FabSwingers.com forum: 1st time club as a couple

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys so last night I've chatted with my miss about swing club. We get to the point that I said I wouldn't be jealous as I know most of male there would be with girls so not many horny bulls that stearing at your miss... she said she'd be OK but she's not sure if one of women would start to touch me... what's your look on that should we try and go one time see what's happen??

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think before you decide to go you should have a chat about what both your limits and boundaries are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go with absolute no expectations, just feel the atmosphere, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to . It’s not a matter of getting pounced on as soon as you walk into a club

All the best on your first visit of any club x

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"Hey guys so last night I've chatted with my miss about swing club. We get to the point that I said I wouldn't be jealous as I know most of male there would be with girls so not many horny bulls that stearing at your miss... she said she'd be OK but she's not sure if one of women would start to touch me... what's your look on that should we try and go one time see what's happen??

There not places filled with wall to wall of naked bodies haveing sex with everyone in sight

. Its more like a regular pub, so go have a look round, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. But do, do your research on the club you want to go to, not all clubs are the same

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

That's how I see it. We don't need to do anything we can just enjoy our time even just watching others...

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By *haveadreamMan
over a year ago

Fens

See where the mood takes you. The only thing your wife need reassuring about, it's her choice and you shold respect that.

It will take a few visits to a club to be comfortable with all that's going on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe try a few socials with some couples first.

Sounds like you might need to test your boundaries a little.

We were all there once though. That nervous exciting feeling going to club for first time.

The best bit of advice we would give is that you need to remember you absolutely do not need to do anything other than anything you want to do. As long as you're both on same page before you go in and know what each other feels, you'll be fine.

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

Maybe agree that on the first visit you'll both not do anything other than chat to others, there should never be any pressure for you to do anything more so it should be a good baseline to experience what a club is about before coming back together and chatting about what you experienced. And more importantly, how you both felt x

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By *randMrsNorthernCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire

Most of the males there would be with girls? Unless you go on a couples’ night you are mistaken.

If your wife is unsure, it’s best you hold the thought and give her some time to decide whether it’s best for you as a couple first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There not places filled with wall to wall of naked bodies haveing sex with everyone in sight

. Its more like a regular pub, so go have a look round, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. But do, do your research on the club you want to go to, not all clubs are the same

As my friend Sharif says. A swingers club is like going to your local pub with a twist. There's never any pressure to play and no means no . I would recommend talking about your own personal boundaries and discussing any concerns you may have before going to a club. Or just go for a social and get the feel of the place. I love the club scene and have made some wonderful friends on the scene. Good luck OP I wish you all the best on your journey

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By *asters_kittenCouple
over a year ago

Luton

You could both go, enjoy the atmosphere and for the first few visits get a feel for the place, watch what is happening but strictly only play with each other.

I will be attending my first club soon with partner, I have never been, so for me I want to feel the atmosphere. I want to enjoy him in that environment and see where it takes us.

I am shy body wise so would take a while for me to be comfortable with someone else joining us or just me.

I want to explore my Bi side so getting to know other ladies at a club would be amazing. .

Master is happy to move at my pace.

It's all about communication, that is top priority.

Kitten. X x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

You could both go, enjoy the atmosphere and for the first few visits get a feel for the place, watch what is happening but strictly only play with each other.

I will be attending my first club soon with partner, I have never been, so for me I want to feel the atmosphere. I want to enjoy him in that environment and see where it takes us.

I am shy body wise so would take a while for me to be comfortable with someone else joining us or just me.

I want to explore my Bi side so getting to know other ladies at a club would be amazing. .

Master is happy to move at my pace.

It's all about communication, that is top priority.

Kitten. X x

Yeah we probably do this way. I just wonder whitch one to go? We based in Dorset

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By *asters_kittenCouple
over a year ago

Luton

You could both go, enjoy the atmosphere and for the first few visits get a feel for the place, watch what is happening but strictly only play with each other.

I will be attending my first club soon with partner, I have never been, so for me I want to feel the atmosphere. I want to enjoy him in that environment and see where it takes us.

I am shy body wise so would take a while for me to be comfortable with someone else joining us or just me.

I want to explore my Bi side so getting to know other ladies at a club would be amazing. .

Master is happy to move at my pace.

It's all about communication, that is top priority.

Kitten. X x

Yeah we probably do this way. I just wonder whitch one to go? We based in Dorset"

I think you should check the forum for clubs in your area. Kitten took the leap recently and visited a club with me. She thoroughly enjoyed it. We also spoke to a wonderful couple we met there as well. Shared a laugh and would definitely meet up for drinks and dinner in the future with them. The most important thing is go at an agreed pace, after all it has to about you both. We played in an open area as others watched and Kitten enjoyed the experience. I politely turn down an invitation to play from another couple because that was not what Kitten and I were looking for. Plus I felt it was impentinent of the bloke to only ask me.

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