FabSwingers.com forum: Bi night but not bi

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My friend and I (female) visited a club recently and we really enjoyed it but we were disappointed that there was no guy on guy action (it wasn’t a bi night).

We would both love to witness this but neither of us are bi.

Would we be able to go to a bi night even though we aren’t bi or is that not acceptable? There doesn’t seem to be much bi man action on non bi nights.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe not then hahaha

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By *oppedSoxCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

You can go to any night, there is no pressure to play with anyone - male or female - so no one can call you out on it.

I guess you are asking the question because you are bothered by the ethical / moral dilemma of misrepresenting yourself - you will be approached by couples wanting to play with you on a bi- basis because you are at a bi- night.

If you are happy to go on this basis, then by all means go and enjoy the show.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You can go to any night, there is no pressure to play with anyone - male or female - so no one can call you out on it.

If you are happy to go on this basis, then by all means go and enjoy the show. "

Yeah, I suppose that’s what I’m saying. People will assume that people at are night are bi. Will there be a bit of annoyance from others and “well why are you here?”

Just don’t want to be in a position where we feel we shouldn’t be there.

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By *oppedSoxCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If they are annoyed then that's their problem. They shouldn't be expecting you to play with them - you may just not fancy them it doesn't mean you are not bi-.

Swinging isn't a hard definition - some people don't play, some like to be watched, some like to watch, there is soft swap, full swap - the list goes on.

So it's really down to if you feel comfortable going x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If they are annoyed then that's their problem. They shouldn't be expecting you to play with them - you may just not fancy them it doesn't mean you are not bi-.

Swinging isn't a hard definition - some people don't play, some like to be watched, some like to watch, there is soft swap, full swap - the list goes on.

So it's really down to if you feel comfortable going x "

Great, thanks!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Agree with above, it’s if you feel comfortable going.

I don’t think I would purely because I’d feel like I’m attending to watch something I wouldn’t do, kind of like taking advantage.

There’s no expectation to play with anyone at any event so I don’t think it’s about that.

Potentially think of the club and the event too, I’ve see much more bi play in certain clubs than others and I’ve never been to bi night xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree with above, it’s if you feel comfortable going.

I don’t think I would purely because I’d feel like I’m attending to watch something I wouldn’t do, kind of like taking advantage.

There’s no expectation to play with anyone at any event so I don’t think it’s about that.

That was my concern, going to watch something we wouldn’t do ourselves. We don’t want to take advantage of the situation.

Potentially think of the club and the event too, I’ve see much more bi play in certain clubs than others and I’ve never been to bi night xx"

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

From memory to attend bi night at TH you have to be bi friendly

Plenty of MM oral action last bi night we went, not sure any full on MM fucking

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"Agree with above, it’s if you feel comfortable going.

I don’t think I would purely because I’d feel like I’m attending to watch something I wouldn’t do, kind of like taking advantage.

There’s no expectation to play with anyone at any event so I don’t think it’s about that.

Potentially think of the club and the event too, I’ve see much more bi play in certain clubs than others and I’ve never been to bi night xx"

Ooh which clubs? Our last time at Cupid’s we didn’t see any action on bi night

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"From memory to attend bi night at TH you have to be bi friendly

Plenty of MM oral action last bi night we went, not sure any full on MM fucking "

What does bi friendly mean? Like bi curious?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

There's always the option for you to play with a bi guy there if you don't just want to be a watcher

There used to be a club near to us that was predominantly for gay men. They'd open the doors twice a week for women and couples on the understanding that you're accepting of gay men in the club.

There's not a whole lot of open guy-on-guy play in regular clubs as there can be an attitude of revulsion towards it. We met a bi couple in a club a while ago. Playing in an open room, the watchers enjoyed Steph kissing the lady but I actually heard a vomit noise and "ewww" when I went down on the guy.

But on bi nights, it should be more open to watch

Enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's always the option for you to play with a bi guy there if you don't just want to be a watcher

There used to be a club near to us that was predominantly for gay men. They'd open the doors twice a week for women and couples on the understanding that you're accepting of gay men in the club.

But on bi nights, it should be more open to watch

Enjoy! "

Yeah, the club we went to was good but no man on man and we were a bit disappointed.

I think we’ll definitely have a look at bi nights

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Agree with above, it’s if you feel comfortable going.

I don’t think I would purely because I’d feel like I’m attending to watch something I wouldn’t do, kind of like taking advantage.

There’s no expectation to play with anyone at any event so I don’t think it’s about that.

