FabSwingers.com forum: Are we welcome at a club?

By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

We are keen to visit a club at some stage, but are not sure we're the right fit for them.

A lot of clubs seem to advertise for couples and single ladies, and we've even seen some that say "strictly no single males"...

So this is our dilemma. Does that caveat/exclusion include us?

We enjoy playing in the cuckquean dynamic, with a few tweaks and alterations to suit what we like, as I'm sure everyone does with their own dynamics. But this does mean that for 99% of the time the Wife is a spectator and it is Hubby alone that plays. When she does play it's soft play with another lady.

We're both bi, albeit with limited experience each, but she prefers the voyeur side and watching other woman with him. All our previous partners have come from real world and a few fab meets, not clubs or parties.

Would we still be welcome at a club, or is our dynamic not really compatible?

Would there be 'specialist' nights to look out for? Or even to avoid?

Thanks all

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By *itty_gizmoCouple
over a year ago

Mordor

You'd 100% be welcome to clubs!

The club themselves won't mind how your dynamic works so long as you enter as a couple and leave as a couple, how you play through out the night isn't their business so long as you aren't breaking rules of course!

You'd be more than welcome to attend both kinds of evenings, some don't like to include single men in their play so would rather attend nights they aren't able to attend, some couples don't play with other couples so the fact that your lovely lady is happy to spectate can also work too on either evenings too

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By *woforfun 1000Couple
over a year ago

surrey

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By *woforfun 1000Couple
over a year ago

surrey

Clubs are very welcoming to all dynamics! Couples nights may be a bit tricky as usually they are looking for a female or couple swap but a single male night would be fine! I’d happy play with a husband with the wife watching but would prob like my man there to watch too but that’s just me everyone’s different! I’d say def go along to a single male night and explain your scenario to couples and if they are anything like my man who loves to watch me enjoy myself then shouldn’t be an issue.

Plus clubs are great fun play or not so you will find u will have a great time anyway! We always do!

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

If you are both bi why not try a bi night at a club?

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By *RST OP Couple
over a year ago

S. Northants

"If you are both bi why not try a bi night at a club? "

She's more voyeur than bi, and I'm not necessarily on the hunt for MM fun... But happy to take it when the opportunity arises. I suppose it comes down to not really knowing what to expect at a bi night though too a little bit

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"We are keen to visit a club at some stage, but are not sure we're the right fit for them.

A lot of clubs seem to advertise for couples and single ladies, and we've even seen some that say "strictly no single males"...

So this is our dilemma. Does that caveat/exclusion include us?

Would we still be welcome at a club, or is our dynamic not really compatible?

Would there be 'specialist' nights to look out for? Or even to avoid?

Thanks all

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. I met a couple in a club a couple of months ago with some similarities to you the lady liked to just socialise with men and women but did not play at all watched some of the time but generally stayed in the bar / lounge area.The male male would act like a single guy who interacted with other couples.So yes I think the dynamics of your relationship could work in the club world.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

"If you are both bi why not try a bi night at a club?

I'd say a bi night could work for you as no matter what your preference you only play with who you would like to. No expectations should be standard at a club meet. Chatting to people is necessary to find out people likes and desires. Chat on forums and other chat places to connect prior to an event. You may find a connection there. But whatever you are looking for, go for the social, chat with like minded people and see how you feel. I love the diverse people I've met and had some great times. I don't always play. It's got to feel right

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By *eyeYCouple
over a year ago

Nr Leicester

Unsure why on earth you wouldn't be!? Only caveat being how strict on your prefered dynamic are you? Bluntly too many rules would potentially be a turn off in a dynamic situation

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Single guys are a valuable part of the scene. I know single ladies and couples who specifically avoid couples nights because it's single guys they want.

However single guys are not always treated as valued. Some places single guys are very much treated as 2nd class citizens. As someone who goes to clubs alone and as a couple with my other half I've seen the disparity. Sometimes it's a simple as a tiny filthy broom cupboard for the single guys changing rooms and a huge Palace of a room for the couples and ladies changing room. Sometimes it's just the attitude of the club and staff. However not all clubs are the same. I don't go to clubs as a lone male where I don't feel a valued customer. The club I go to has a very egalitarian feel and set up for all customer. There not that feeling of a pecking order you feel in some clubs. And you know what treating single man equally has not made it a sausage fest full of the wanking dead. Its well attended by single ladies and couples.

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