FabSwingers.com forum: Attending a club with a woman without registering as a couple?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The title may seem strange but hear me out.

I'm chatting with a woman via an app, we aren't a couple, but we're talking about attending a club as a couple (I use the term loosely here)...the intention is that we will be together 8n the club all night (not using her as a 'ticket')

There may not be any longevity in this connection... So I wouldn't want to register at a club as a couple. I'd be looking to register as a single male at the club (and her a single female).

But many clubs have entry restrictions when it comes to single males...so do you think clubs would allow me to attend a couple's night with her if we are both registered as singles?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would depend on the club i guess

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

"The title may seem strange but hear me out.

There may not be any longevity in this connection... So I wouldn't want to register at a club as a couple. I'd be looking to register as a single male at the club (and her a single female).

But many clubs have entry restrictions when it comes to single males...so do you think clubs would allow me to attend a couple's night with her if we are both registered as singles?"

Le boudoir do I think, they are strict though so no playing the system!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It might be good to tell people you meet what your status is. It may not matter to some but it may matter to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know of a couple of single guys that attend a particular local club local to us in this fashion but it’s a non members club.

At a members club maybe £25 to join as a couple plus entrance?

Is it so much to lose for a night out?

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

First of all, OP: have you ever met this woman? If no, would you really want to go to a swingers club with a total stranger, someone you have never met in real life? You may have the best connection in the online world but the reality might be totally different, particularly the reality of swingers clubs.

If you have met her in real life, my question is, has any of you ever been to a swingers club? People tend to behave differently there- I'm talking from my own experience.

If it's a couple's night only at a club, they are only allowing couples and single ladies, normally. So I highly doubt you'd be able to come as two singles.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"It might be good to tell people you meet what your status is. It may not matter to some but it may matter to others. "

I really don't get it why it matters to some people whether a couple in a swingers club is an actual couple (like what? Married? In long term relationship?) or just a couple for the night/FBs/FWBs. The chances are, we may never cross paths again.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"First of all, OP: have you ever met this woman? If no, would you really want to go to a swingers club with a total stranger, someone you have never met in real life? You may have the best connection in the online world but the reality might be totally different, particularly the reality of swingers clubs.

If you have met her in real life, my question is, has any of you ever been to a swingers club? People tend to behave differently there- I'm talking from my own experience.

If it's a couple's night only at a club, they are only allowing couples and single ladies, normally. So I highly doubt you'd be able to come as two singles. "

This ^^

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I really don't get it why it matters to some people whether a couple in a swingers club is an actual couple (like what? Married? In long term relationship?) or just a couple for the night/FBs/FWBs."

You get a different dynamic with a 'real' couple. They know each other, they care about each other, they're comfortable together. That's important to some people.

Also, swinging is a transgressive activity, and society has a taboo about sex with people who are in a relationship. Playing with a 'real' couple is going to add to that thrill. Again, this can be important to some.

I'm sure there are many other reasons. They won't apply to everyone, and it's not important to some. Those are just the first two I thought of.

As for the original question: you'd have to ask the club you're planning on going to. Some definitely won't allow two singles in to a couples event. Some might, but it's up to the individual club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It might be good to tell people you meet what your status is. It may not matter to some but it may matter to others.

Preference we don't want to be with FWBs or people who have just hooked up - simple as that. There is a different dynamic as far as we are concerned with long term couples.

You don't get it because it's not your preference.

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By *imply DeeWoman
over a year ago

Wherever

"The title may seem strange but hear me out.

There may not be any longevity in this connection... So I wouldn't want to register at a club as a couple. I'd be looking to register as a single male at the club (and her a single female).

But many clubs have entry restrictions when it comes to single males...so do you think clubs would allow me to attend a couple's night with her if we are both registered as singles?"

I’m going to be honest.

You tried your best to word it to sound as genuine as it can be.

But it’s just awful. It’s not fair to the club, not fair to other couples and I won’t even mention the lady, goodness knows how far aware she even is but I have no details on that so I won’t be going there.

There is a reason why I won’t ever meet FWB couples.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

People say the important bit for couples on couples night is the committed relationship of the other potential playmates.

Playing the devil's advocate, the bit that puzzles me is how single women fit in. Should not couples nights be couples only and no singles of either sex.

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By *ohn KanakaMan
over a year ago

Not all that North of North London

I dint understand why you dint just register as a couple?

That said, going to a club with someone you've never previously met seem a ridiculous idea to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow, so much judgment!

We've connected via feeld (an app for non-vanilla types).

I've not met her yet, but intend doing so *before* we go anywhere near a club. In other words we'll have [ahem] done our thing together before embarking on a club adventure.

I'm just doing the prep-work (research) here. (I always apply the seven Ps...Proper, Planning & Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance)

Thanks to those who contributed in good spirit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(I should add, we'd not be out to dupe anybody ...we intend being upfront i.e. "we met via an app & are now on a sexual adventure together" ...that way, those who seek only to engage with "couples" in a full-on relationship can make their choice)

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

"Wow, so much judgment!

We've connected via feeld (an app for non-vanilla types).

I've not met her yet, but intend doing so *before* we go anywhere near a club. In other words we'll have [ahem] done our thing together before embarking on a club adventure.

I'm just doing the prep-work (research) here. (I always apply the seven Ps...Proper, Planning & Preparation Prevents Piss Poor Performance)

Thanks to those who contributed in good spirit."

Two profiles, one person!!

Some clubs (though not many) don't require membership or registration. The Attic in Derby being one.

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