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"Maybe a lot of folk enjoy the social side & Not everyone is into going to the pub to meet people Obviously speaking for myself here " Great reply But there are nicer places for socials .. I’ve visited a few clubs and must say the townhouse has a nice licensed bar area .. Best I’ve seen tbh | |||
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"Like you I’m just playing devil’s advocate here as I’m not likely to be going along any time soon. I’m guessing that some of the appeal would be the choice of clothes for one or in some cases none at all, things for which you would probably get thrown out of your local for. Also it’s not going to stop you playing with your own partners in front of others which for some is all they go to clubs for anyway " But changing areas won’t be open , so people won’t be dressing down.. | |||
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"Townhouse has a great bar area I agree with you there. Personally I like my safety & to keep my options open so I'd have to disagree with there being nicer places to meet a random. Clubs still have overheads to pay even when shut, it makes sense that those who can open even if only for social distanced socials do so where & as safely as possible just like any other business " Keep what options open ? Playing is banned at the moment | |||
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"Townhouse has a great bar area I agree with you there. Personally I like my safety & to keep my options open so I'd have to disagree with there being nicer places to meet a random. Clubs still have overheads to pay even when shut, it makes sense that those who can open even if only for social distanced socials do so where & as safely as possible just like any other business Keep what options open ? Playing is banned at the moment " The club I attend won't open until social distancing is over, I'll be able to socialise while keeping my options open without being stuck to only talking to 1 person. | |||
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"But changing areas won’t be open , so people won’t be dressing down.. " Don’t need a changing room to take off a long coat and reveal what’s underneath I know it’s hard for some to understand but there is just a certain vibe at some clubs that you wouldn’t be able to replicate at a local pub and some will be willing to go along and support a local business and hopefully give it a lifeline to keep running until you can play again. There are other things to do in clubs than physical contact | |||
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"So some clubs are opening for social distance socialising ? Why would anyone bother going ..? Might as well meet in proper pubs/bars where it’s free to enter and drinks are cheaper.. Infact most clubs don’t even have a licensed bar, let’s be honest we all go to clubs for the sexually charged atmosphere and some play time .. Just being Devils advocate .. see what people’s feelings are ? " We will go. If you think it is a waste of time don't go. Simple really. | |||
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"Townhouse has a great bar area I agree with you there. Personally I like my safety & to keep my options open so I'd have to disagree with there being nicer places to meet a random. Clubs still have overheads to pay even when shut, it makes sense that those who can open even if only for social distanced socials do so where & as safely as possible just like any other business Keep what options open ? Playing is banned at the moment The club I attend won't open until social distancing is over, I'll be able to socialise while keeping my options open without being stuck to only talking to 1 person. " Socialise where? You just said the club you attend won't open till social distancing is over | |||
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"So some clubs are opening for social distance socialising ? Why would anyone bother going ..? Might as well meet in proper pubs/bars where it’s free to enter and drinks are cheaper..I agree Infact most clubs don’t even have a licensed bar, let’s be honest we all go to clubs for the sexually charged atmosphere and some play time .. Just being Devils advocate .. see what people’s feelings are ? We will go. If you think it is a waste of time don't go. Simple really. " | |||
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"I absolutely love the club scene, I've made great friends and it is where I choose to spend the majority of my social life. I would like to use what little money I have at my disposal to support the venues I have enjoyed attending at better times, plus the chance to be around like minded people and friends I haven't seen for a while even if it is just for a drink and a laugh is the reason why I will attend clubs if I can, even while we need to socially distance." ^ this As soon as any of my favourites open I will be there. | |||
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"I went to xtasia on Saturday, there was a great atmosphere and I really enjoyed it. I don't particularly like pubs and would much rather go to a club than a pub, regardless of the cost. " glad you had a good time. I suppose you can have fun with each other and let others watch. | |||
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"So some clubs are opening for social distance socialising ? Why would anyone bother going ..? Might as well meet in proper pubs/bars where it’s free to enter and drinks are cheaper.. Infact most clubs don’t even have a licensed bar, let’s be honest we all go to clubs for the sexually charged atmosphere and some play time .. Just being Devils advocate .. see what people’s feelings are ? " I think for most people that are still going to go to a club and pay an entry fee just to socialise when they can do it for free at a pub will be to support that club There are lots of people that frequent a regular club of their preference and really want that club to be able to ride out this financially crippling time. Going along with these restrictions in place will be hopefully enabling them to keep their heads above water and still be around once Covid restrictions can be eased | |||
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" Also it’s not going to stop you playing with your own partners in front of others which for some is all they go to clubs for anyway " Not according to derby's trading standards/council,NO sexual activity can take place inside an adult club yet, | |||
