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"What is the VA like on a Friday evening? " It's quiet if it's not a hosted event. | |||
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"What is the VA like on a Friday evening? " Average between 40 and 60 people. The newbie night is on Saturday 20th August so no single guys there as Saturdays are for couples and single ladies only. | |||
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"Jaydees,Jaydees,Jaydees everytime it's our favourite club .we have tried other clubs but they just don't compare. You might walk in seeing strangers on your first visit but i can guarantee when leaving at you will be saying bye to friends. Such a friendly,welcoming club read the reviews to see what others are saying .. " What about a Friday night at Jaydees ? | |||
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"Jaydees,Jaydees,Jaydees everytime it's our favourite club .we have tried other clubs but they just don't compare. You might walk in seeing strangers on your first visit but i can guarantee when leaving at you will be saying bye to friends. Such a friendly,welcoming club read the reviews to see what others are saying .. What about a Friday night at Jaydees ? " Depends on which Friday it is in the month. There will always be a forum thread so you can search to see what is on and see people that are going. Their website is up to date with events as well. | |||
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"Jaydees,Jaydees,Jaydees everytime it's our favourite club .we have tried other clubs but they just don't compare. You might walk in seeing strangers on your first visit but i can guarantee when leaving at you will be saying bye to friends. Such a friendly,welcoming club read the reviews to see what others are saying .. What about a Friday night at Jaydees ? Depends on which Friday it is in the month. There will always be a forum thread so you can search to see what is on and see people that are going. Their website is up to date with events as well. " Thank you , just that there’s a possibility of attending on the 2nd September | |||
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"Jaydees,Jaydees,Jaydees everytime it's our favourite club .we have tried other clubs but they just don't compare. You might walk in seeing strangers on your first visit but i can guarantee when leaving at you will be saying bye to friends. Such a friendly,welcoming club read the reviews to see what others are saying .. What about a Friday night at Jaydees ? Depends on which Friday it is in the month. There will always be a forum thread so you can search to see what is on and see people that are going. Their website is up to date with events as well. Thank you , just that there’s a possibility of attending on the 2nd September " I think 2nd of September is a bi night at Jaydees, hosted by amazing SpicyMinx. Even if you're not bi, it's still a great event to go to as it's one of the most relaxed nights. I have been to both Jaydees and VA and Jaydees always wins for me, hands down. At VA, you pay your entry price plus you are, most likely, going to spend some more money at the bar. Then there is the lack of private lockable rooms at VA- yes, there is plenty of open play areas and there is a couples only room, but if you'd prefer some privacy of a lockable room, you're not going to get that at VA. I do love their Lux Lounge though, a "clothing optional" outdoor venue where you're allowed to have sex outdoors! Jaydees has everything for me- both open play areas and private lockable rooms, couples only area, massive hot tub (similar size to VA's), dance floor, bar area but, as it's "bring your own booze", you're not going to get hit by a bar tab at the end of the night. Also, Jaydees has a kitchen where you can make your own tea or coffee. And I've found it much more friendly than VA. | |||
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"What is the VA like on a Friday evening? " If your lady is greedy, and you live watching her play it can be a lot of fun  | |||
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"Never been to Jaydees … yet!, but had a number of lovely bi nights at VA. I go to VA, but only when I can book an on-site room which is better for me .. sometimes I miss out cos the rooms are booked. I don’t think Jaydees has on-site rooms?? and not sure of any ‘tV friendly places to stay xx I’d give a go if I could x R xx " There's plenty of on site accommodation, parking and all very reasonably priced too. | |||
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"I'd definitely recommend Jaydees for you as newbies. You'll be overwhelmed by the activities at VA if you're new to this lifestyle and it might even make you to reconsider your decision for joining it in the first place. I started at Jaydees when I was in your shoes ??. " Can you explain what you mean by overwhelmed by activities??? | |||
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"I'd definitely recommend Jaydees for you as newbies. You'll be overwhelmed by the activities at VA if you're new to this lifestyle and it might even make you to reconsider your decision for joining it in the first place. I started at Jaydees when I was in your shoes ??. Can you explain what you mean by overwhelmed by activities???" What they possibly meant is that there are no private lockable rooms at VA, it's all open play areas or couples' room. And sometimes some people can come very close, even a bit too close for comfort, when you're playing. | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited." Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x" Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? " Halloween??? Oh my god Jaydees is amazing at Halloween. They will be announcing the theme for this years party very very soon. They literally pull out all the stops. It is very busy and the atmosphere is electric. You would definitely enjoy yourself that night | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? Halloween??? Oh my god Jaydees is amazing at Halloween. They will be announcing the theme for this years party very very soon. They literally pull out all the stops. It is very busy and the atmosphere is electric. You would definitely enjoy yourself that night "The thing that mainly put me off the club I attended was limited number of high quality single men and the sexual acts were too open and everywhere I looked. Will I still have this issue at Jaydees? | |||
