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By *9erlover OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleepy Dorset

Hi everyone

I’m going to a club today…my first so am a little apprehensive. As I am a single guy I would like to know what is appropriate for getting to chat to couples/ single females. I know that females are generally in charge and I respect this. Should I wait to be approached or is it ok for me to make the first approach. Any info welcome.

Thanks

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By *ickedwillyCouple
over a year ago

Bangor

No I know it’s difficult but good conversation is the only way we hate gents that just stare at us.

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By *9erlover OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleepy Dorset


"No I know it’s difficult but good conversation is the only way we hate gents that just stare at us. "

This is what I want to avoid. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb and certainly don’t want to make others feel uncomfortable

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

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By *oved Up 2Couple
over a year ago

nottingham

Never try just to talk to the woman, that's just not on. We're club regulars and chat to everyone regardless of whether we want to play with them or not. Clubs are really social places. Take the opportunity to chat to likeminded people. Don't go expecting anything to happen.

Having said all that I hope you enjoy your first visit

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By *9erlover OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleepy Dorset


"Never try just to talk to the woman, that's just not on. We're club regulars and chat to everyone regardless of whether we want to play with them or not. Clubs are really social places. Take the opportunity to chat to likeminded people. Don't go expecting anything to happen.

Having said all that I hope you enjoy your first visit"

Many thanks for the advice. Will make sure I will speak to both in a couple. I’m not expecting anything to happen…if it does that’s a bonus. Just want to chat to likeminded people and make new friends

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

At the clubs I'm familiar with, the start of the evening is mostly social. So be sociable, talk with everyone, and don't go straight in asking for sex. If you leave people with a favourable impression, then they're more likely to think favourably later on.

This way you end up talking with a lot of interesting people, so it's a good night out whatever else happens.

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By *9erlover OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleepy Dorset


"At the clubs I'm familiar with, the start of the evening is mostly social. So be sociable, talk with everyone, and don't go straight in asking for sex. If you leave people with a favourable impression, then they're more likely to think favourably later on.

This way you end up talking with a lot of interesting people, so it's a good night out whatever else happens."

Great advice…many thanks

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"At the clubs I'm familiar with, the start of the evening is mostly social. So be sociable, talk with everyone, and don't go straight in asking for sex. If you leave people with a favourable impression, then they're more likely to think favourably later on.

This way you end up talking with a lot of interesting people, so it's a good night out whatever else happens."
this is exactly the right way... even on a greedy girl session I like people to talk to me x

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By *9erlover OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleepy Dorset


"At the clubs I'm familiar with, the start of the evening is mostly social. So be sociable, talk with everyone, and don't go straight in asking for sex. If you leave people with a favourable impression, then they're more likely to think favourably later on.

This way you end up talking with a lot of interesting people, so it's a good night out whatever else happens. this is exactly the right way... even on a greedy girl session I like people to talk to me x"

Many thanks for your advice x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as everyone else has said... Chat to people and see where it leads!

I would also had on actually asking people before getting involved in any play. It should be a basic thing, but I am always shocked by the number of single guys that just dive straight in and touch with out asking!

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By *9erlover OP   Man
over a year ago

Sleepy Dorset


"I think as everyone else has said... Chat to people and see where it leads!

I would also had on actually asking people before getting involved in any play. It should be a basic thing, but I am always shocked by the number of single guys that just dive straight in and touch with out asking!

"

Thankyou…I am a gentleman and would always ask first but if I’m fortunate I would hope to be asked so I don’t have to make the first approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think as everyone else has said... Chat to people and see where it leads!

I would also had on actually asking people before getting involved in any play. It should be a basic thing, but I am always shocked by the number of single guys that just dive straight in and touch with out asking!

Thankyou…I am a gentleman and would always ask first but if I’m fortunate I would hope to be asked so I don’t have to make the first approach "

True, I have found that sometimes making the first move, even if it just saying hello can lead to a whole world of fun!

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

Be friendly and sociable, smell nice, make at least some effort with your clothes (unless it's a dress down club). Smile!

Try and talk to people (that's the difficult part for us), if you get the vibe people you are trying to talk to are not interested, move on.

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