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your first experience in a club?

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By *ussex-steve OP   Man
over a year ago

brighton

I intend to start trying a few now I'm divorced, I'd love to know how others got on with their first time.

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By *nob and KnockersCouple
over a year ago

Ashford

We was really nervous and didn’t know what to expect. Thought it might be like one of those salon bars on a western when a stranger walks in every thing goes quiet and they all stare lol

But it was nothing like that. We have only been to a few clubs but each one has made us feel welcome and given us a tour etc. Everyone we have met has been friendly.

All I would say is don’t just stare at people and follow them about try and talk to them in the bar area or social area.

Hope all goes well for you x

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I was supposed to be accompanying a lady friend who had asked me to take her, I hadn't even considered it up to that point.

The date was set when two days before she cancelled. I thought about it figured why not go? So I did.

Chatted to lots of lovely people, chilled in the hot tub and made a couple of long standing friends. Just behave as you would normally when socialising with people and see where it may lead.

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly

Maybe 12 years ago at Abfab on a Saturday night (couples and single girls). Found a couple to play with but after touching and kissing both she swam off and he said he wasn’t allowed to fuck anyone else. They’d obviously had their foreplay and excitement with a single girl then went off to play by themselves. I felt used and made me realise check boundaries in advance!!

I then tried a Friday where single guys are allowed and found my playground

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By *ez1987Man
over a year ago

Great Harwood, Blackburn

First time I went to a club I did some research on club etiquette and about the club I was going to.

I had a tour when I arrived then I started to chat to people at the bar area and social area. I felt nervous at first going solo but then after talking to people and getting to know some of them a little they where just like me normal people wanting a good night out.

Don't go with the attitude expecting to play and have sex because if you don't get anything you'll feel like a wasted night out and dissapointed.

Be yourself and mingle with people get chatting with people and see where things go.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"Maybe 12 years ago at Abfab on a Saturday night (couples and single girls). Found a couple to play with but after touching and kissing both she swam off and he said he wasn’t allowed to fuck anyone else. They’d obviously had their foreplay and excitement with a single girl then went off to play by themselves. I felt used and made me realise check boundaries in advance!!

I then tried a Friday where single guys are allowed and found my playground "

And that is where I met you

And you smacked my arse

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By *EloveMan
over a year ago

Pool of Life

Redemption aug 2019 Townhouse

Totally exceeded my expectations. We went as a couple, pure nervous but really helped having each other and also a super friendly welcome from Vicky the owner on reception and her team.

A 21 year old lad in school uniform wanted spanking and this is how we were broken in, it was quite light hearted and soon helped us relax. We chilled with him after with a beer and some more play, which led to two vanilla guys lucking upon my near naked partner when she nipped the loo. Some full on and rapid sex then ensued.

We had an absolute blast,unforgettable and each time back there is really special.

Try to go with a female buddy.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

My first must have been at least 10 years ago now. Another member of a small but long since defunct forum arranged a group visit to Partners in Bury. They had arranged a hotel outside of the town as both accomodation and a meeting point for the group which wasn`t in a really convenient place for someone who had relied on public transport to get to the hotel. With seats in cars allocated we went to the club and I eventually found myself in the hot tub/jacuzzi with the couple that had given me a lift from the hotel . I must have been a huge disappointment for the lady of the couple as she had given me such a great hand job that I could not regain another erection when we went to one of the rooms I cannot remember how I got back to the hotel but I have hazy memories of a very full 7 seater 4 wheel drive vehicle! I do, however, remember walking god knows how far from the hotel to a convenient tram stop, after trying to consume one of those awful Travelodge Breakfast Boxes, conveniently missing all of the bus services, to get back to Manchester for the train back home!

My next visit to the club was also with the same forum but a different organiser. This time I had my own (hired) car and was able to "paddle my own canoe" to get to the club. I stopped on the M6* services ?Birch Coppice? and whilst I didn`t get to play, I was delighted to meet another forum member who has remained a close personal friend. I also remember going into the plunge pool and finding it so bloody cold I had to go into the jacuzzi to warm up again! I also remember some of our group dying for a smoke but not being able to go out to the smoking bus because there was a police incident in the alleyway outside the club! Thanks to the incredibly frosty night, the journey back to the hotel was interesting to say the least! Needless to say, my visits to Partners have not been the best but none have been the club`s fault!

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Maybe 12 years ago at Abfab on a Saturday night (couples and single girls). Found a couple to play with but after touching and kissing both she swam off and he said he wasn’t allowed to fuck anyone else. They’d obviously had their foreplay and excitement with a single girl then went off to play by themselves. I felt used and made me realise check boundaries in advance!!