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" The thing that mainly put me off the club I attended was limited number of high quality single men and the sexual acts were too open and everywhere I looked. Will I still have this issue at Jaydees?" It really depends, we've had nights entertaining single guys at both VA and Jaydees, but sometimes at clubs you will find there is just nobody you fancy and other times there's a lot of people you like. Anyway, the main differences we've noted for Jaydees and VA are: For physical accessibility VA is pretty much all on one level, a few steps up and down to a couple of the playrooms, Jaydees has lots of steps up and down and quite steep stairs to the upstairs playrooms, the upstairs playrooms at Jaydees are a bit of an obstacle course. Jaydees has lockable private play rooms, VA doesn't have them. Jaydees has lots of different areas and is almost a bit sprawling, VA feels much more compact. For dressing down anything goes at Jaydees so you will find fully clothed people in the playrooms, VA is dress down for play rooms. VA allows play in the hot tub, Jaydees doesn't allow play in the hot tub (but you can play on beds in the hot tub room) Jaydees hot tub is bigger and more comfortable than VA's and has more jets but we also find people space out a lot more in their hot tub so it doesn't feel as social unless it fills up. Jaydees is bring your own drinks, VA is a licensed bar. This can make a night out at Jaydees a lot cheaper than VA. As for friendliness, we've found both clubs to be good, Jaydees is possibly a little friendlier but as it's a bit more spread out it can be difficult to find people you've been talking to and we've had a few missed connections because of this. One thing that K has experienced at Jaydees more frequently than VA that she really doesn't appreciate is having guys keep "appearing" in the same room as her after she had dressed down and then have them staring at her but not making any effort to talk or engage her until she's playing when they immediately ask to join in, this is a huge mood killer for her (we have had this in both clubs though). On big theme nights at VA lots of people already know each other so you can find it hard to make new connections, Jaydees is much more easy to start talking to people on those bigger party nights. We like both clubs and will pick which one to go to depending on what event the night (or day!) is and if we know anyone going to the clubs already, quite a lot of the differences above will come down to your personal preferences which is why we'd tell everyone to look for events they might like and try both clubs. | |||
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"For us it’s the VA but then we’ve never been to Jaydees, however that’s mainly due to us enjoying ourselves so much at the VA. We prefer the open play areas, it makes playing a lot more fun (especially if someone gets a little excited to quickly. We’d imagine in a lockable room you’ve then got to come back out and find someone else). Drinks are a little expensive at the VA but then not having to remember to bring your own, as well being to change your mind about what your drinking is a preference for us. Always received a warm welcome. Sometimes yes on themed nights there are a few who seem to know each other and only want to play together. Though we get in the hot-tub and everyone is soon chatting away. My only quibble is that lately they seem to have cut back on the number of single guys they allow on. Which as I’m greedy (always prefer more than one guy at a time) on nights where there’s lots of couples you have to grab one quick lol. X" Yes they allowed 10 on the night I went and I was quite disappointed about their table manners. I thought they would of been friendlier, rather than abruptly coming up to me "do you want to play" approach.  | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? " One of the best nights to go to Jaydees after their New Year's night. Great club  | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? One of the best nights to go to Jaydees after their New Year's night. Great club "But are the men there more sociable? Or is it the normal etiquette to just ask for sex? | |||
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"But are the men there more sociable? Or is it the normal etiquette to just ask for sex? " At least you got asked. Some men can just "lurk around" and start touching, without permission, as soon as your guard is down. Sadly, it can happen at any club, even the best run ones, as staff can't be everywhere. I think men need educating that just because a woman is in a swingers' club, she is not paid to be there, she pays to come in (ok, most of the time women pay much less then men) and is there for her own entertainment. And she should be treated as a person, not a sexual object. I am a regular at Jaydees and have to say that men there seem to be a bit more chatty and willing to socialise first rather than just being on the prowl. I think it helps that there are no-play areas in the club where the music is just in the background so you can talk to people more easily. I haven't been to a regular evening event at VA so can't comment on how easy it is to talk to people at their bar area, which is supposed to be for socialising. But I did go to their Lux Lounge events and a couple of MILF clubs and have to say, for socialising, Jaydees has a better set up. Like others have said, I wouldn't give up on the clubs just after one experience. And Jaydees Halloween night is always a very special experience. | |||
