Hi Sologirl,
The advice above is good, you don't state whom is taking you, but I'll make an assumption it is a male friend of yours, and therefore assuming you trust him, he'll look after you within the club in any event.
It's totally normal to be nervous on going into a club for the first time, whether your male or female. When I first went, it was before the internet age, and I'd seen an advert in the Evening Paper snuggled neatly amongst the "sauna/massage" small ads which were clearly covers for prostitution. My heart was beating heavily as I entered and every sence was on alert waiting to be bundled into a room and having demands for money being made by minders of the ladies.
Ofcourse it was nothing like that and I have continued going to clubs off and on over the years
The first time I took a lady, she was massively nervous, and she almost bottled out on more than one occasion, but in the end she went in and while it took her a while to calm down, it was when we got talking to other couples that she relaxed and eventually we went off for a very nice 4some in a couples room.
My advice is make sure you both know what your limits are before you go into the club, and also agree a codeword if you decide you want to go further. As is often said with single guys going to clubs, go with no expectations, simply go for a drink and a chat and if things develop further then let them do so at your own place.
Finally I have copied this off the No 3 club website as I think it's a very eloquently expressed version of etiquette and expectations inside a club for first timers and old hands alike:
First Time Visitors
If you are a couple it is helpful if you and your partner discuss your limits or intentions. If you have just come to watch or for atmosphere that is fine. If you are approached a polite "No" will see that you are left alone.
If you are a couple looking for another couple, it is quite normal for you to sit and chat to other couples and during conversation, mention your interests or visit the "Couples Only" Room.
If you are a couple and are looking for a single to join you, then this is the easiest scenario. Single guys are most eager to oblige and not offended in the least if you approach them.
If you are approached by a single, he will not get right to the point, but will normally engage you in small talk conversation, but you can rest assured he is interested in joining you. If you are interested, ask him if he would like to join you in a private room.
Serious swingers can have the time of their lives in our club. Just enter the open rooms for serious attention from anyone in there, but most will not begin until they get the indication that you require their attention.
Looking for bi ladies? lots of couples have bi ladies looking for the same, just mention in conversation that the lady in your partnership is bi and is looking for the same.
Couples who come for the first time who just sit and expect to be approached without any input from yourselves may not enjoy their night, as regulars do not know what you are into; also they do not like to offend. The best approach is to give eye contact or make the effort to chat to others. It is normal to sit next to other people and introduce yourself, starting with normal everyday conversation. If you find that they are regulars, ask them questions about the club and the best way to go about things, you will find them eager to help guide you in the right direction.
In a nutshell, be friendly, polite and things will happen as everyone in the club are open-minded and are there to swing. Whatever their preferences, just relax and enjoy your evening.
Hope this all helps you and you have a great night out.
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