Potentially think of the club and the event too, I’ve see much more bi play in certain clubs than others and I’ve never been to bi night xx

Ooh which clubs? Our last time at Cupid’s we didn’t see any action on bi night"

I’ve always seen bi action (men and women) at club play…

more so than townhouse or Cupid’s when I’d been there.

I’ve never been to a bi night though xx

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"From memory to attend bi night at TH you have to be bi friendly

Plenty of MM oral action last bi night we went, not sure any full on MM fucking

What does bi friendly mean? Like bi curious?"

No i believe it means accepting of bisexuality

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

I went to my first bi night at Jaydees last Friday and there was some full bi male action. Amazing! Lol.

I know you can come to this event even if you're not bi yourself, you just need to be comfortable with the possibility there would be some same sex action happening.

Jaydees is a bit of a hike for you though, from Liverpool. However, I'm sure TH has similar rules.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went to my first bi night at Jaydees last Friday and there was some full bi male action. Amazing! Lol.

I know you can come to this event even if you're not bi yourself, you just need to be comfortable with the possibility there would be some same sex action happening.

Jaydees is a bit of a hike for you though, from Liverpool. However, I'm sure TH has similar rules. "

Yeah, shame but that’s a bit far. I’ll have a look at what townhouse has got going on

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"I went to my first bi night at Jaydees last Friday and there was some full bi male action. Amazing! Lol.

I know you can come to this event even if you're not bi yourself, you just need to be comfortable with the possibility there would be some same sex action happening.

Jaydees is a bit of a hike for you though, from Liverpool. However, I'm sure TH has similar rules.

Yeah, shame but that’s a bit far. I’ll have a look at what townhouse has got going on

I forgot to say in my post- contact the person hosting the bi night and explain your concerns. I'm sure they'll be able to help. Also, most bi nights are geared towards bi men, so if you're an "admirer", you should be fine to go

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By *ottom charlieMan
over a year ago

washington

you can go by all means but it is meant to be a bi night,, girls on girls and guys on guys and all mixed together but the snag is when straight guys turn up all they want is to play and fuck the females,, so no one is then sure who does what,,??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I went to my first bi night at Jaydees last Friday and there was some full bi male action. Amazing! Lol.

I know you can come to this event even if you're not bi yourself, you just need to be comfortable with the possibility there would be some same sex action happening.

Jaydees is a bit of a hike for you though, from Liverpool. However, I'm sure TH has similar rules.

Yeah, shame but that’s a bit far. I’ll have a look at what townhouse has got going on

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Will do

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"you can go by all means but it is meant to be a bi night,, girls on girls and guys on guys and all mixed together but the snag is when straight guys turn up all they want is to play and fuck the females,, so no one is then sure who does what,,?? "

Hmm see we’d be the straight girls just wanting to watch the guys together. But then even if we were bi, doesn’t necessarily mean we’d fancy anyone so the outcome would be the same - us just watching.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

Don't know what bi nights you go to (if any) but around my area, those nights are geared towards bi men. As nobody complains when there is some girl on girl action happening on a regular night, but when two men start playing, then a lot of club goers find it "disgusting". Therefore, there is no need for a separate bi night just so ladies can have some girl on girl action, but there is definitely a need for one with regards to men.

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By *etro manMan
over a year ago

manchester

Hi I have been to a few different places clubs and best way is to chat with other people and then you can find out what they are interested in or just watch as see if they play I did go in a cinema room and they had bi porn on and you could tell who was bi ps my towel was open one club did give out wristbands so you could see

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By *xploressCouple
over a year ago

Mid Devon

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By *xploressCouple
over a year ago

Mid Devon

"You can go to any night, there is no pressure to play with anyone - male or female - so no one can call you out on it.

If you are happy to go on this basis, then by all means go and enjoy the show. "

Any recommendations for Bi nights closer to the South West guys? Do Chams or Xstasia do one ever?

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By *he Knight is YoungMan
over a year ago

22 Acacia Ave, Preston-for now

I'm gonna have to go to a club soon

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By *eard-lincolnMan
over a year ago

near lincoln

I’m off to club play again in December with two guys, feel free to join us for some drinks then you can watch from behind a window in the upstairs area if you like . They even provide nibbles on busier nights

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"You can go to any night, there is no pressure to play with anyone - male or female - so no one can call you out on it.

If you are happy to go on this basis, then by all means go and enjoy the show.

Any recommendations for Bi nights closer to the South West guys? Do Chams or Xstasia do one ever?"

