FabSwingers.com forum: Weekday lunchtimes at Kestrel as a newbie?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hello Fabsters, looking to break my Kestrel Spa attendance virginity at some point in the next few weeks and my likely window will be a weekday lunchtime .. say around 11.30ish to around 2.30ish ..

Now I’m guessing at that time of day it’s likely to be very quiet, maybe just me and a man and a dog?

Appreciate that “you can never tell” and each day is unique but am I likely to get lost in the emptiness of it all at that time?

To be honest it’s not a huge issue as I’d like to just try the facilities out and see what it is like so I’m going to turn up anyway.

Now, as a club / spa newbie, and a bit nervous about the whole thing if truth be told, I’ve been doing some research and I think I’m up to speed on the etiquette etc but any tips and advice would be useful.

And also : what to take with me?

I hear you need flip flops .. so bring a pair of them

I think towels are provided? Are they big enough for a proper wrap around if needed or one of those tiny ones that only just fit around the arse?

What else should I bring? I assume the showers have shower gel etc?

I’m hopeless and naive and wet behind the ears, I know, but hopefully some lovely Fabsters will help alleviate my concerns!

Thanks in advance!

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Unfortunately, it's impossible to tell how busy the place is going to be. I went last Friday, with my FWB, and I was the only woman there. A few men, but not many.

So if your aim for going to the club is to "get some action", you are better off not going. However, Kestrels is an amazing place to just relax and forget about the outside world for a bit. For London, their prices are still reasonable, and nothing can beat a naked swim! At least for me.

Yes, towels are provided, they are big and fluffy. Flipflops- you can either bring your own or you can hire a pair for £3, I think.

What to bring? Money (cash/card), condoms (just in case as they don't provide any), shower gel if you like particular brand.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Etiquette: do not touch uninvited, is the main one.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Unfortunately, it's impossible to tell how busy the place is going to be. I went last Friday, with my FWB, and I was the only woman there. A few men, but not many.

Yes, towels are provided, they are big and fluffy. Flipflops- you can either bring your own or you can hire a pair for £3, I think.

What to bring? Money (cash/card), condoms (just in case as they don't provide any), shower gel if you like particular brand. "

Thank you! Yes, I’ll go with the expectation (particularly at that time of day) that it’s just going to be a chance to familiarise myself with the venue and hopefully just chill and enjoy the facilities for a few hours - and enjoy the liberation of having my kit off!

My expectations of any naughtiness will be nil, always a good place to start so you’re never disappointed!

Good advice re: what to bring and thank you re: the flip flops and towels, can’t beat some nice snug fluffiness!

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By *urreyVixenStagCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

Always go with no expectations. Daytimes can be hit and miss. Remember, it’s a naturist spa during the day and not all naturists are swingers, just as not all swingers are naturists.

Def take your own flip flops if you can. Towels are provided and large bath sheet size. You can buy condoms there £1.50 for 2 - just ask front desk or at the bar.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always go with no expectations. Daytimes can be hit and miss. Remember, it’s a naturist spa during the day and not all naturists are swingers, just as not all swingers are naturists.

Def take your own flip flops if you can. Towels are provided and large bath sheet size. You can buy condoms there £1.50 for 2 - just ask front desk or at the bar. "

Hi thank you for this, very useful info.

Yes, agreed, no expectations other than to enjoy the facilities and treat it as a day out at a spa rather than a swing club, and enjoy the pool and hot tubs with my arse on display

It would be nice to need to spend that £1.50.. but I doubt that anyone will take pity me enough to need to!

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By *ppydayzzMan
over a year ago

Leighton Buzzard

This place looks good, gonna have to check this out daytimes too, love a naked swim!

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By *earCamberleyMan
over a year ago

or near Camberley

First time there: don't forget your ID (two forms, one with photo) or you won't get past the front door!

Once there, they'll give you a guided tour and the place feels like a rabbit warren the first time but you'll soon figure it out.

I defy most people not to figure out the exit on their first visit!

I'm sure you'll have a brilliant time. It's a good venue, the staff are friendly and the water is perfect. Anything else is a bonus!

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By *ssexgalWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Weds tend to be busy and yes flip flops and you with two forms of id and you’ll be fine

I’ll see u weds if you come

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By *008billy2008Man
over a year ago

London/Gloucestershire

All excellent advice…. I plan to go Monday. Personal choice, but prefer bi possibilities.