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" I haven't been to a regular evening event at VA so can't comment on how easy it is to talk to people at their bar area, which is supposed to be for socialising. But I did go to their Lux Lounge events and a couple of MILF clubs and have to say, for socialising, Jaydees has a better set up." This is really why we'd tell people to try both clubs, we find it far easier to socialise at VA as people seem to socialise more in the hot tub earlier on. At Jaydees it seems everyone congregates in the bar area but the music has been too loud for K to be able to hear properly so we end up elsewhere with far fewer people around, although this can also be a problem in the bar area for her at VA too. No idea why either club feels they need the music to be quite so loud when more people are talking than dancing! That said, we've only been to Jaydees a few times and maybe we've been unlucky but every time we've been as soon as we started playing in an open area (we like to be watched and involve other guys) we've been approached by a fully clothed guy who asked to join in having made no effort at all to talk to us beforehand. We've also had this at VA but it's not been every single time. | |||
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" I haven't been to a regular evening event at VA so can't comment on how easy it is to talk to people at their bar area, which is supposed to be for socialising. But I did go to their Lux Lounge events and a couple of MILF clubs and have to say, for socialising, Jaydees has a better set up. This is really why we'd tell people to try both clubs, we find it far easier to socialise at VA as people seem to socialise more in the hot tub earlier on. At Jaydees it seems everyone congregates in the bar area but the music has been too loud for K to be able to hear properly so we end up elsewhere with far fewer people around, although this can also be a problem in the bar area for her at VA too. No idea why either club feels they need the music to be quite so loud when more people are talking than dancing! That said, we've only been to Jaydees a few times and maybe we've been unlucky but every time we've been as soon as we started playing in an open area (we like to be watched and involve other guys) we've been approached by a fully clothed guy who asked to join in having made no effort at all to talk to us beforehand. We've also had this at VA but it's not been every single time. " My issue was the single men acted like wanking zombies who made no effort to socialise. The men in couples spoke inappropriately to me so the only nice people were the women which didn't help me as I'm only interested in men but don't like being treated like a whore or sex object. | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? Halloween??? Oh my god Jaydees is amazing at Halloween. They will be announcing the theme for this years party very very soon. They literally pull out all the stops. It is very busy and the atmosphere is electric. You would definitely enjoy yourself that night "I've been known to make the effort and dress up. Undertaker, Day of the Dead and Plague Doctor for example. | |||
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"I really like both and there is not much in it but jaydee slightly wins and that’s purely because of the private rooms " Yes i like the fact they said you need to go upstairs and they're lockable rooms for privacy and stop the wanking zombies trying to get involved  | |||
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"I really like both and there is not much in it but jaydee slightly wins and that’s purely because of the private rooms Yes i like the fact they said you need to go upstairs and they're lockable rooms for privacy and stop the wanking zombies trying to get involved "Another good thing with the upstairs of jaydees is there is a couples only area .So no single are allowed in that area also | |||
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"We went to jaydee’s on Saturday night as total newbies having never been to a club before the staff were so friendly and put us at ease the minute we was greeted at the entrance! Everyone there was so friendly within a hour we felt like we had been hundreds of times!! Really great group of people there and we are definitely going back again and again so many great new friends made in one night! So for a first time visiting a club jaydee’s is definitely the best! "Please can I ask how many wanking zombies there were when you went? I saw all of the single men invited pretty much like that. They didn't socialize, just walked about getting out their cock at every opportunity. Or really staring at people in the hot tub. To me, it was really bizarre behaviour. How do they think they're going to get anything behaving like that? They don't even smile. Just litterly act like zombies.  | |||
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"We went to jaydee’s on Saturday night as total newbies having never been to a club before the staff were so friendly and put us at ease the minute we was greeted at the entrance! Everyone there was so friendly within a hour we felt like we had been hundreds of times!! Really great group of people there and we are definitely going back again and again so many great new friends made in one night! So for a first time visiting a club jaydee’s is definitely the best!
