FabSwingers.com forum: Single men at parties

By *orset man OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I do understand why some men can be a pain in the butt- but a lot of men behave correctly- recently I went to a party - I did mention to the hosts that most verifications were from men.at the party it was said that 3 couples had not turned up yet they still accepted a last minute bloke- why ?£30 quid each

Time to be a little fairer on single men?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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Not sure about the middle bit of your post as it doesn't make sense. Do you mean there were too many single men at the party but the hosts invited more?

However, a party with no single men is a party I wouldn't go to. I think that's fair.

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By *orset man OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

Sorry was not clear , the party was mostly single guys - they apologised for a lack of ladies and couples but took a last minute(whist the party was on) another 30 quid

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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"Sorry was not clear , the party was mostly single guys - they apologised for a lack of ladies and couples but took a last minute(whist the party was on) another 30 quid"

Well you know not to go back then!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont charge for any parties we hold, all we ask is peeps bring their own drinks, or do u mean a party at a club and not an house party?

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By *orset man OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

It was a private house party

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"It was a private house party"

and they charged - it's ok to take a bottle or something but if they are not incurring any expense that's wrong

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

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I wouldn't be comfortable at a house party if there were supposed to be more women and lots didn't turn up. As much as I like being centre of attention, the single blokes would expect more for their money and any woman there may feel overwhelmed. Doesn't sound like they planned it very well.

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By *orset man OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I have been to several house parties-all charged £30 seems the norm they all lay on a buffet-I don't mind paying other than to pay to chat to a bunch of blokes I can meet at the pub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to charge for a house party is nothing short of scandalous, weve certainly never paid to go an house party or ether charged anyone for coming our parties,,,oh are curly butties buffet is free aswell

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By *orset man OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

someone has to help with the cost of the mortgage !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we dont charge for any parties we hold, all we ask is peeps bring their own drinks, or do u mean a party at a club and not an house party?"

We are the same, we have parties here and have never asked anyone for anything. We hold them (not as often now we have stepson living here) because we enjoy doing so and we make new friends everytime.

Gill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found the above posts very interesting. I know a friend is considering a house party and I have offered to help organise. Would be very grateful for any other pointers. What works, what doesnt, what is expected and what to avoid??

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Sounds like the organisers were prostituting their guests almost, as £30 seems a lot. Can appreciate additional costs, like room hire, food, drinks, linen washing, but it would likely not run to more than a tenner, unless vintage champage etc is flowing, and they were in their own home, I assume.

Have nibbles, some soft/alcoholic drinks, people can bring their own too etc. They can make their own entertainment, just ensure you devise your rules first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wrote a reply about your party but it did go on a bit so i went to message you privately but cant lol. If you would like some tips etc just drop us a line and I promise we wont bombard you with unwanted messages lol (honest)

Gill

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well for a start its the same as when you go to a club not going to name the club we go to but there is another club who charge £60 on a friday night for guys free for single ladies £45 for couples thats on a friday night yet why charge single guys that much money let the ladies in for nothing dont think its fair for single guys yes we know some guys can be a pain in butt but not all lol we go to a club friday night they charge guys half the price as for couples the same but as for home parties dont see why people have to pay we know its alot of hard work sorting out a party you dont have to go mad with food a few nibbles crisps ect would do that way you know not to spend to much if people dont show up thats what we use to do

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By *orset man OP Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

It seems to me than non shows is a problem but they were promoting it to everyone on fab- and getting the balance and numbers right is not easy

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We have held partys but never charged for them, we are happy to pay £10 as a couple to go to a party but no more than that. We have been invited to several partys that charge up to £30 but never gone to them. Some house partys are now dearer than clubs that have more facilities and staff etc.. seems crazy to us.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Found the above posts very interesting. I know a friend is considering a house party and I have offered to help organise. Would be very grateful for any other pointers. What works, what doesnt, what is expected and what to avoid??

Supply nibbles that are easily cleaned up if they go on the floor...

Drinks - supply soft drinks and ask guests to bring their own. At the most throw together a quick (but not too lethal) punch.

Hit the family planning/gum clinic and get condoms and put in bowls in play rooms. Ask for sachets of lube too. If you explain you're having a party they will probably give you more. Otherwise Home Bargains sells kite mark condoms for less than £2 for 12.

