FabSwingers.com forum: Sex in the pool at kestrels/Abfab

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Anyone else think the new “no sex in the pool out hot tubs” rule to be inconsistent with the place being a swingers club?

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By *lynJMan
over a year ago

Morden

Isn't it for reasons of hygiene?

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By *verysmileMan
over a year ago

Canterbury

There was always a "no sex in the pool" policy.....it's just that everyone ignored it and it was never enforced.

Not sure how strictly it will be enforced after the email stating such was sent to all subscribers. It is probable that it won't stop play.......

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There was always a "no sex in the pool" policy.....it's just that everyone ignored it and it was never enforced.

Not sure how strictly it will be enforced after the email stating such was sent to all subscribers. It is probable that it won't stop play......."

Definitely never enforced as the missus had sex with a member of staff in the pool

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

This is the reason I don't use hot tubs

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By *inkyKissCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

This is the reason we use hot tubes ??

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By *exfordMan
over a year ago

discombobulated land

Stick your head under and drink the amber nectar... Not

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By *p4fun60Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

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By *errysMan
over a year ago

milton keynes and kent

Clubs not allowing sex in the water cant be due to cum unless they enforce and monitor showering first.

Every clubs pool and tub has cum in it from on and in bodies (unless as above), surely thats the reason for chlorine.

Kestrels always chemically checked the water condition regularly, (unlike some clubs) have they stopped doing that now?

Customer feedback is usually the reason for change at a club, so maybe more have said it puts them off going than have said they go because of it.

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By *azpiz1Man
over a year ago

Camberley

Didn't stop people this weekend...

Unless you had a member of staff poolside all the time, how do you enforce it?

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I recall one of the owners talking about the costs of having to drain and clean the pool more often when the no sex in the pool rule isn't followed, so maybe with energy costs rising, they are looking to enforce more strongly to reduce the number of times they have to drain and clean. It' true it's always been in place and in most clubs as a point of hygiene, but all businesses are going to need to find ways to reduce costs, so this might be the reason they want to enforce the rule.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Didn't stop people this weekend...

Unless you had a member of staff poolside all the time, how do you enforce it?"

The staff member may join in…

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By *etWetWet453Couple
over a year ago

CAMBERLEY

"Anyone else think the new “no sex in the pool out hot tubs” rule to be inconsistent with the place being a swingers club? "

Having perused your veris, we notice that this is not the first time you have been to this club, so we can only assume that you must like the place.

We are, therefore, a bit bemused as to why you would bring this topic up in the Forums. We are assuming that you are aware of the negative reaction that this post could possibly produce for the club.

We would suggest that if you have an issue with the club`s policies, then you should take them up with the management/owners, rather than airing your grievances on such a public forum.

Are we to assume that due to your obvious displeasure with the ruling, that we will not be seeing you at the club again?

As an addendum, we have no financial interest in this club, but having been members of it for over ten years, we feel that it is incumbent on us to show our support for it. If we were to have a problem with anything there, we certainly wouldn`t broadcast it on the Forums.

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By *inkn12Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

If you go they’ll explain that it’s public health who’s been onto them, they have to been seen enforcing/ warning the no play in the pool rule, it’s really mot that deep. Something to do with a women, an infection and a doctor.

For me getting in a pool that may have bodily fluid in it is not a big deal, neither is using a bed in a swingers place… both are due to be contaminated to a certain degree… wonder if you no pool/ hot tub goers wipe down everywhere you play beforehand?

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Anyone else think the new “no sex in the pool out hot tubs” rule to be inconsistent with the place being a swingers club?

Having perused your veris, we notice that this is not the first time you have been to this club, so we can only assume that you must like the place.

We are, therefore, a bit bemused as to why you would bring this topic up in the Forums. We are assuming that you are aware of the negative reaction that this post could possibly produce for the club.

We would suggest that if you have an issue with the club`s policies, then you should take them up with the management/owners, rather than airing your grievances on such a public forum.

Are we to assume that due to your obvious displeasure with the ruling, that we will not be seeing you at the club again?

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I’m surprised it’s ever been allowed tbh.

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By *aveywMan
over a year ago

tramore

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

"If you go they’ll explain that it’s public health who’s been onto them, they have to been seen enforcing/ warning the no play in the pool rule, it’s really mot that deep. Something to do with a women, an infection and a doctor.

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By *unniebee1970Woman
over a year ago

The Hive

People moaned. Club responded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hear hear, The club is a great club with or without the pool, the rules have always been there just they have been a tad lax in enforcing them,, just view the pool as a great place to start proceedings and then the rooms and dungeon to carry on…..

We have met some fabulous people there and will continue!!!!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Cum soup isn’t for me.

Absolutely not and shouldn’t be allowed in any swinging club. Ever. That’s gross.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Erm yeah… surely everyone wipes down their play area before and after?

What kind of places are you all visiting ha!

Surely that’s normal club etiquette?

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By *aptain VMan
over a year ago

Birstall, Leicester

Some people have jerked off in the pool or jacuzzi and u can see thr jizz floating in the water.... for that reason I don't go in the pool or jacuzzi

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By *aveywMan
over a year ago

tramore

I’m going tomorrow. First time on a Sunday. Is it usually busy on Sundays?

