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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My wife might be interested in going to a club with me. What's the best one around Northants for cleanliness and a no pressure atmosphere. Ideally we'd just be looking to chat and possibly watch rather than join in.

In addition, if we went would it be wrong to try to ensure that on the night there was a nice male or couple that we could "bump" into. It would be a huge help if I knew that someone would be there that was her type and who wasn't expecting her to put out but might be able to get her to feel at ease. Not a setup but just trying to ensure at least someone is compatible with her/us.

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By *allmann76Man
over a year ago

Waterloo, London

Hi, Wives or Milf events can be pretty intense. If she is new to this I'd start with a Friday were there is a mix of single guys and couples.

Don't want to scare her off with an extreme event.

All that said, Vanilla Alternative would be a good option as there is a very separate bar/non-play area so you can dip in and out...so to speak!

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By *ellinever70Woman
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Are you absolutely sure she might be interested?

It really doesn't sound like it

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By *ets DanceCouple
over a year ago

Brixworth


"My wife might be interested in going to a club with me. What's the best one around Northants for cleanliness and a no pressure atmosphere. Ideally we'd just be looking to chat and possibly watch rather than join in.

In addition, if we went would it be wrong to try to ensure that on the night there was a nice male or couple that we could "bump" into. It would be a huge help if I knew that someone would be there that was her type and who wasn't expecting her to put out but might be able to get her to feel at ease. Not a setup but just trying to ensure at least someone is compatible with her/us."

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Jaydees Club Bedford is our club of choice and without a doubt the club for all your stated needs.

Simply check out the club reviews

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I would have thought a Friday eve at Chams would be the ticket. It is pretty easy going and very low pressure.

Maybe put a status/meet out that you are going and does anyone fancy a chat - that way you could have someone to say hi to when you get there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There’s a newbie night at The Vanilla Alternative scheduled next month.

Your call, but the ‘chance meeting’ sounds like a recipe for disaster!

Maybe reach out to a couple on here, chat and arrange to meet at the newbie event.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you absolutely sure she might be interested?

It really doesn't sound like it"

REALLY? You're going straight in with the "doesn't sound like she's interested" angle?

Do you think I'm going to use chloroform to get her through the door?

Why bother answering if you're not answering the question?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

To those that suggested specific nights at specific venues as no pressure and putting out a meet prior, thank you. Very sensible replies.

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

I'd also suggest you set up a couple profile so you can start chatting with other profiles as a couple x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd also suggest you set up a couple profile so you can start chatting with other profiles as a couple x"

For her it would be socialise leading to fun, not setting up a profile so she can receive messages. Did that in the past and got nothing but complete twats replying, whose version of socialising was suggesting we could have a drink in a hotel bar before going up to the room and fucking her up the arse. That's what put her off. So rather meet real people, with real faces and personalities. Then if it happens to be people we actually get along with, it might help her feel more comfortable.

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By *eds10Couple
over a year ago

Raunds

Vanilla Alternative and Jaydees are two I would suggest.

I understand your point about getting messages that you don't want. Every female on here get those. I would suggest a couples account as other couples will know you are genuine couple, after a few veris as a couple, you would have a higher chance of meeting other couples.

Most clubs will give you a tour and introduce you to others. You don't have to play at any club, the social aspect is good enough for some people.

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By *lfasoCouple
over a year ago

South East


"I'd also suggest you set up a couple profile so you can start chatting with other profiles as a couple x

For her it would be socialise leading to fun, not setting up a profile so she can receive messages. Did that in the past and got nothing but complete twats replying, whose version of socialising was suggesting we could have a drink in a hotel bar before going up to the room and fucking her up the arse. That's what put her off. So rather meet real people, with real faces and personalities. Then if it happens to be people we actually get along with, it might help her feel more comfortable."

I’m so glad it’s not just us

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Another vote for Jaydees here, as from the sound of it, your wife could be overwhelmed by the fact there are no private lockable rooms in VA. Just in case she felt like getting to know someone more intimately without being watched by others.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan
over a year ago

Coventry

Amigos Leicester city centre is a very sociable, friendly and welcoming little club. It's very relaxed and you are free to dress (or undress) as much as you feel comfortable. It's a small club so you don't get the numbers people you get in a big club. However it's a nice, safe, convenient place to dip your toe in.

Also membership is free, you just need to contact the club prior to your visit to arrange this. It's open Wednesday to Sunday early evening till late. Entry is £15 (I think £10 before 6pm). Take your own alcohol. There's a review page for it on FAB and they have a website if you want to check it out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'd also suggest you set up a couple profile so you can start chatting with other profiles as a couple x

For her it would be socialise leading to fun, not setting up a profile so she can receive messages. Did that in the past and got nothing but complete twats replying, whose version of socialising was suggesting we could have a drink in a hotel bar before going up to the room and fucking her up the arse. That's what put her off. So rather meet real people, with real faces and personalities. Then if it happens to be people we actually get along with, it might help her feel more comfortable.

I’m so glad it’s not just us "

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By *inkyDuo XXXCouple
over a year ago

somewhere near you

Amigos in Leicester is probably the best club to go for for newbies in the midlands area. No pressure, clean, small but socially friendly.

Read the reviews on here in the club section to make up your own mind though.

J x

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