Hit Asda and buy their smartprice shower curtains. One for each bed. Make up with the shower curtain under the sheet - don't bother leaving the duvet/other bedding on, a clean sheet and pillows will suffice.

Put any breakables/sentimental belongings away safely - if a threesome turns into an orgy limbs can knock things over.

Put together a party soundtrack on your MP3 player and leave running downstairs.

Make sure that there are play rooms and non play or social rooms - not everyone will want to play or watch, at least not all at the same time.

Lots of loo roll and towels! They may get make-up on them though, as will the sheets so be prepared with some vanish!

Think carefully about parking - you don't want the neighbours coming to complain when you're getting a blowie off two women and a tv!

Be clear to guests about rules and ensure that one of the hosts is not scared to enforce them if need be. Including it all in the confirmation email will mean that you have a leg to stand on if you have to tell someone. Also make it clear that a buzz is fine but getting bladdered will not be acceptable - d*unks people at swinging parties/clubs are not good.

If you want to ask for a contribution make it a nominal and fair one - a good selection of nibbles, lots of soft drinks (and a good variety of), a big bowl of punch, condoms and lube supplied then £5 per head would be ok in my book. Or put a big money box in the middle of the snack table with a sign saying voluntary contributions are welcome.

As to choosing your guest list - this is the tricky bit!

Going for people that you or good friend know is always good. And if a known guest wants to suggest someone then that is probably fine too. But unless you know them well no-body is confirmed till they arrive!

Good luck and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldnt go to a party with no single males so why go to a party with no couples?

So someone holds a party and charges a fee, - not to cover the costs of hotel or accommodation but to make a profit out of men having sex ( or hoping to) with women. Didnt that used to be called Pimping? Though at least the woman used to get her share of the takings lol.

I cant understand single guys paying for a Party, We held out first recently and wouldnt have dreamed of charging a penny, in fact it cost us a couple of quid in teabags and Johhny bags lol.

Each to their own We'd never go to a commercial party -we're not a commodity to be rented out like a hotel room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply nibbles that are easily cleaned up if they go on the floor...

Drinks - supply soft drinks and ask guests to bring their own.........and so on

Good luck and enjoy!"

Great advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think charging single men so much is wrong.we are sure it makes them more predator like in there.seems they must get their moneys worth at any cost

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"to charge for a house party is nothing short of scandalous..."

Totally agree with this. There are all sorts of hidden problems (invalid hous insurance if anything goes wrong as an example) if you charge for admission. Also, having parties and knowing the costs, at £30 per head / couple, there's a party making a whopping profit. I wonder what the tax man might think if ever he found out?

Anyway, just my philosophy, but I like to invite GUESTS to my parties, not punters. Also no money means no pressure to get "value for money", which leads to a more relaxed atmosphere...and it works too.

And on the single guy front, yes there are single guys too, and all by "public demand" from the couples not only because they are genuinely nice people to know, but they do spice things up in the bedrooms. You know how it is, biology and all that, women like the longer events, whilst men have to do a relay!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank you so much for taking the time to provide such good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy if someone mentioned a £30 fee I would feel like they are asking me to pay for sex....

That's not what swinging is about for me!!

Avoid!!

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"As a single guy if someone mentioned a £30 fee I would feel like they are asking me to pay for sex....

That's not what swinging is about for me!!

Avoid!!"

Precisesly the quid-pro-quo association between money and sex that heightens expectations and tensions and ruins the atmosphere at many a party. As the man says...avoid!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a single guy if someone mentioned a £30 fee I would feel like they are asking me to pay for sex....

That's not what swinging is about for me!!

Avoid!!

Precisesly the quid-pro-quo association between money and sex that heightens expectations and tensions and ruins the atmosphere at many a party. As the man says...avoid!

Extortion in disguise, and it doesn't "guarantee a better event" either

Wolf

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"As a single guy if someone mentioned a £30 fee I would feel like they are asking me to pay for sex....

That's not what swinging is about for me!!

Avoid!!

Precisesly the quid-pro-quo association between money and sex that heightens expectations and tensions and ruins the atmosphere at many a party. As the man says...avoid!