But truth is, it is a lottery as to how many people will be there, so plan to enjoy a great spa amd anything else is a bonus…..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"First time there: don't forget your ID (two forms, one with photo) or you won't get past the front door!

Once there, they'll give you a guided tour and the place feels like a rabbit warren the first time but you'll soon figure it out.

I defy most people not to figure out the exit on their first visit!

I'm sure you'll have a brilliant time. It's a good venue, the staff are friendly and the water is perfect. Anything else is a bonus! "

Thank you! I now have visions of going around in circles trying to find my way out! Definitely taking to the option of a tour!

I will fill in the online form before going and make sure I have ID!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Weds tend to be busy and yes flip flops and you with two forms of id and you’ll be fine

I’ll see u weds if you come

Thank you! It looks like next week is favourite at the moment, have a great time on Wednesday!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"All excellent advice…. I plan to go Monday. Personal choice, but prefer bi possibilities.

But truth is, it is a lottery as to how many people will be there, so plan to enjoy a great spa amd anything else is a bonus….."

Thank you, yes that’s the plan, go and enjoy as a spa rather than a swing venue, chill out and relax!

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I could do with a chill out right now, work is madness!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I could do with a chill out right now, work is madness! "

I’m with ya there.

Let’s all have a Forum team day out!

Who’s coming!?

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"I could do with a chill out right now, work is madness!

I’m with ya there.

Let’s all have a Forum team day out!

Who’s coming!?

I was there on Friday, sadly can't go too often.

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By *ssexgalWoman
over a year ago

Essex

There like the plague weds and sundays so say hi

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There like the plague weds and sundays so say hi

Ahh gah! It looks like it’s Tuesday or Thursday next week or the following week for me.. that’s a shame as it would have been nice to say hello to a friendly face! Hopefully I’ll get the bug and see you there one day!

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By *pacer2009Man
over a year ago

burnham

"There like the plague weds and sundays so say hi

one of the few times I'd like to get the plague

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By *ssexgalWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"There like the plague weds and sundays so say hi

Remember Tues and Thurs open 11-6 as not late nights

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By *urvyandsnapperCouple
over a year ago

Essex/Kent

You will enjoy Weds PM whether busy or quiet

Last Weds was fantastic fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There like the plague weds and sundays so say hi

Remember Tues and Thurs open 11-6 as not late nights

Thank you, yes noted. I think I’ll be done by 3pm or 4pm so that works

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By *ssexgalWoman
over a year ago

Essex

Looking forward to tomorrow

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By *uicybbwWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I so so so want to go here but am petrified

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By *earCamberleyMan
over a year ago

or near Camberley

"I so so so want to go here but am petrified "

That's entirely understandable - but I assure you, the terror leaves you after the first five minutes! The first time I went (with a fwb - best go with a friend, especially the first time), we were apprehensive to say the least. However, after five minutes in the pool, we realised no one pays you any more attention than they would in a bar or 'normal' venue. We relaxed and started to enjoy it. By the time we left, we had grins that took a week to leave us and we vowed to repeat the experience again (which we did, several times!).

I'm sure others will say the same: once you go and break your 'club cherry', you'll wonder why you were so nervous in the first place!

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By *urreyVixenStagCouple
over a year ago

Surrey

"I so so so want to go here but am petrified "

Oh no, why are you petrified lovely?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I so so so want to go here but am petrified "

If it’s because you’re terrified of accidently seeing me in the buff when you turn up (a sight to petrify anyone!) I promise I’ll wear a towel, honest!

As others have said, I’m sure it’ll be fine once you cross the threshold, I’ll be honest the nerves will kick in before I go too, so know where you’re coming from!

Good luck!

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By *woforfun 1000Couple
over a year ago

surrey

"I so so so want to go here but am petrified "

Honestly it’s the friendliest club we have found, I highly recommend trying it on a Sunday when it’s more chilled, more single women attend and regular couples who I’m sure will help you feel at ease! The staff are lovely too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sorry for the bump everyone looking at their site for ID it says that you need 2 forms of ID, a photo ID and proof of address.

It also says you can use a driving licence (DL) for both.

Now does mean I only need ONE form of ID if I bring a DL, which will act as both photo ID and proof of address, or that you always need 2 but if you use the DL for proof of address you also need another photo ID, and if you use it as a photo ID you need to provide another proof of address?

Yeah, I know I could ring them, but that’s obviously far too easy! So thought I’d ask here first! Thanks!

