

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"both men and women should ask...

if it happens

men are rightly condemned for it

women, well it's all a bit of a giggleThat's very true altho I would never just make a grab for a guy, I know a few ladies that do but I've never seen a lady rejected by a male either "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You didn't notice until their fingers were inside you?

No, I didn't notice until then, because I was busy playing with a partner. "
I suppose if your in a situation like a jaccuzzi it's hard to know who's touching who sometimes

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

We personally don't mind gentle touching to indicate intent - like most people Kate has her eyes closed while Playing, if she feels a touch shell look and then make eye contact and either shake/ nod or say yes or no. We've never had to do anymore than that.

I don't want to get into a conversation while playing, if someone doesn't stop then that's a different matter. I think if someone had gone straight for putting fingers in I'd have been none too happy either.

I agree assault is assault, but at the same time accept their has to be an element of common sense and mutual respect because of the environment you are in.

We apply the same logic when approaching people, Kate will usually gently stroke a leg or something and gauge the reaction it's usually pretty obvious if someone isn't intrested.

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dislike being touched without being asked first, even when I am in the jacuzzi.

Those who brave it would get a straight no.

That's just the way I operate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like it and I wouldnt touch anyone without checking first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

D doesn't mind guys touching her leg gently but we would both expect nothing else to happen without being asked.

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By *ll-Knight-longMan
over a year ago

Derby/Notts(Long Eaton)

Eye contact is always preferable or as you say a gentle caress somewhere safe until getting approval with a nod ,smile or a hand however in the jacuzzi or a " multiple pileup" lol it can get a bit confusing who is doing what

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This may sound silly but i have never had the confidence to walk up to a stranger in a club and start touching them up,i have seen guys do it quite regularly and get away with it in most cases they start touching before they have even spoke to the lady.

I like it when a ladies come up to me in a club and start touching me because that shows confidence on their part and i'm never going to complain

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I would never object to a pat on the arm or a stroke of the knee to ascertain interest. But putting your fingers in my vagina is an invite only action.

I am pissed off with myself for not being more vocal wwhen it happened.

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