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First Event Advice for a Single Man

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By *ananainPublic OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Evening all!

I'm due to attend my first event this weekend and wanted to ask if anyone had any advice.

I like to think I'm a well mannered, non-dickish man but as I'm outside of my comfort zone, I would appreciate any and all advice.

How do you like your single men at couples / limited singles events?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Evening all!

I'm due to attend my first event this weekend and wanted to ask if anyone had any advice.

I like to think I'm a well mannered, non-dickish man but as I'm outside of my comfort zone, I would appreciate any and all advice.

How do you like your single men at couples / limited singles events?"

Dude, giving up sending messages on here and going to socials was the best thing I ever did. From my short but productive experience, just smile and say hello to everyone. Sometimes these things become a bit clicky, and the single guy in the corner will get left behind.

Don't talk about experiences or brags, just chat.

Hope it goes well.

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

quite close to you


"Evening all!

I'm due to attend my first event this weekend and wanted to ask if anyone had any advice.

I like to think I'm a well mannered, non-dickish man but as I'm outside of my comfort zone, I would appreciate any and all advice.

How do you like your single men at couples / limited singles events?

Dude, giving up sending messages on here and going to socials was the best thing I ever did. From my short but productive experience, just smile and say hello to everyone. Sometimes these things become a bit clicky, and the single guy in the corner will get left behind.

Don't talk about experiences or brags, just chat.

Hope it goes well."

Yeah just chill out. Nothing worse than desperation.

For the single guy just remember the Three C’s:

Be CLEAN

Be Courteous

Be CALM

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By *riAndPrincessCouple
over a year ago

Winsford

Sounds like you have the right approach basically coming from a couple what single guys need to remember is they are one of sooo soooo many, we personally normally only play with guys that talk to us normal and don’t expect to play, not saying don’t be confident in yourself but don’t ever be pushy or expecting to just get an easy shag, reality is single straight guys are at the very bottom of the pyramid in the swinging world, with unicorns being at the very top.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm also going to my first social tomorrow so all advice given is duly noted and taken on board.

Good luck op

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to having 2 children under 2 and noone brave enough to babysit both yet myself and K agreed I could attend our local club event for the the first time as a solo male.

Was I nervous going in solo for the first time absolutely, but I've always liked the feeling of butterflies in your stomach lol, there was no need for any worries because as soon as entered I was warmly welcomed.

Over the evening I spoke to loads of different people from the scene, single guys, couples, single ladies, Trans etc everyone was polite, engaging and friendly. (that includes all the people who weren't looking for a solo guy)

Later in the evening when things heated up and play started in the open room area I was invited to join and had a great time.

KJ Mr

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By *r SensualMan
over a year ago

London


"Sounds like you have the right approach basically coming from a couple what single guys need to remember is they are one of sooo soooo many, we personally normally only play with guys that talk to us normal and don’t expect to play, not saying don’t be confident in yourself but don’t ever be pushy or expecting to just get an easy shag, reality is single straight guys are at the very bottom of the pyramid in the swinging world, with unicorns being at the very top. "

It’s comments like “single straight men are at the very bottom of the pyramid of the swinging world” that put off genuine single males such as the OP from attending clubs when in fact this is far from the truth. Remember some people’s dynamic is very much focused around single men and everyone is looking for something different.

As long as one walks in with a smile on the face, comes across as chatty, polite, sociable and respectful, then good times will follow. I’ve been to many a club myself, done all of the above and have yet to have a single bad club experience.

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley


"Sounds like you have the right approach basically coming from a couple what single guys need to remember is they are one of sooo soooo many, we personally normally only play with guys that talk to us normal and don’t expect to play, not saying don’t be confident in yourself but don’t ever be pushy or expecting to just get an easy shag, reality is single straight guys are at the very bottom of the pyramid in the swinging world, with unicorns being at the very top.

It’s comments like “single straight men are at the very bottom of the pyramid of the swinging world” that put off genuine single males such as the OP from attending clubs when in fact this is far from the truth. Remember some people’s dynamic is very much focused around single men and everyone is looking for something different.

As long as one walks in with a smile on the face, comes across as chatty, polite, sociable and respectful, then good times will follow. I’ve been to many a club myself, done all of the above and have yet to have a single bad club experience. "

Well said OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like you have the right approach basically coming from a couple what single guys need to remember is they are one of sooo soooo many, we personally normally only play with guys that talk to us normal and don’t expect to play, not saying don’t be confident in yourself but don’t ever be pushy or expecting to just get an easy shag, reality is single straight guys are at the very bottom of the pyramid in the swinging world, with unicorns being at the very top.

It’s comments like “single straight men are at the very bottom of the pyramid of the swinging world” that put off genuine single males such as the OP from attending clubs when in fact this is far from the truth. Remember some people’s dynamic is very much focused around single men and everyone is looking for something different.

As long as one walks in with a smile on the face, comes across as chatty, polite, sociable and respectful, then good times will follow. I’ve been to many a club myself, done all of the above and have yet to have a single bad club experience.

Well said OP. "

He isn't the OP but I very much agree with his post and clearly he is one of the single guys who gets and embraces the swinging scene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I may pop to pleasures friday

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We attend Pleasures regularly on a Friday night when single guys are allowed.

We honestly try to engage and chat with any single guys that seem interested because we do realise how hard it can be for you.

Keep going, keep trying.

You are needed and appreciated.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

I seen single men have a whale of a time at clubs playing with couples. Where single women like myself really struggle as I'm not into couples myself being straight or wanting to share a guy with another woman. So am left with the single men who frankly act really desperate which is definitely not a good look. I guess the more attractive you are and well hung, the more likely you get action with a couple. But seems like most single men can wank and play alittle with couples too.

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By *etsplay68Man
over a year ago

beaconsfield


"I seen single men have a whale of a time at clubs playing with couples. Where single women like myself really struggle as I'm not into couples myself being straight or wanting to share a guy with another woman. So am left with the single men who frankly act really desperate which is definitely not a good look. I guess the more attractive you are and well hung, the more likely you get action with a couple. But seems like most single men can wank and play alittle with couples too."

maybe a good idea would be to arrange tomeet a guy at a club then if you get on you can have some fun together with no pressure and go your seperate ways after , i go to Kestrels during the day sometimes which is a bit more chilled -yes most clubs have a few wanking dead attending but there are some normal chatty chilled out fellas that go that would love to have your company

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