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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have never been to a club before but I am just wondering what the etiquette is for perving or watching people playing? Surely you can't help but look but at the same time might look creepy

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If playing in a public room/space then watching is expected, just don't get too close. If people are in a private room don't go trying the door handle and knocking in the door asking to be let in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never been to a club before but I am just wondering what the etiquette is for perving or watching people playing? Surely you can't help but look but at the same time might look creepy"

Just ask politely if people mind and respect what they say. Oh, and don’t be creepy!

We enjoy having an audience and I guess most couples going on a night with male singles feel the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't been to a club together yet but are planning to soon and I'd like to be watched.

I assume there will be private areas for anyone who isn't keen on it

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By *ringles0510Woman
over a year ago

Central Borders

If the door's shut, do not enter. Open door in general means watchers welcome x

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By *tag and HellcatCouple
over a year ago

Notts/Derby

Can’t speak for every club but Purple Mamba have chains that can go across the door, so that they can be left open and the Attic has a couples only playroom with a very large one way mirror for people to watch. In fact, both have areas set up for watching.

Three simple rules:

1. If it’s closed, don’t open it.

2. If it’s chained, watch. You never know, you might get an invite.

3. If it’s open, ask first.

Stag

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Some rooms have stable doors on, we leave the top half open so people can watch.

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By *inksAPlentyCouple
over a year ago

Bedfordshire


"We haven't been to a club together yet but are planning to soon and I'd like to be watched.

I assume there will be private areas for anyone who isn't keen on it"

Not all clubs have private rooms but if people have looked at the club website before they book then they will know this.

We love being watched and most people we've met at clubs have been respectful.

Ms x

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By *ucksguy2000Man
over a year ago

aylesbury

As a single guy I have watched, be respectful and if you’re lucky you may get invited in.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

In an open room people expect to be watched. Just treat them as people, not porn.

Obviously don't interrupt if they're deeply into it, but it doesn't hurt to ask if you can watch if you choose the right moment.

And if you must talk loudly about football, best do it somewhere else (yes, I've seen that happen).

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I have never been to a club before but I am just wondering what the etiquette is for perving or watching people playing? Surely you can't help but look but at the same time might look creepy"

If people are playing in public or in open rooms then I take it as they are fine to be watched- and it’s why I play in public.

All clubs I’ve been too have rooms where Doors can be locked so if they wanted to be away then they would be.

I don’t think it’s creepy at all and is a lot of the reason I love a club vibe xx

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

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If it’s a public space as long as you’re not up in their face it’s cool to watch. We’ve played in a dungeon before and closed the door, people respected that and watched through the bars. Other times we’ve played on a swing and had quite a crowd, much closer, but still respectful.

If you’re watching and questioning if you’re too close, you probably are.

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By *onyMad123Couple
over a year ago

nottingham/ derby

Just ask, be polite and not pushy and don't jack off close to people, i actually enjoy being watched, i dont mind a lil verbal interaction whilst doing so, although the last time when in a club, the chap that got a lil over eager over a half door going oh yeah man give it to her, actually had me rolling around in hysterics laughing unable to concentrate, we have or have had a few regular watchers, it's a big thing for me, as lack a lil self confidence as I'm no barbie doll, but those appreciative of a genuine fuller figure, with genuine reactions, I have no issues with, if we want privacy we will take it behind closed doors, or even into our camper, if playing outdoors, it doesn't mean it's a free for all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As many have said in open rooms most people playing do enjoy others watching them..beside some open rooms chameleons also has 3 rooms with barred gates which when closed mean no entry but your free to watch...always be respectful and enjoy yourself.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Don't wear keys round your wrist which jangle as you wank.

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

Some people like to watch, some people like to be watched. There's all sorts!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Use the hole in your head and ask "do you mind if I watch"?

You will get one of two possible answers.

It's not complicated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't wear keys round your wrist which jangle as you wank. "

Haha, as much as I used to hate that noise, I really miss it!!

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By *reenline49Man
over a year ago

Melbourn

First time to a club can be overwhelming but you soon become familiar with the surroundings and find out the best way of going about things.

Most people liked being watched but don't open closed doors and of course no means no!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"I have never been to a club before but I am just wondering what the etiquette is for perving or watching people playing? Surely you can't help but look but at the same time might look creepy"
as long as its respectfully watching then no there is no issue. I often just go to watch

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"I have never been to a club before but I am just wondering what the etiquette is for perving or watching people playing? Surely you can't help but look but at the same time might look creepy"

As others have said, watching is an acceptable way to spend your time in a club as long as you remain respectful.

Don’t touch what isn’t yours, don’t talk loudly in play areas, don’t think any available hole is an open invitation, don’t interrupt, don’t try and open closed doors.

Some people may complain about people openly wanking while watching, you may want to check with the club staff as to if thats acceptable or not.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Don't wear keys round your wrist which jangle as you wank.

Haha, as much as I used to hate that noise, I really miss it!! "

Hahha same!!!

I miss shouting “swap hands” lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't wear keys round your wrist which jangle as you wank.

Haha, as much as I used to hate that noise, I really miss it!!

Hahha same!!!

I miss shouting “swap hands” lol xx"

So funny. That noise used to infuriate me and now I miss it. (I’m sure some guys do it just so I’ll start wanking them to stop the noise lol). X

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Behind the bike shed!

We love being watched in clubs! If people want to be watched they’ll make it obvious!

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By *he-ProfessorMan
over a year ago

cheltenham

I am very much the voyeur and have never had any issues.

All the advice above is good advice, I will add that a lot of people who liked to be watched don't necessarily want eye contact whilst they are playing, after all it is rude to stare

The occasional glance towards their eyes is fine, sometimes that might be met with an invitation to get closer or join them, they will make that obvious so if you feel there might have been a subtle hint best assume it was just your hopeful imagination.

Basically assume that the etiquette is to take in the scene as a whole, much as you would a live performance on a stage.

Personally I love watching, also love being watched.

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