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By *hite meat for BBC OP   Couple
over a year ago

bmfc clubs

Hi, we're looking at both parties on the 29th April and not sure which one to attend.

Has any one been to both and what would you recommend?

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By *s Lola Wand - SocketWoman
over a year ago

leicester


"Hi, we're looking at both parties on the 29th April and not sure which one to attend.

Has any one been to both and what would you recommend?"

I’d honestly say it’s like comparing apples and oranges , they’re both round delicious fruit but are totally different I’ve never been to BMFC so don’t know how their events tend to flow , but I do help at DD and I’d recommend it in a heartbeat - but it may not be your cup of tea , who knows , maybe try them both over the next few months , who doesn’t need an excuse to get out more ?!

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough


"Hi, we're looking at both parties on the 29th April and not sure which one to attend.

Has any one been to both and what would you recommend?"

I’ve been to Dark Desires at Ab Fabs, and it was brilliant! Never been to BMFC

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By *lackTeJayMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I would say bmfc as I’m attending

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By *mazonian Hotwife cuckCouple
over a year ago

Droitwich

We are also looking at this date to get back out there. Again undecided between the events; which would people recommend for the cuckolding dynamic?

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By *empting TravelsMan
over a year ago

London


"We are also looking at this date to get back out there. Again undecided between the events; which would people recommend for the cuckolding dynamic?"

I've been to both and like both a lot. Whichever has the stronger cuckolding vibe will always win on the night for me though lol.

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By *DCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Herefordshire

I’m interested in both. We would want the more cuckold suited night

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By *hiskymacncorsetgirlCouple
over a year ago

northampton

We have been to both

BMFC was outside the wife got all the attention she was looking for, great for me watching her being totally used

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have only been to Xtasia bmfc which was an amazing evening. We'd highly reccomend.

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By *DCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Herefordshire

Plenty of bulls?

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By *unny!Woman
over a year ago

Bunnyland

I’ve attended both, many times. Although they are both interracial events, they’re very different parties and I’d agree with the above comment that you should try both - each party provides something completely different - different venue, vibe, atmosphere, guests etc.

I’ve only attended DDs at Liberty Elite and really enjoy the club - it typically lends itself to more social interaction and I find the gents are very respectful. Everyone makes a real effort, is well presented and there’s a strong presence within the club from the host and other helpers, which I like. It can sometimes feel like there’s limited private spaces to play but if you enjoy large open areas then the orgy room is great! - there are private rooms too, but sometimes difficult to get access to on a busy night (same with most clubs).

BMFC, tends to have more single men, in my experience. The atmosphere at Xtasia is more of a nightclub vibe. The club itself is great with a range of facilities - the event is well run and always busy. I believe the 29th April is the ‘Bulls’ night, and therefore more geared towards cuckolding, if that’s what you’re looking for.

I’ll be attending BMFC on 29th April - I’m taking a large group of friends with me so I’m hoping it’s another great night but I’ll probably be looking to go to DDs the month after.

Enjoy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.

You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Both come highly recommended by friends of mine. Advise would be to try both out a couple of times and see which one suits your style and needs

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By *issA_MrMMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"I’ve attended both, many times. Although they are both interracial events, they’re very different parties and I’d agree with the above comment that you should try both - each party provides something completely different - different venue, vibe, atmosphere, guests etc.

I’ve only attended DDs at Liberty Elite and really enjoy the club - it typically lends itself to more social interaction and I find the gents are very respectful. Everyone makes a real effort, is well presented and there’s a strong presence within the club from the host and other helpers, which I like. It can sometimes feel like there’s limited private spaces to play but if you enjoy large open areas then the orgy room is great! - there are private rooms too, but sometimes difficult to get access to on a busy night (same with most clubs).

BMFC, tends to have more single men, in my experience. The atmosphere at Xtasia is more of a nightclub vibe. The club itself is great with a range of facilities - the event is well run and always busy. I believe the 29th April is the ‘Bulls’ night, and therefore more geared towards cuckolding, if that’s what you’re looking for.

I’ll be attending BMFC on 29th April - I’m taking a large group of friends with me so I’m hoping it’s another great night but I’ll probably be looking to go to DDs the month after.

Enjoy x"

This is very helpful thank you. A xx

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

I’m off to Dark Desires this Friday! Xxx

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By *omeo1985Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"I’ve attended both, many times. Although they are both interracial events, they’re very different parties and I’d agree with the above comment that you should try both - each party provides something completely different - different venue, vibe, atmosphere, guests etc.

I’ve only attended DDs at Liberty Elite and really enjoy the club - it typically lends itself to more social interaction and I find the gents are very respectful. Everyone makes a real effort, is well presented and there’s a strong presence within the club from the host and other helpers, which I like. It can sometimes feel like there’s limited private spaces to play but if you enjoy large open areas then the orgy room is great! - there are private rooms too, but sometimes difficult to get access to on a busy night (same with most clubs).

BMFC, tends to have more single men, in my experience. The atmosphere at Xtasia is more of a nightclub vibe. The club itself is great with a range of facilities - the event is well run and always busy. I believe the 29th April is the ‘Bulls’ night, and therefore more geared towards cuckolding, if that’s what you’re looking for.

I’ll be attending BMFC on 29th April - I’m taking a large group of friends with me so I’m hoping it’s another great night but I’ll probably be looking to go to DDs the month after.

Enjoy x

This is very helpful thank you. A xx"

This is deffo best summary, couldn’t have said it better myself p.s il b at Xtasia

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.