Extortion in disguise, and it doesn't "guarantee a better event" either

Wolf

And hidden behind it all, if the guys are feeling that they are buying their way into having sex, what does it say for the host who is "selling" the sex, or more precisely, what the host thinks of the other (female / couple) guests who will be doing the "provision of services"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well as long as some of you are daft enough to pay it...some of them will be astute enough to charge you lol!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i find it strange that some of the parties ive been to it has been single fems and couples who have not turned up.

and if thats the case and all you got is guys ask for your money back.

why not? you went expecting couples and fems to be there and they werent.

the host should have done his/her home work and got people who would have turned up.

if they dont give your money back, you know youve been set up.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"i find it strange that some of the parties ive been to it has been single fems and couples who have not turned up."

Yes that happens, however at my last party ALL the single ladies turned up and 3 single guys sent their appologies...I ended up with more females than males. Until the doorbell rings, no-one really knows who will turn up and who won't.

"...if thats the case and all you got is guys ask for your money back."

That's assuming that there was a promise made that the amount of admission fee would be proportional to the amount of sex to be expected which is proportional to the females attending. Surely no-one thinks that way? There must be a very low level of respect for other people shown if that's the way things are set up.

"...you went expecting couples and fems to be there and they werent. the host should have done his/her home work and got people who would have turned up. if they dont give your money back, you know youve been set up."

You've obviously never run a party yourself then. There are a million genuine reasons why people can't make it, even at the last minute. You can't hold a host responsible for anyone's non-attendance.

Thank gawd I don't charge and don't have to face this kind of demand for "value for money" off my guests...

Can't help feeling that this was more of an "agent provocateur" reply to the thead...surely no-one really would think this way.

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

"As a single guy if someone mentioned a £30 fee I would feel like they are asking me to pay for sex....

That's not what swinging is about for me!!

Avoid!!"

What 'swinging' should be about, is a whole another sack of potatoes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

_orset man, are you talking about house party's held in salisbury, heard alot about that place, making a profit out of swingers 2 live on as he don't work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"...........

What 'swinging' should be about, is a whole another .......sack of potatoes. "

You've met the Ex-wife then?

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"As a single guy if someone mentioned a £30 fee I would feel like they are asking me to pay for sex....

That's not what swinging is about for me!!

Avoid!!"

Totally agree, there is a member on here who advertises in the meets section for parties but want 60.00 for a single guy to attend. Now I don't mind contributing to a hosts costs but I object to paying for his property investment! Lol!

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"i find it strange that some of the parties ive been to it has been single fems and couples who have not turned up.

...if thats the case and all you got is guys ask for your money back.

...you went expecting couples and fems to be there and they werent. the host should have done his/her home work and got people who would have turned up. if they dont give your money back, you know youve been set up.

You've obviously never run a party yourself then. There are a million genuine reasons why people can't make it, even at the last minute. You can't hold a host responsible for anyone's non-attendance.

Thank gawd I don't charge and don't have to face this kind of demand for "value for money" off my guests...

Can't help feeling that this was more of an "agent provocateur" reply to the thead...surely no-one really would think this way."

Don't you believe it! It's a long time ago now but I got myself 'invited' to a party first organised one I'd been to so very naive. When I got there it was sixty to seventy blokes plus two mf couples! Needless to say they didn't stay very long andI don't blame them. It was of course a scam. The organisers weren't even there, they were off somewhere else with the dosh having a good laugh at our stupidity.

Learnt my lesson very quickly after that.

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By *rummiePartyManMan
over a year ago

birmingham

Crash, burn and learn! Sadly we've all been through that at some point or another.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

iv'e had a couple of parties now at my house, all i ask is that they bring a bottle, and behave themselfs, i lay on a buffet, free of charge of course , and ive not had any problems so far lol, but i suppose there will be a first

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

"iv'e had a couple of parties now at my house, all i ask is that they bring a bottle, and behave themselfs, i lay on a buffet, free of charge of course , and ive not had any problems so far lol, but i suppose there will be a first

I hope you don't have any problems either but your the one in control and it's your house so I'm assuming whether subconsciously or not your controlling the mix of people and total numbers that are invited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i am indeed, with helps from others , we talk and plan it

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By *lubPartyPeepsCouple
over a year ago

London

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What 'swinging' should be about, is a whole another .......sack of potatoes.

You've met the Ex-wife then?"

Anything is possible on this scene.

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