FabSwingers.com forum: First club visit

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So ... I've never been to one before and am kinda nervous to try it out despite being curious.

Do I dare go it alone or would it be recommended to find someone to attend with who has been before?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I went with a group of friends i met off kik for my first time

Was nice to have people to say hi to when I arrived, show me around and have a drink with

They’ve stayed really good friends and now we all go off and do our own things at the clubs, but book hotels and travel together and things. It’s really good cos you’ve always got friends there in between doing who and what you want lol x

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By *ixieSkyeWoman
over a year ago

vale of Glamorgan

I'd say, unless you are super confident then go with a friend haha. It'll make the whole night alot easier if you are nervous x

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

Hi hun, I was in the same situation, and very nervous; although I’ve been on this site for a fair few years, I’d always been on meets at a hotel or their homes, and was absolutely quaking inside! I saw a guy who had put an event meet up who was going to the venue I wanted on the same date (a naturist afternoon and bi-night after 6pm),and was looking for a ‘no-obligation but play if we click’ partner to go with him (to share costs as it’s cheaper than going as a single man). I messaged him, we chatted for a while and went yesterday afternoon. It was still nerve wracking, but I felt so much better having someone to show me around and ‘protect’ me (for want of a better word). I was kicking myself though, as we were approached by a shy but gorgeous lady almost as soon as we got in the pool, but I misread her approach and thought she was just chatting! *smh* Anyway, my chaperone and I did click and had a lovely time together, I was able to look around and explore all the facilities without feeling self conscious, and I’ll definitely be going back on my own as soon as lifestuff permits. Hopefully my lovely lady will also go back then I can apologise, and see if she’ll let me make it up to her!

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By *el111Man
over a year ago

Essex/London

i am in the same boat.. would be keen to try it out but wouldn't know what to do etc..

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By *eachy123Woman
over a year ago

Rochdale/Manchester/Blackpool and were ever the mood takes me

"So ... I've never been to one before and am kinda nervous to try it out despite being curious.

Do I dare go it alone or would it be recommended to find someone to attend with who has been before? "

Always mention to the staff your new and nervous, they will do everything to make you feel at ease xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our advice would be to read the forums and club feedback then choose the best one for you.

Some clubs can be very cliquey, others are just the opposite. They also have lots of theme nights so watch out for those.

Once you have been to one, you will wonder why were you nervous about going!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you’ll be just fine, people will make a beeline for you and engage your in conversation. Your problem will more likely be getting rid of people!

Personally I always prefer going with a friend; means you know there’s someone there you like!

Dynamic is very different for men and women I think.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you

... Guess ill have to just take the plunge (with or without a chaperone) and see how I feel

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I went on my own for the first time and been a few times now in my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Which club are you thinking of going to?

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By *oodsyMan
over a year ago

tonbridge

" Thank you

... Guess ill have to just take the plunge (with or without a chaperone) and see how I feel "

Maybe hook up with a couple who regularly go to the club you want to go to. Just so they can keep an eye on you and you have somebody to talk to. I'm sure it would be easy to find a couple who are happy to look after you for your first couple of visits until you make some friends of your own. We are all, by nature a friendly and welcoming bunch. X

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