You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry."

Are you suggesting that everyone who attends an interracial event is a racist bigot?

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By *tasiaCouple
over a year ago

West Bromwich


"All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.

You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry."

Just had a read of your profile. Good to see you have "preferences"

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I too have been to both parties and they’re both really great. As has been recommended above you should try both at some point, you won’t be disappointed by either.

I’ll be at Xtasia on the 29th with my friend Bunny, above, and will be no doubt be making an appearance at DD at some point soon too.

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By *ukkake coupleCouple
over a year ago

herts

Even thinking of trying one in the future. Could be some naughty night out x

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By *taffs_hotwifeCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

The cuckold events at Xtasia are amazing.

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By *ed AstaireWoman
over a year ago

Lancaster


"I too have been to both parties and they’re both really great. As has been recommended above you should try both at some point, you won’t be disappointed by either.

I’ll be at Xtasia on the 29th with my friend Bunny, above, and will be no doubt be making an appearance at DD at some point soon too. "

I'm going too with my friends..YOU BUNNY, FLICK, GIGI ,HAYLEY, BLAZE, KID&PLAY... road trips still growing, gonna be epic.. Watch out Bulls the 'Women of the NW Swing scene are coming to town'

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"I too have been to both parties and they’re both really great. As has been recommended above you should try both at some point, you won’t be disappointed by either.

I’ll be at Xtasia on the 29th with my friend Bunny, above, and will be no doubt be making an appearance at DD at some point soon too.

I'm going too with my friends..YOU BUNNY, FLICK, GIGI ,HAYLEY, BLAZE, KID&PLAY... road trips still growing, gonna be epic.. Watch out Bulls the 'Women of the NW Swing scene are coming to town' "

Brace yourselves… we’re coming!

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By *un KnightsCouple
over a year ago

South West

We are also planning on being at Xtasia on the 29th as it is a rare free night for us.

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire


"All depends on how you feel about the racial fetishization and objectification of people based on their skin tone being made into something taboo.

You can try to justify that it’s all personal preference, and while on the surface it may seem benign and even complimentary, often these “preferences” reinforce harmful stereotypes and harbor underlying racist views and are direct acts of bigotry."

Are you jealous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Are you jealous?"

No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/

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By *ixenCuriousWoman
over a year ago

Manchester region

I’m at BMFC this Friday cos cuck will be offering me up in the female reverse glory hole!!! Might try DD next month x

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton


"

Are you jealous?

No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/"

Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.

I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.

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By *unny!Woman
over a year ago

Bunnyland


"

Are you jealous?

No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/

Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.

I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.

"

People can find black men/women more attractive without considering it a fetish. The fact that some people describe it as a ‘fetish’ highlights a certain mentality!

I’m not speaking for everyone here. Perhaps some people enjoy race play etc, however, I feel it’s unfair to suggest that guests who attend such events are demeaning black people. What gives you the right to differentiate between someone’s preferences and bigotry?

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By *unny!Woman
over a year ago

Bunnyland


"

Are you jealous?

No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/

Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.

I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.

"

Absolutely agree!

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

Rather than listening to academic arguments on the matter I recommend these two episodes from podcasts that address the matter from different perspectives but from people in the swinging scene.

The For arguments

The Venus Cuckoldress Podcast "gangbangs-setting-the-mood-and-race-play-with-black-bull-founder-of-the4whoresmen-pagan"

And the Against Arguments

Black n Kinky Lifestyle

Black in SEX (Black History Month 2022): Black Queens vs. Black Bulls and QOS featuring The Bulls And Queens Podcast.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am booked to go to bmfc on the 29th but going alone, am nervous now as I see lots of people go in groups

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Are you jealous?

No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/

Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.

I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.

"

Same here

Me personally I would just rather distance myself from those kind of people

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough

Had an amazing time at Dark Desires at Ab Fabs tonight! Lots of BBC & BWC

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"

Are you jealous?

No, not at all. I don’t see black skin as something sexualised as more exciting or exotic and find racial fetishisation to be a very outdated and demeaning practice.

https://metro.co.uk/2020/12/22/what-is-racial-fetishisation-and-why-is-it-a-form-of-racism-13762955/amp/

Personally, I am against the term BBC and against raceplay.

I am more against people telling grown consenting adults how they should interact with people sexually.

"

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I don't think anyone's doing that are they?

Offering a point of view isn't telling anyone how they should behave, especially if the point of view helps inform whatever decision they choose to take, after all it may improve the experience for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BMFC for sure xxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fun night at Dark Desires

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By *irgilMan
over a year ago

london


"We are also planning on being at Xtasia on the 29th as it is a rare free night for us. "

Hope to see you there _un knights!! what i can make out of that profile pic, you look great!

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By *mazonian Hotwife cuckCouple
over a year ago

Droitwich


"I am booked to go to bmfc on the 29th but going alone, am nervous now as I see lots of people go in groups "

I reckon your inbox was pretty busy with offers from proxy cucks wishing to escort you following this post! I definitely know one that would jump at the chance if he could!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually I have only had 1 guy message me to say he is staying hereby and recommended a hotel, bless him

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By *inky MofoMan
over a year ago

WORCESTER


"Actually I have only had 1 guy message me to say he is staying hereby and recommended a hotel, bless him "

Well I would certainly love to escort you as whatever you wish!

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By *irgilMan
over a year ago

london


"Actually I have only had 1 guy message me to say he is staying hereby and recommended a hotel, bless him "

it was a pleasure to help out!!

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