Please can I ask how many wanking zombies there were when you went? I saw all of the single men invited pretty much like that. They didn't socialize, just walked about getting out their cock at every opportunity. Or really staring at people in the hot tub. To me, it was really bizarre behaviour. How do they think they're going to get anything behaving like that? They don't even smile. Just litterly act like zombies. "This is one of the things that puts us of VA where you don’t get it as much at jaydees as the playrooms downstairs are lockable and invite only and upstairs there is a couple only area so that leaves a an area you can avoid if that’s not your thing. We find jaydees easier to socialise due to the larger open areas away from the music. The dance floor is always busy which we enjoy that side as well. We do go to the VA but that’s for specific events run by pink flamingo as they are always great and busy. The dynamics at both clubs are very different and both are great clubs. The staff at jaydees are very very friendly and take a lot of time to interact and get to know you so your not just a returning customer. | |||
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"We went to jaydee’s on Saturday night as total newbies having never been to a club before the staff were so friendly and put us at ease the minute we was greeted at the entrance! Everyone there was so friendly within a hour we felt like we had been hundreds of times!! Really great group of people there and we are definitely going back again and again so many great new friends made in one night! So for a first time visiting a club jaydee’s is definitely the best!
Please can I ask how many wanking zombies there were when you went? I saw all of the single men invited pretty much like that. They didn't socialize, just walked about getting out their cock at every opportunity. Or really staring at people in the hot tub. To me, it was really bizarre behaviour. How do they think they're going to get anything behaving like that? They don't even smile. Just litterly act like zombies.
This is one of the things that puts us of VA where you don’t get it as much at jaydees as the playrooms downstairs are lockable and invite only and upstairs there is a couple only area so that leaves a an area you can avoid if that’s not your thing. We find jaydees easier to socialise due to the larger open areas away from the music. The dance floor is always busy which we enjoy that side as well. We do go to the VA but that’s for specific events run by pink flamingo as they are always great and busy. The dynamics at both clubs are very different and both are great clubs. The staff at jaydees are very very friendly and take a lot of time to interact and get to know you so your not just a returning customer. "Unfortunately pink flamingo and tattooed talent are no longer running events at va . There's some lovely new people now running the events One.thing to add about va is that it does have the couples only area and a great outdoor hottub area too | |||
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"We went to jaydee’s on Saturday night as total newbies having never been to a club before the staff were so friendly and put us at ease the minute we was greeted at the entrance! Everyone there was so friendly within a hour we felt like we had been hundreds of times!! Really great group of people there and we are definitely going back again and again so many great new friends made in one night! So for a first time visiting a club jaydee’s is definitely the best!
Please can I ask how many wanking zombies there were when you went? I saw all of the single men invited pretty much like that. They didn't socialize, just walked about getting out their cock at every opportunity. Or really staring at people in the hot tub. To me, it was really bizarre behaviour. How do they think they're going to get anything behaving like that? They don't even smile. Just litterly act like zombies.
This is one of the things that puts us of VA where you don’t get it as much at jaydees as the playrooms downstairs are lockable and invite only and upstairs there is a couple only area so that leaves a an area you can avoid if that’s not your thing. We find jaydees easier to socialise due to the larger open areas away from the music. The dance floor is always busy which we enjoy that side as well. We do go to the VA but that’s for specific events run by pink flamingo as they are always great and busy. The dynamics at both clubs are very different and both are great clubs. The staff at jaydees are very very friendly and take a lot of time to interact and get to know you so your not just a returning customer. "You don't get single men just staring at people in the hot tub room? I saw alot of that going on. Fully clothed men, not many of them making an effort in their attire, pacing the place and standing at the door way staring. Thought it was really odd and off putting behaviour. Seems not alot of socialising was occurring with the single men. Are the single men more sociable at Jaydees? | |||
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"We went to jaydee’s on Saturday night as total newbies having never been to a club before the staff were so friendly and put us at ease the minute we was greeted at the entrance! Everyone there was so friendly within a hour we felt like we had been hundreds of times!! Really great group of people there and we are definitely going back again and again so many great new friends made in one night! So for a first time visiting a club jaydee’s is definitely the best!