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By *ssexgalWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Sorry for the bump everyone looking at their site for ID it says that you need 2 forms of ID, a photo ID and proof of address.

It also says you can use a driving licence (DL) for both.

Yeah, I know I could ring them, but that’s obviously far too easy! So thought I’d ask here first! Thanks!

If you’ve driving licence that covers you as they need id with your address and a photo id and driving license has both

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By *abudhabidooMan
over a year ago

Abu Dhabi, Dubai, Surrey

I’m looking forward to my first visit to the ‘new’ venue ! Used to go to old Kestrels / Abfabs loads, but now I live abroad haven’t been for ages. Obviously !! I’ve got some time on Friday 13th, and cannot wait to explore the new place.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry for the bump everyone looking at their site for ID it says that you need 2 forms of ID, a photo ID and proof of address.

It also says you can use a driving licence (DL) for both.

Yeah, I know I could ring them, but that’s obviously far too easy! So thought I’d ask here first! Thanks!

If you’ve driving licence that covers you as they need id with your address and a photo id and driving license has both "

Brilliant, thanks for the prompt reply!

I do all my banking and have all my bills etc online now so don’t have any ‘paper’ proof of address, other than my DL, so this works!

Thanks again!

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By *ssexgalWoman
over a year ago

Essex

"Sorry for the bump everyone looking at their site for ID it says that you need 2 forms of ID, a photo ID and proof of address.

It also says you can use a driving licence (DL) for both.

Yeah, I know I could ring them, but that’s obviously far too easy! So thought I’d ask here first! Thanks!

If you’ve driving licence that covers you as they need id with your address and a photo id and driving license has both

Brilliant, thanks for the prompt reply!

I do all my banking and have all my bills etc online now so don’t have any ‘paper’ proof of address, other than my DL, so this works!

Thanks again!"

Will see you there I’m sure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I first went with a friend, then introduced to more people second time. Both times at weekends

A couple of weeks ago I went on my own on a Tuesday. Very nervous as a single female. It was very quiet, but just what I needed as a post covid treat. I chilled, swam, jacuzzi’d and came out relaxed and recouped.

Would not hesitate to go again

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

I was a regular at the old Kestrels and Abfabs, going 2 or 3 times a week with friends, fwbs alone, even more when the sun was out! Trying to find the time and courage to go again and try the new venue after a few years break is hard.... we will get back, just need the gentle push x S x

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

As someone who knew you and your friend from the old Kestrels, here is a gentle push. It is not the same but nice in a different way.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sorry for the bump everyone looking at their site for ID it says that you need 2 forms of ID, a photo ID and proof of address.

It also says you can use a driving licence (DL) for both.

Yeah, I know I could ring them, but that’s obviously far too easy! So thought I’d ask here first! Thanks!

If you’ve driving licence that covers you as they need id with your address and a photo id and driving license has both

Brilliant, thanks for the prompt reply!

I do all my banking and have all my bills etc online now so don’t have any ‘paper’ proof of address, other than my DL, so this works!

Thanks again!

Will see you there I’m sure

I hope so! Fingers crossed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I first went with a friend, then introduced to more people second time. Both times at weekends

Would not hesitate to go again "

Sounds wonderful, I’m hoping to go this coming week and looking forward to exactly that, a chilled relaxing and recharging spa day!

Hope you get there again soon!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was a regular at the old Kestrels and Abfabs, going 2 or 3 times a week with friends, fwbs alone, even more when the sun was out! Trying to find the time and courage to go again and try the new venue after a few years break is hard.... we will get back, just need the gentle push x S x"

I know the feeling - it’s that first push to get over the threshold isn’t it? I’m quite nervous about going but I’m sure once there it’ll be fine, and even though it’s new premises I’m sure once you go it’ll be like you’ve never been away.

Treat this a gentle nudge!

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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago

Slough Windsor ish

"As someone who knew you and your friend from the old Kestrels, here is a gentle push. It is not the same but nice in a different way."

My friend and I are now married!

Who would have thought, eh? The Chef tamed me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Etiquette: do not touch uninvited, is the main one. "

Most definitely agree as the Most important etiquette

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By *ain and sortedMan
over a year ago

Old Harlow Essex

"I first went with a friend, then introduced to more people second time. Both times at weekends

Would not hesitate to go again "

A great place to escape and chill during the day, friendly people and can be fun, but going with expectations is best, I go to relax if I meet new nice people even better x

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