I then tried a Friday where single guys are allowed and found my playground

And that is where I met you

And you smacked my arse "

Hush your mouth, I’d never dare do such a thing

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London


"Maybe 12 years ago at Abfab on a Saturday night (couples and single girls). Found a couple to play with but after touching and kissing both she swam off and he said he wasn’t allowed to fuck anyone else. They’d obviously had their foreplay and excitement with a single girl then went off to play by themselves. I felt used and made me realise check boundaries in advance!!

I then tried a Friday where single guys are allowed and found my playground

And that is where I met you

And you smacked my arse

Hush your mouth, I’d never dare do such a thing

"

So lovely to see you again in the forums

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By *ecretlyASoftieWoman
over a year ago

Hull but travel regularly


"Maybe 12 years ago at Abfab on a Saturday night (couples and single girls). Found a couple to play with but after touching and kissing both she swam off and he said he wasn’t allowed to fuck anyone else. They’d obviously had their foreplay and excitement with a single girl then went off to play by themselves. I felt used and made me realise check boundaries in advance!!

I then tried a Friday where single guys are allowed and found my playground

And that is where I met you

And you smacked my arse

Hush your mouth, I’d never dare do such a thing

So lovely to see you again in the forums "

Thank you. My Extended timeout was what I needed. Miss all the k crowd. They sure were fun times

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

It’s just over an hour’s drive to get to the first club I visited, and the closer I got, the more nervous I became! Parking right outside the front door, I counted to three, then jumped out of my car, and got to the door before I talked myself out of it. Once inside, I received a friendly welcome by the owner, signed in, was given a little pep talk about respectful behaviour, then given a tour of the place. Settling in at the bar, I chatted with the bar staff and started to relax, looking around for an opportunity to chat with others. It was a quiet night, not many people in, but I did manage to chat with an older couple for a while. I hung around for a couple of hours, but it was slow going, as typically, nobody was interested in a single guy. It was quite a disappointment, after all the excitement and build-up about going, a genuine anti-climax! I’ve always likened it to feeling like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, rather than what I thought a Friday night in a swingers’ club might be.

OP; if you are planning to visit a club as a single guy, do contact whichever club you’re looking at, and ask them to recommend times when single guys are ACTIVELY SOUGHT. Otherwise; go with a female

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By *EloveMan
over a year ago

Pool of Life

Yeah good advice ^^

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We were about to have our first club experience, then the world went to shit!

But at least it's something to look forward too once things are back to normal.

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By *ussex-steve OP   Man
over a year ago

brighton


"It’s just over an hour’s drive to get to the first club I visited, and the closer I got, the more nervous I became! Parking right outside the front door, I counted to three, then jumped out of my car, and got to the door before I talked myself out of it. Once inside, I received a friendly welcome by the owner, signed in, was given a little pep talk about respectful behaviour, then given a tour of the place. Settling in at the bar, I chatted with the bar staff and started to relax, looking around for an opportunity to chat with others. It was a quiet night, not many people in, but I did manage to chat with an older couple for a while. I hung around for a couple of hours, but it was slow going, as typically, nobody was interested in a single guy. It was quite a disappointment, after all the excitement and build-up about going, a genuine anti-climax! I’ve always likened it to feeling like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, rather than what I thought a Friday night in a swingers’ club might be.

OP; if you are planning to visit a club as a single guy, do contact whichever club you’re looking at, and ask them to recommend times when single guys are ACTIVELY SOUGHT. Otherwise; go with a female "

Good advice!! I may have found a partner in crime, female, who is also looking to visit a few places she has never been to before, so that may make things a little easier. She is a lot more experienced than me, so that should help as well.. Now to get rid of Covid !!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"It’s just over an hour’s drive to get to the first club I visited, and the closer I got, the more nervous I became! Parking right outside the front door, I counted to three, then jumped out of my car, and got to the door before I talked myself out of it. Once inside, I received a friendly welcome by the owner, signed in, was given a little pep talk about respectful behaviour, then given a tour of the place. Settling in at the bar, I chatted with the bar staff and started to relax, looking around for an opportunity to chat with others. It was a quiet night, not many people in, but I did manage to chat with an older couple for a while. I hung around for a couple of hours, but it was slow going, as typically, nobody was interested in a single guy. It was quite a disappointment, after all the excitement and build-up about going, a genuine anti-climax! I’ve always likened it to feeling like a Sunday afternoon in a working men’s club, rather than what I thought a Friday night in a swingers’ club might be.

OP; if you are planning to visit a club as a single guy, do contact whichever club you’re looking at, and ask them to recommend times when single guys are ACTIVELY SOUGHT. Otherwise; go with a female

Good advice!! I may have found a partner in crime, female, who is also looking to visit a few places she has never been to before, so that may make things a little easier. She is a lot more experienced than me, so that should help as well.. Now to get rid of Covid !!"

Well Covid has given you plenty of time to plan ahead, for when the clubs reopen 'properly'. Definitely go with a female the first few times, to get your face known, before braving it as a single male

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