Please can I ask how many wanking zombies there were when you went? I saw all of the single men invited pretty much like that. They didn't socialize, just walked about getting out their cock at every opportunity. Or really staring at people in the hot tub. To me, it was really bizarre behaviour. How do they think they're going to get anything behaving like that? They don't even smile. Just litterly act like zombies.
This is one of the things that puts us of VA where you don’t get it as much at jaydees as the playrooms downstairs are lockable and invite only and upstairs there is a couple only area so that leaves a an area you can avoid if that’s not your thing. We find jaydees easier to socialise due to the larger open areas away from the music. The dance floor is always busy which we enjoy that side as well. We do go to the VA but that’s for specific events run by pink flamingo as they are always great and busy. The dynamics at both clubs are very different and both are great clubs. The staff at jaydees are very very friendly and take a lot of time to interact and get to know you so your not just a returning customer.
You don't get single men just staring at people in the hot tub room? I saw alot of that going on. Fully clothed men, not many of them making an effort in their attire, pacing the place and standing at the door way staring. Thought it was really odd and off putting behaviour. Seems not alot of socialising was occurring with the single men. Are the single men more sociable at Jaydees?"I'm a regular to va for their bi nights. Honestly I haven't seen fully clothed guys in hottub area. Perhaps this night is more relaxed and friendly | |||
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"You don't get single men just staring at people in the hot tub room? I saw alot of that going on. Fully clothed men, not many of them making an effort in their attire, pacing the place and standing at the door way staring. Thought it was really odd and off putting behaviour. Seems not alot of socialising was occurring with the single men. Are the single men more sociable at Jaydees?" Unfortunately, in every single club, you will find men who are incapable of speaking to women (or couples). They'd either just stare, hoping you'd read their mind that they're desperate to play with you, or, take their cocks out, so you'd see their pride and glory and decide to play with them. As others have said, because Jaydees has got open play areas upstairs mostly (plus some by the hot tub), you can mostly avoid any potential wanking zombies. It still happens, but that's the nature of swingers' clubs- slight possibility of getting some action, and men would come. Also, Jaydees does not restrict single men spaces as much as VA does. | |||
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"I really like both and there is not much in it but jaydee slightly wins and that’s purely because of the private rooms Yes i like the fact they said you need to go upstairs and they're lockable rooms for privacy and stop the wanking zombies trying to get involved "It’s such a small thing but it makes such a big difference to me! As a single male it makes me feel so much more relaxed | |||
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"You don't get single men just staring at people in the hot tub room? I saw alot of that going on. Fully clothed men, not many of them making an effort in their attire, pacing the place and standing at the door way staring. Thought it was really odd and off putting behaviour. Seems not alot of socialising was occurring with the single men. Are the single men more sociable at Jaydees? Unfortunately, in every single club, you will find men who are incapable of speaking to women (or couples). They'd either just stare, hoping you'd read their mind that they're desperate to play with you, or, take their cocks out, so you'd see their pride and glory and decide to play with them. As others have said, because Jaydees has got open play areas upstairs mostly (plus some by the hot tub), you can mostly avoid any potential wanking zombies. It still happens, but that's the nature of swingers' clubs- slight possibility of getting some action, and men would come. Also, Jaydees does not restrict single men spaces as much as VA does. " Yes totally agree that all club nights that allow single guys who try or don't try will likely upset someone. Different strokes for different folks . | |||
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"We went to jaydee’s on Saturday night as total newbies having never been to a club before the staff were so friendly and put us at ease the minute we was greeted at the entrance! Everyone there was so friendly within a hour we felt like we had been hundreds of times!! Really great group of people there and we are definitely going back again and again so many great new friends made in one night! So for a first time visiting a club jaydee’s is definitely the best!
Please can I ask how many wanking zombies there were when you went? I saw all of the single men invited pretty much like that. They didn't socialize, just walked about getting out their cock at every opportunity. Or really staring at people in the hot tub. To me, it was really bizarre behaviour. How do they think they're going to get anything behaving like that? They don't even smile. Just litterly act like zombies.
