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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only way to avoid STDs completely is to not have sex at all.
As for bareback; if both parties are tested regularly, their last test was negative, they perhaps take additional precautions such as using PrEP and there is mutual trust between both/all parties and they're happy to accept the shared risk...what is the problem? Nobody is asking you to sleep with people who have meets like that, so you don't need to get on your high horse about it.
Some people on this site think that 'condom = safe sex' and have sex with pretty much anyone thinking they're safe as long as they use a condom (and many of these people don't even get regular tests), but as you have clearly demonstrated, a condom doesn't equal safe sex. A condom is a tool that can be used to contribute to safe sex, that's all it is.
For us, safe sex is an all-encompassing term that many things fall under. Things such as: consent, respect of boundaries, safe words, specialist knowledge if you're doing something high risk like BDSM/rope play/breath play, knowing what is and isn't body safe (a lot of common foods people use during play, for example, put you at high risk of contracting a yeast infection), knowing which sex toys are appropriate for which orifices, contraception (of any description), PrEP, vaccinations against Hep A, B and HPV, and good old fashioned 'feeling people out' which, granted, is a skill that takes time to develop.
So as you can see from this list that took all of 5 minutes to concoct, there is A LOT more to safe sex than simply using a condom. And to answer your question: there is no way to eliminate risk entirely.
I believe someone on here once said "Safe sex starts with common sense, not a condom." |