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By *luns1Man
over a year ago

Preston

The club I have been to have had the same rule in place. I guess they expect the clientele to either use common sense to not play in the hot tubs or self police it. I really do not want to get in a hot tub with stringy jazz floating past. They also encourage showering before and after using the hot tub.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

One of the reasons I think I am relaxed about sex in a pool or jacuzzi is because I am one of the last generation of rugby players that as a teen used the communal baths after the game. In retrospect a pool with mud, sweat, blood and "whatever" is "gross" but they were really relaxing after a game. I heard that the communal baths were stopped on medical grounds.

What people find "gross" is an individual matter, and should not be the subject of rules. If you don't like it don't go there. I don't go into dark rooms or use glory holes.

However, I believe there are medical grounds for banning sex in the pool, which if the case, belatedly at Kestrels should be respected.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"One of the reasons I think I am relaxed about sex in a pool or jacuzzi is because I am one of the last generation of rugby players that as a teen used the communal baths after the game. In retrospect a pool with mud, sweat, blood and "whatever" is "gross" but they were really relaxing after a game. I heard that the communal baths were stopped on medical grounds.

What people find "gross" is an individual matter, and should not be the subject of rules. If you don't like it don't go there. I don't go into dark rooms or use glory holes.

However, I believe there are medical grounds for banning sex in the pool, which if the case, belatedly at Kestrels should be respected."

Subjecting someone to bodily fluids without consent in a public area is gross.

With the rugby lot you we’re all fine with it, not a problem at all.

What’s “gross” absolutely is subjective. But where rules are clear I’d expect a bunch of swingers to stick to them

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Spunk blocking the filters might be a good reason.

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By *wingin CatMan
over a year ago

London

"Spunk blocking the filters might be a good reason."

That is EXACTLY the reason why. And also extremely costly to put right.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I find it incredible what I'm supposed to accept because I'm a swinger

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Didn't stop people this weekend...

Unless you had a member of staff poolside all the time, how do you enforce it?"
. I agree the only way to enforce it is to have a member of staff standing by the pool.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Didn't stop people this weekend...

Unless you had a member of staff poolside all the time, how do you enforce it?. I agree the only way to enforce it is to have a member of staff standing by the pool."

If I go somewhere and I'm asked not to do something I don't need policing by another adult to stop me.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Didn't stop people this weekend...

Unless you had a member of staff poolside all the time, how do you enforce it?. I agree the only way to enforce it is to have a member of staff standing by the pool.

If I go somewhere and I'm asked not to do something I don't need policing by another adult to stop me.

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. Again I agree I follow the rules I don’t want to be shown up or banned at the club & spa that I attend.Unfortunately there are some that what to bend or break the rules.

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By *horty4Man
over a year ago

london

Suspect this will be a moot point in a few months, imagine how much the energy bill will be to keep the pool warm?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like others have said it’s not sexy bring in a pool with floating cum around you

Yep im glad they have enforced this rule.

They just now need to sort out the wanking dead poolside who think wanking right in your face is going to want you to play with them

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Like others have said it’s not sexy bring in a pool with floating cum around you

Yep im glad they have enforced this rule.

They just now need to sort out the wanking dead poolside who think wanking right in your face is going to want you to play with them "

I was in a hot tub once where the no sex rule was very strictly enforced. A guy got in and started looking at me lasciviously while wanking. I got up and moved to sit the other side of Mr N and unbelievably he took this to mean that I wanted him to continue

. So I got out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like others have said it’s not sexy bring in a pool with floating cum around you

Yep im glad they have enforced this rule.

They just now need to sort out the wanking dead poolside who think wanking right in your face is going to want you to play with them

. So I got out.

Unfortunately some men just don’t know how to behave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not been to a club but I would have thought jumping in a tub with people would have been more of a warm and relaxing social chat then a sex thing . Would you jump in a bath after a stranger has been in using their old water ? Not for me .

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By *adylerieWoman
over a year ago

Leatherhead, Surrey

My take on this - it should say ‘no cum in the pool’ as I believe that is the issue. I always use a condom so actual sex is not going to affect the pool.

Saying ‘no sex’ doesn’t make people think about the cum on/ in their body before they get in the pool, guys wanking or the giving of bjs.

If there is an issue that puts the using of the pool at risk, we need to comply. I love that pool and the freedom of naked swimming.

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

Whenever I’ve been in Kestrals and playing in the pool and I’m about to cum I always step out and jizz in the nearest towel as I don’t want it going in the water…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever I’ve been in Kestrals and playing in the pool and I’m about to cum I always step out and jizz in the nearest towel as I don’t want it going in the water… "

How very well mannered of you

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By *ull English with teaMan
over a year ago

London

"Whenever I’ve been in Kestrals and playing in the pool and I’m about to cum I always step out and jizz in the nearest towel as I don’t want it going in the water…

How very well mannered of you "

It was a joke!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every club I’ve been to has had this rule and I’ve never seen anyone having sex in either the hot tub or pool although I’m sure it does go on at some. I used to love the hot tub but avoid now for precisely this reason!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought tadpoles could swim

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Whenever I’ve been in Kestrals and playing in the pool and I’m about to cum I always step out and jizz in the nearest towel as I don’t want it going in the water…

How very well mannered of you

It was a joke!

I know. It’s called sarcasm

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Suspect this will be a moot point in a few months, imagine how much the energy bill will be to keep the pool warm? "

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