This is one of the things that puts us of VA where you don’t get it as much at jaydees as the playrooms downstairs are lockable and invite only and upstairs there is a couple only area so that leaves a an area you can avoid if that’s not your thing. We find jaydees easier to socialise due to the larger open areas away from the music. The dance floor is always busy which we enjoy that side as well. We do go to the VA but that’s for specific events run by pink flamingo as they are always great and busy. The dynamics at both clubs are very different and both are great clubs. The staff at jaydees are very very friendly and take a lot of time to interact and get to know you so your not just a returning customer. "Now at Penthouse, as well as tattooed talent | |||
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"It totally depends what you’re after. For me the VA has it but Jaydees can be fun. I would say (not being offensive) the clientele at the VA are on average younger and probably go to the gym a little more. However again we all want different things and younger, fitter does not necessarily mean better. " Not if they have no social skills, no real fit muscley body would entice me lol | |||
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"Personally, personality, wit and charm is way more sexy. But I yet to meet that man on here or in a club " Hi nice to meet you.  | |||
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"Personally, personality, wit and charm is way more sexy. But I yet to meet that man on here or in a club " Shall I play Mother and put the kettle on? | |||
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"Would jaydees be the best club to visit for newbies?" I would say "yes" but I am rather biased- it is my local, I am a regular there and staff treat me like a friend. I was also very welcome there when I broke my knee and was in a wheelchair first, then on crutches- granted, I was stuck on the ground floor but just being in the club was enough. However, I have to say that VA is probably the worst club for a newbie due to their lack of private rooms. Unless, of course, you're a voyeur or exhibitionist. | |||
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"Do we think either of them are going to do a bank holiday Sunday special?" Not Jaydees, I wouldn't think so. But VA may open their Lux Lounge if it's warm enough. | |||
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"Would jaydees be the best club to visit for newbies? I would say "yes" but I am rather biased- it is my local, I am a regular there and staff treat me like a friend. I was also very welcome there when I broke my knee and was in a wheelchair first, then on crutches- granted, I was stuck on the ground floor but just being in the club was enough. However, I have to say that VA is probably the worst club for a newbie due to their lack of private rooms. Unless, of course, you're a voyeur or exhibitionist. " Yes I found the open plan set up overwhelming. But tbh it was the men that put me off the most. Disappointed how unsociable they actually were. | |||
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"Would jaydees be the best club to visit for newbies? I would say "yes" but I am rather biased- it is my local, I am a regular there and staff treat me like a friend. I was also very welcome there when I broke my knee and was in a wheelchair first, then on crutches- granted, I was stuck on the ground floor but just being in the club was enough. However, I have to say that VA is probably the worst club for a newbie due to their lack of private rooms. Unless, of course, you're a voyeur or exhibitionist. " Another bias one here but for VA always had a great tine . For their bi monthly party nights Indo find though that this crowd are much more friendlier than other nights Awsome hot tub They do have a seperate area just for couples And don't get me started in their lux lounge so friendly and a great social | |||
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"Would jaydees be the best club to visit for newbies? I would say "yes" but I am rather biased- it is my local, I am a regular there and staff treat me like a friend. I was also very welcome there when I broke my knee and was in a wheelchair first, then on crutches- granted, I was stuck on the ground floor but just being in the club was enough. However, I have to say that VA is probably the worst club for a newbie due to their lack of private rooms. Unless, of course, you're a voyeur or exhibitionist. " Results speak for themselves. The Enter the Wild newbie night run at The Vanilla Alternative in August attracted over 120 visitors and was a wonderful evening. The next one, this coming Friday, is also proving to be the subject of much interest. | |||
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"Never been to VA,,so can’t comment. We love Jaydees. The building they have is great. Lovely hot tub, couples room, private rooms open play areas, nice dance floor, cosy lounge/social area, kitchen you can make tea and coffee in. But forget all that. The staff and the people that go there is what keeps us going back. The staff will show you around and even introduce you to people so you won’t necessarily have to find the courage to talk to a stranger for the first time. Seriously, you’ll be blown away. Go have fun x" Couldn’t have said it better | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited." We felt the same being quite new to the scene, single guys at VA were pests sometimes didn’t take no as answer either, we like Jaydees as plenty of toys to play with and the option is there for how much privacy you want, penthouse is quite good