FabSwingers.com forum: Newbies! Please help!

By *kcouple92 OP Couple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Hi all

Hoping someone can help us. We’re Milton Keynes based and primarily a foot fetish couple but love to see and experience what’s about.

Been toying with the idea of a club. The three around us are penthouse playrooms, va and Jaydees. We’ve never been to a club in our lives and when we’ve tried to ask and send messages we just get told “just come along” it’s not that simple for us unfortunately and we’re nervous and don’t know how things work. Can people help us with the following questions?

1) Do you have to sign up and pay to be a member first then pay for each specific event or does it not matter about being a member?

2) a lot of events are themed (milf/kink/bi etc) if we don’t fall into these does this mean we shouldn’t really turn up? Don’t like the idea of not being able to turn up whenever we choose and having to wait weeks before there’s an event which covers us

3) we like the idea of just socialising and not necessarily playing if we’re not comfortable but what do we wear? If C turns up in lingerie would it be out of place? Would we have to bring towels if there’s a hot tub and a whole bag full of kit and clothes?

Sorry for the long message but we’re not good at being spontaneous and don’t want to turn up to one or try and organise it unprepared!!

Thanks in advance!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

(I’ve not been to any of those clubs so my response a isn’t based on them directly)

First of all, find a club that actually listens too and answers your questions

that’ll make too much more at ease rather than just saying turn up.

Clothing: Some clubs are immediate dress down- it should say on their website. Meaning you have to be in in underwear/ lingerie/ boxers or towels straight away in all areas. Others are what I’d say “normal” night out clothes and then dress down in play areas, others can stay dressed at all times. The website should be super clear!

Events: your usually more than welcome to attend al of them, but the audience will be different for each. For example some bdsm events don’t allow public play as it’s based on kink alone, if your looking for single males then couples night isn’t the one! Any club you speak too should be able to advise based on what your looking for though.

And you should be more than welcome to attend and nosey round with no pressure to play at all, lots go for the social side of things too!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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Each club has individual ways of doing things, so some of them you do need to be a member and pay a membership, others you just have to register before you attend.

Some with membership you can attend without being a member (but may possibly have to pay an extra fee.)

If they have a hot tub then usually you will need to bring your own towels.

Normally everybody is very easy going clothing wise, unless there is a dress code for a particular event, so lingerie or smart or sexy clothes are usually fine.

In the clubs that I go to everybody tends to be welcome regardless if there is a theme (fetish, MILF, etc) so even at those events, if you aren't exactly the target audience, you still are likely to have a good time and be welcomed and comfortable.

Often there will be somebody who can show you around on your first time, and possibly introduce you to a few regular people.

I have a recieving foot fetish and I've had my feet massaged at many venues regardless of the event, it haven't ever been an issue for me.

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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Also at all the venues there is never any pressure to join in, there are people who go just to be around like-minded individuals, and others you go to get more intimately involved. Whatever suits you is going to be fine.

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By *bgbCouple
over a year ago

Banbury

To be honest it's a case of going for it, we are members of chams and its so easy going and friendly, pick your night to suit your needs, bi, couples only etc... and never and pressure to do anything. If decide when your going put a post on here and arrange to meet some people, doesn't mean you have to play with them, but makes life so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, we went to Jaydee's for the first time 2 weeks ago and going back this Saturday... I will try to answer best I can...

Membership at JD's is £10 (1 off payment) then it is £30 for a couple for most nights. It is a bring your own drink place. You bring your own drink, they store it for you behind the bar.

Most Saturday is a fairly straight forward "sexy night" so not sexual preference related. You can wear what you want, some women wear VERY revealing outifts, some wear pretty normal clothes. There is a hot tub downstairs and you have to bring your own towel, but there are loads of lockers so you don't have to carry all your gear around with you.

Whilst you are downstairs, play is pretty much none existant in the open areas... no real play around the dancefloor and bar, no play in the hot tub, although there are a couple of beds around it if you fancy it. Then still downstairs, there are about 5 or 6 bedrooms, they all have doors and locks, so they can be as private as you want.

Upstairs is more public and there is definitely more play. What I would say is that we felt no pressure to play and we spoke to people that just go there for the atmosphere and never play.

If you are playing in an open space (upstairs) people will watch, but they will only join if explicitly invited...

Send us a private message if you have anymore questions... x

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By *kcouple92 OP Couple
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Hey thanks to everyone for their messages and their help! We had our first club visit at Jaydees for their fireworks night a few weeks ago.

We didn’t play with anyone else, just ourselves but had a lot of fun and it seemed to be very friendly. We will go back and try and spend some time in the hot tub! ??

Also, thanks to the couple who posted on this forum who don’t seem to be on here anymore?? We met them that night there and they were lovely! Hope they found what they wanted too!

R&C x

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Each club has individual ways of doing things"

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