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"Interested in club f curvy night, wondering how people's first visits to clubs were when visiting alone. " Just don't go with any expectations whatsoever and you should be ok. | |||
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"Is it common for people to leave after a drink or 2 if they're not feeling it? " It can happen. Nobody will judge. We did it once. | |||
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"Is it common for people to leave after a drink or 2 if they're not feeling it? " Yes mate! I always aimed to arrive around 9:30, to look to make connections with people interested in solo guys, but rarely stayed much longer than 2 hours  | |||
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"Is it common for people to leave after a drink or 2 if they're not feeling it? Yes mate! I always aimed to arrive around 9:30, to look to make connections with people interested in solo guys, but rarely stayed much longer than 2 hours "Really we have always found in many clubs the action really starts after 11pm and the mega orgies kick off between midnight and 1am KJ | |||
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"Really we have always found in many clubs the action really starts after 11pm and the mega orgies kick off between midnight and 1am " And in a club where people can stay overnight, it can get even better after closing. Whatever your reasons for leaving early, it will look to others that you're only there for sex, and consider it a waste of your time to stay if you're not going to get it. That might not be true, but it's how it can look. Spending time with the members of a community (because you want to spend time with them, not because it's a means to getting something out of them) makes you a part of that community. Don't underestimate the social side of swinging - it's hugely important. And worthwhile in its own right. As for the original question: my first night was a Wednesday. I chose that night because I assumed it would be quieter and easier for me to find my feet. All I was aiming for was to get there, see what it's like and how it works, and maybe start getting to know a few people. It took me a few weeks to get brave enough to join in. When I did, those foundations payed off. | |||
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"Really we have always found in many clubs the action really starts after 11pm and the mega orgies kick off between midnight and 1am And in a club where people can stay overnight, it can get even better after closing. Whatever your reasons for leaving early, it will look to others that you're only there for sex, and consider it a waste of your time to stay if you're not going to get it. That might not be true, but it's how it can look." I've only left 'early', because I got bored of my own company. I've found it very difficult, as a solo guy in various clubs, to get conversation going with people. Nine times out of ten, couples are only interested in meeting other couples. Groups of friends huddle together, and give little opportunity for a solo guy to join in. There are rarely ever any solo females in clubs. I don't smoke, so do not want to hang out in the smoking areas, after making the effort to be clean, and smell nice for a night out. Likewise, I see no point in getting ready for a night out, to jump in an over-chlorinated hot tub, containing who knows what else (after witnessing one particular incident in a club). You can't even guarantee a chat with other solo males, as one guy I chatted with in TH said to me; "sorry mate, people don't like seeing groups of guys hanging out together..." and wandered off. Don't get me wrong though; I went to Club f 5 times as a solo guy, and two of my best ever club experiences were in there. But out of a total of 15 visits to various clubs, that's not great is it? And it's not about 'getting lucky'! Feeling welcome would be nice, being included, rather than viewed as something suspect....."Remember there's always someone watching, so behave yourself" wasn't exactly friendly on the reception of one particular club... 
So yes, I'll give the place an hour or so, but if I don't make a connection with anyone, even just a bit of friendly chat, I'm not going to loiter around the bar like Billy No Mates, neither will I wander around the play areas, like 'one of those guys', hoping for an invite like a mouse under the dinner table waiting for crumbs to fall. If I don't feel welcome, I'm out of there | |||
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