FabSwingers.com forum: First time single lad

By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

quite close to you

1. Do your research- find what’s on around were you live; about an hour away is best, that way if it’s not your thing you don’t have a long slog back home or an expensive wank in a hotel.

2. Pick the right night - don’t go to a couples only night with someone you’ve met on here - it’s very likely you’ll be left standing watching over playing.

3. ‘No’ - accept this as a golden rule. Don’t yet and convince and worst don’t get angry or beg.

4. Don’t follow women around the clubs - they hate being stalked.

5. Be clean - honestly have a nice long shower before you go. And dress up don’t just rock up like you’re doing the night shift at a petrol station … clean and cut fingernails (trust me)

6. Don’t assume because you’ve paid, or women are walking around naked or are fucking inches from you you can grope them - ask if you can join in. I’ve seen a guy get punched in the dick.

7. Talk to people - if talking to a couple talk to both of them. I’ve fallen into this trap before talking just to the woman and then the man felt insulted and it was game over.

8. Be that guy that reports wankers - not literal wankers as they’ll be those guys there - but pissed up and up rude abusive and sketchy guys who will spoil it for you (a single guy)

9. Relax and don’t forget your humour.

10. Stay local for a while once you become a regular you are going to see a real change in how others treat you.

11. Sounds weird but don’t drink - if you’re driving don’t bother the police will be on the look out for you - yes they know that club you’ve just come out of is a swingers Club…they know. But it’s easy for that Dutch courage to turn into d*unk.

12. If there’s lockers- bring a towel.

13. Get a little bag you can wear and put your condoms, baby wipes (cleanliness remember) and money into

14. Don’t be the guy who lurks in the background while some other guy is doing the talking - I’ve had a guy ruin my time with a woman by trying to dry hump her while she was kissing me

15. As a single guy this is the horrible truth - you’re going to be seen as a pariah - sorry but clubs and events are more catered towards couples and single women - you’re going to be excluded more, denied more, ignored, charged more to enter, given the smaller spaces, judged more, and like on here couples and women will openly lump you together with a minority of losers & creeps soo it doesn’t matter what you’re like you have to be twice as good as the male partner to be considered decent ( unless you’re black at a Interracial swingers event then you’re the prize at one BMFC party years ago I saw five guys sat alone drinking while their wives/girlfriends were being fucked in another room but that was another time).

16. Don’t eat the finger food! Carb load and drink plenty before you arrive.

17. HAVE FUN - don’t expect anything but to have fun by being fun! Just enjoy yourself.

Good luck anyway

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