FabSwingers.com forum: First time at a club.

By *kywalker22 OP Man
over a year ago

Ambleside

My partner and I are wanting to have our first club experience. We would like to watch and be watched too. We are both bi curious and want to explore that...but both quite shy too...

I've read threads on here..how it's just like a normal bar..pub..but how does that actually play out?

We like the idea of a jacuzzi..hot tub..with another couple..then maybe taking it elsewhere?

Are there private rooms you could take yourselves..others too? We not ready for group action..just want to take it slow

We are looking at infusions and club play in Blackpool...any advice welcome

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

First of all clubs are all slightly different in rooms, format, vibe and dress code. Not been to that club although it's very much on me and My Girls list. So check the club website and forums on here to find out specifics. But most clubs (not all) have some private play rooms.

But yes in general to all clubs just go with no intentions other that to enjoy the environment and each other. Granted discuss a few does and don't if things do progress a bit futher. Not apply pressure to yourself or your other for things to happen, it's a recipe for disaster. Just enjoy the flow and atmosphere, let things flow naturally and just enjoy together. Club nights are random and no two nights the same. So don't take the night (good or bad) to mean that how you next club night will be.

As to Jacuzzis that is a good place to get to know people better and explore the potential chemistry. For one just being naked together puts people on an equal level and helps judge how comfortable they are with you and you them. And the hottub is sometimes a good opening to getting very close to each other naked and maybe some light petting if the attraction is mutual. Also if not already in the hottub asking a couple to the hottub is kind of a soft invite. A half committal extra step (or just a soft option if taking it slow) to playing. After all if things work goes well in the hottub and your feeling it you can always invite them to a room going forward.

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By *kywalker22 OP Man
over a year ago

Ambleside

Thank you 'Frontier' for your informative reply. We're both really nervous...and quite shy..

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By *ylvieMWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Thank you 'Frontier' for your informative reply. We're both really nervous...and quite shy.."

Having been to both, infusions is more of a wet club if thats what you're looking for (and when I went, there were lots of newbie couples there).

Club play is a bit larger and the hosts are fantastic, but the most people we spoke to had a bit more experience with club life.

Depends what you fancy!

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By *kywalker22 OP Man
over a year ago

Ambleside

Thanks for your post Sylvie. I think newbie couples sounds more like us at the moment. Like the idea of wet play too..

What about day times..? Are they quieter? More relaxed? The reviews for both clubs sound so good.

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By *ylvieMWoman
over a year ago

Aylesbury

"Thanks for your post Sylvie. I think newbie couples sounds more like us at the moment. Like the idea of wet play too..

What about day times..? Are they quieter? More relaxed? The reviews for both clubs sound so good."

Sorry I've never been in the day so I cant comment on that! But I really enjoyed my time at both, and the guys were very respectful

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By *aughtycp1Couple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Some clubs have special nights for couples new to the club scene. We host a special night called Vanilla To Vixen at Liberty Elite. We Especially invite and welcome newbie couples. As well as established Vixens.

This way couples know there will be other couples there in the same boat. Sometimes it's easier to socialise that way x

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

Infusions is a great club! Inside feels like you're by the hotel pool at night on holiday

There's some excellent advice here already! The best tip we'd give us to just go and do your own thing to begin with. Have a wander around the club, getting a feel for the place. People don't tend to start playing until later on so it's a good time to nosey about the playrooms and social spaces.

From memory, there are a couple of private rooms with locks on the doors upstairs. Maybe start the evening in one of those, just the two of you, to get the feel for having sex in a club. Later on, maybe repeat the process but in one of the open play rooms. There's a large orgy room at the end of the corridor upstairs that's good fun

People are more likely to initiate things if you're already playing and it's a lot more natural to involve others at that point. No ones going to force themselves on you and you can do a lot of invitation and boundary setting with eye contact, pointing and head shakes

You can ALWAYS say no at any point.

If you're like us, you'll probably find you go further than you'd talked about. It's good to spend a lot of time talking through various scenarios before you go. We have hard limits and soft limits in clubs. Hard limits are definite ones that we won't break, no mater how horny we get. Soft ones are things we're not strictly looking to do but may do if it feels right in the moment. If you know those going in, you'll save a lot if time and miscommunications.

Ultimately, clubs are whatever you make them! You always hold the power to stop things and leave if it's all too much

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