I believe Chams do a monthly bi day, next one looks like it’s 20 December

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By *iJandJCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

"I’m off to club play again in December with two guys, feel free to join us for some drinks then you can watch from behind a window in the upstairs area if you like . They even provide nibbles on busier nights "

Club play sounds fun, we are both looking for fun M/M and F/F so need a club where both playing is openly accepted

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By *allslimalMan
over a year ago

Beauly

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By *allslimalMan
over a year ago

Beauly

Would love to be fucked while a girl or group of girls watched! Is there any demand for this?

Sadly there are no clubs near where I live but I did get to CJ's in Glasgow on a bi night and enjoyed quite a few cocks. Sadly there were no women there that day.

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By *iss DevilWoman
over a year ago

Bedford

"Would love to be fucked while a girl or group of girls watched! Is there any demand for this?

Sadly there are no clubs near where I live but I did get to CJ's in Glasgow on a bi night and enjoyed quite a few cocks. Sadly there were no women there that day.

I very much enjoyed watching 3 men on 4 poster bed at Jaydees about a week ago. It doesn't happen on a regular night, unfortunately.

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By *aznshaneCouple
over a year ago

St Annes

Infusion in Blackpool is also bi-friendly, seen both f&f, m&m and even tv&m, club play is also up there too

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By *urboTongue21Man
over a year ago

Walsall

"You can go to any night, there is no pressure to play with anyone - male or female - so no one can call you out on it.

If you are happy to go on this basis, then by all means go and enjoy the show.

Any recommendations for Bi nights closer to the South West guys? Do Chams or Xstasia do one ever?

I believe Chams do a monthly bi day, next one looks like it’s 20 December "

Every Monday at Chams is bi friendly...guys have to confirm this to be allowed in; couples have to have at least one bi partner.

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By *orty-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Leyland

I'd like to go to bi night, but I dung think my Mrs would be up for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Townhouse do a bi night get lots of guy on guy fun there in the dark room

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Townhouse do a bi night get lots of guy on guy fun there in the dark room "

How much can you see in the dark room?

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By *reenleavesCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

"Townhouse do a bi night get lots of guy on guy fun there in the dark room

How much can you see in the dark room? "

The Townhouse one is made with a curtain so it's not pitch black. Especially when people keep opening the curtain to see who's in there

You can make people out but you can't see a great deal. Fun room to play in though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure avoid looking girl like you wouldn’t have much trouble inviting round bi guys to play for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are annoyed then that's their problem. They shouldn't be expecting you to play with them - you may just not fancy them it doesn't mean you are not bi-.

Swinging isn't a hard definition - some people don't play, some like to be watched, some like to watch, there is soft swap, full swap - the list goes on.

So it's really down to if you feel comfortable going x "

Depending on the club there may be no open man on man action on bi night anyway.

OP see you if you can persuade them.

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By *oly Fuck Sticks BatmanCouple
over a year ago

here & there

You should come to VA on the bi night - there’s a great deal of man on man action on display, well that’s been our experience & the mr’s when he attended by himself.

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By *ighlander80884Man
over a year ago

Inverness

Yeah, I suppose that’s what I’m saying. People will assume that people at are night are bi. Will there be a bit of annoyance from others and “well why are you here?” "

No different to going any other night and not playing with anyone, it's your choice if you want to play or not. It's not mandatory.

Go along and enjoy the show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Enough can see guys sucking each other off and seen a couple of guys been fucked

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You should come to VA on the bi night - there’s a great deal of man on man action on display, well that’s been our experience & the mr’s when he attended by himself. "

That’s a bit far for me unfortunately but sounds good

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By *a KatWoman
over a year ago

Northwest

You may wish to consider The Gate House Bolton. This small very friendly club, ìs for the alternative lifestylers, Bi, Tgirls etc.

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

My bi night is geared towards bi males. All the couples invited are bi male cpls , all single guys are bi and I always advertise any straight fems looking for bi males are very much welcome as the emphasis is on guts not gals x I think its a bit far from you but I think club play is near you with a cracking bi male orientated night although not sure of the requirements for fems x

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

"My bi night is geared towards bi males. All the couples invited are bi male cpls , all single guys are bi and I always advertise any straight fems looking for bi males are very much welcome as the emphasis is on guts not gals x I think its a bit far from you but I think club play is near you with a cracking bi male orientated night although not sure of the requirements for fems x "

*guys* not guts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they are annoyed then that's their problem. They shouldn't be expecting you to play with them - you may just not fancy them it doesn't mean you are not bi-.

Swinging isn't a hard definition - some people don't play, some like to be watched, some like to watch, there is soft swap, full swap - the list goes on.

So it's really down to if you feel comfortable going x "

Well said

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