too, throwing that out there | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. We felt the same being quite new to the scene, single guys at VA were pests sometimes didn’t take no as answer either, we like Jaydees as plenty of toys to play with and the option is there for how much privacy you want, penthouse is quite good too, throwing that out there " We’ve found the complete opposite. Our first ever club visit was the VA. We were made extremely welcome and met lots of wonderful people. We did get in the hot tub, where we continued chatting with those from the bar area as well as others. No one was pushy, it was our first night and we were observing more than joining in, one guy while chatting asked if he could touch. We said not right now and he said no problem and continued chatting with us. When we have been quite a few times since. Never had a bad experience. One time we saw a guy being a little pushy and he was quickly removed not to be seen of again. Highly recommend. Let them know it’s your first time and they’ll show you around, introduce to others and look after you. | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. We felt the same being quite new to the scene, single guys at VA were pests sometimes didn’t take no as answer either, we like Jaydees as plenty of toys to play with and the option is there for how much privacy you want, penthouse is quite good too, throwing that out there " I am definitely looking at going to penthouse soon so any help would be much appreciated | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. We felt the same being quite new to the scene, single guys at VA were pests sometimes didn’t take no as answer either, we like Jaydees as plenty of toys to play with and the option is there for how much privacy you want, penthouse is quite good too, throwing that out there We’ve found the complete opposite. Our first ever club visit was the VA. We were made extremely welcome and met lots of wonderful people. We did get in the hot tub, where we continued chatting with those from the bar area as well as others. No one was pushy, it was our first night and we were observing more than joining in, one guy while chatting asked if he could touch. We said not right now and he said no problem and continued chatting with us. When we have been quite a few times since. Never had a bad experience. One time we saw a guy being a little pushy and he was quickly removed not to be seen of again. Highly recommend. Let them know it’s your first time and they’ll show you around, introduce to others and look after you. " Well I wasn't introduced to anyone. Tbf there wasn't many people there to be introduced. I'm not keen on people playing in hot tubs so glad jaydees has that non play rule. | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. We felt the same being quite new to the scene, single guys at VA were pests sometimes didn’t take no as answer either, we like Jaydees as plenty of toys to play with and the option is there for how much privacy you want, penthouse is quite good too, throwing that out there We’ve found the complete opposite. Our first ever club visit was the VA. We were made extremely welcome and met lots of wonderful people. We did get in the hot tub, where we continued chatting with those from the bar area as well as others. No one was pushy, it was our first night and we were observing more than joining in, one guy while chatting asked if he could touch. We said not right now and he said no problem and continued chatting with us. When we have been quite a few times since. Never had a bad experience. One time we saw a guy being a little pushy and he was quickly removed not to be seen of again. Highly recommend. Let them know it’s your first time and they’ll show you around, introduce to others and look after you. Well I wasn't introduced to anyone. Tbf there wasn't many people there to be introduced. I'm not keen on people playing in hot tubs so glad jaydees has that non play rule." @Jaydees weekender collective tonight and tomorrow…the place to be this weekend. Let’s Dance! xx | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? " | |||
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"I was surprised to know people play in the hot tubs in VA as I thought it was considered unhygienic to do so unless I misread it wrong there. Is it normal for people to play in the hot tubs? Shame I didn't go to Jaydees for my virgin night at a club. As the open plan layout was very overwhelming for a complete virgin newbie. Plus voyerism isn't my thing. Couples stayed together and preferred single males to join them. I didn't see or meet anyone I physically fancied. The single men were I saw on their own were proper lurkers which I found off putting. Not busy enough for me to have a good selection to choose from. So really unsure now clubs are for me. I know everyone's experiences are different and every night is different. But first impressions, I'm not sure I go back as the choice of single men are too limited. Please don’t be put off by clubs now. Sometimes it is trial and error getting the right club and even on the right night. If you wanted to give Jaydees a go then I can highly recommend next weekend 9th/10th. There is a 999 party and the Saturdays theme is Sexy Secretary (which will be a very busy night). We will be there the whole weekend so happy to chat before hand or to give you a tour if you decide to attend. There are forum threads for each night to give a small taste of who is attending. Jo x Unfortunately I work most weekends but left 29th October free. Jaydees any good on Halloween night? " | |||
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