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Planning our first club visit

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By *ez1980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

hereford

Hi guys, we’re currently trying to plan our first club visit (most likely Chams darlaston) for later in the year. We’re just looking for a bit of advice if anyone can help.

Firstly, we’re new to the scene, although we’ve been discussing it for years, so we’re very inexperienced and don’t know what exactly to expect but we see a club as a good place to start meeting people IRL. We’ve whittled it down to either a couples night, or BBW night but we’re not sure if that’s too specialist for our first time? We’re not even sure that we will be ready on our first visit to do more than socialise although, that could change obviously. I understand that Chams is a wet club, towels only etc for men, we’re both pretty sure that we’re comfortable with that but would people recommend a clothing optional club first such as xtasia?

Anyway, other than those little details, any other advice would be much appreciated.

Cheers

Shell and Mick

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Our first club was Chams and we were nervous too. Just remember everyone there is the same as you, looking for Fun and excitement but you have zero pressure and there’s zero need for you to play if you don’t want to. Treat it as going to a pub or a club, sit and talk tell the people who show you round that you are new, they will be very helpful. Guys mat approach you, if you get on well go with the glow, if you aren’t sure, say no thanks snd they will leave you alone. The couples only room is always a less intimidating place and somewhere you can be naked for the first time if you wish , I’m sure lots of people will offer better advice but that’s our view.

Enjoy!

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By *ez1980 OP   Couple
over a year ago

hereford

Cheers guys, I’m sure everyone has these nerves haha

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By *ormerWelshcouple2020Man
over a year ago

Stourbridge

Wouldn’t be human if you weren’t nervous ! From your pictures you don’t look shy! Actually you will get offers to show you round most likely!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Chams was our first and we'd highly recommend it. You may find that the dress down rule will probably ease your nerves earlier so you can enjoy yourself quicker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On our first visit to a club a single guy asked if we were new and offered to show us around.

We couldn’t get rid of him then until eventually we had to be very blunt.

Just be careful of that trick.

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By *i015Man
over a year ago

Millbrook, Southampton

I've only been to spa's, but going to my first club visit this weekend, not quite sure what to expect. I'm just going to do what I have done in the past when I have visited spa's or attended social events and just mingle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We’re in this boat too! … nervous but feel like it’s a rip the plaster off kinda situation and need to just get it over and done with lol.

Nic.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By nko means seasoned swingers but going to a club is not half as nerve racking as you might think. Cross the threshold, have a drink and go with the intention of playing just with each other. If anything else happens, that's a bonus but talk about your limits beforehand. You will have a great time. M X

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