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"I think a social at a club with like minded people is a good thing you can meet old friends make new friends and maybe arrange something for the future." This x | |||
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"I think loyalty comes into it too. Clubs like Xtasia and VA have worked so hard to create a safe, fun, welcoming environment. Us giving something back, even when facilities (and potential for play) aren’t able to get back to normal just yet, could be the difference between a good club staying open or going under. " This is so true! Socials have been happening at the Gatehouse and everyone has said it is so much better to be able to open and freely rather than being in a pub with limited conversation. So many people have missed the social side of clubs. | |||
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"We like to dress up in a particular way, and really can't imagine our local pub being too impressed with the mrs walking in with more twangy bits than a broken parachute. Likewise with the Mr dressed sharp and being in the company of people that have stepped through the door straight from work. Clubs are instant ice breakers, you know that the majority of clientele have something in common and its much easier to make new friends. When was the last time you saw police and paramedics hanging around outside a club waiting for the inevitable nonsense that a pub brings ? Safer, friendlier, more honest, and we get to fuck once in a while too without the morning walk of shame. " Great post! We have always felt 100% safe and welcomed in every club we have been to. We definitely cant say the same for pubs! Its also much easier to make new friends, talk to people etc. As we got bit older we stopped bothering with pubs tbh we still love quality restaurants but swinging clubs are where we have the best night out and sex / play isnt needed to still have a great time. KJ x KJ x | |||
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"Libs is good nice friendly people great to socialise make friends have fun " 8 years ago we used libs loads great club, possibly 1 of best in uk | |||
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"But changing areas won’t be open , so people won’t be dressing down.. Don’t need a changing room to take off a long coat and reveal what’s underneath I know it’s hard for some to understand but there is just a certain vibe at some clubs that you wouldn’t be able to replicate at a local pub and some will be willing to go along and support a local business and hopefully give it a lifeline to keep running until you can play again. There are other things to do in clubs than physical contact " | |||
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"Maybe a lot of folk enjoy the social side & Not everyone is into going to the pub to meet people Obviously speaking for myself here " im with you on this i hate pubs to much negative charged energy and i like the free talk that goes on | |||
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"I went to xtasia on Saturday, there was a great atmosphere and I really enjoyed it. I don't particularly like pubs and would much rather go to a club than a pub, regardless of the cost. glad you had a good time. I suppose you can have fun with each other and let others watch. " There was no play allowed at all, it was strictly social. | |||
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"I dont know about alot of guys but i like to tease the ladies knowing they cant touch would be even better, the guys could go magic mike on the girls and the other way round gggrrrrrrr get me fired up thinking about it" Oooo, that sounds like fun! | |||
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"I've found more fun in clubs than meets clubs are easy going than meets people not coming cancellations sorry not my type ect " My experience of the club scene has been quite the opposite, and whilst I will agree a single guy CAN have a great time in one, I will always favour private meets as after 9 years of being in Fab, I can count on one hand the number of times I have been let down. Great to see those who love the club scene supporting their favourites in these tough times though | |||
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"So some clubs are opening for social distance socialising ? Why would anyone bother going ..? Might as well meet in proper pubs/bars where it’s free to enter and drinks are cheaper.. Infact most clubs don’t even have a licensed bar, let’s be honest we all go to clubs for the sexually charged atmosphere and some play time .. Just being Devils advocate .. see what people’s feelings are ? " Maybe it would just be good fun to meet up with clubs friends, and reconnect. | |||
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"We wont be using any clubs till its business as usual. Our nearest one is 30 miles away so pointless travelling just to be sociable when we can do that in a pub. If it was closer, maybe we would though." Couldn’t agree more! It’s 60 miles to the club nearest me, or 750 yards walk to our village pub, with £0 entry fee for all..... | |||
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"I went to xtasia on Saturday, there was a great atmosphere and I really enjoyed it. I don't particularly like pubs and would much rather go to a club than a pub, regardless of the cost. glad you had a good time. I suppose you can have fun with each other and let others watch. " Not at moment all play is banned hence why it's open as a social for like minded people to go and feel comfortable chatting about what ever they want without people overhearing | |||
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"You are right, alot of clubs don't have a licence to sell alcohol. The main reason is a lot of people tend to drink too much and nervous people will just drink, (As I'm sure you and alot of people know). Also clubs have a duty of care. As to why bother with a social meeting, after being in lockdown for four months it is nice to get out and meet with others at a safe distance and make new friends for later." I’m with you on that one, I can’t wait to be able to go to a club just to catch up with friends in a safe environment | |||
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"You are right, alot of clubs don't have a licence to sell alcohol. The main reason is a lot of people tend to drink too much and nervous people will just drink, (As I'm sure you and alot of people know). Also clubs have a duty of care. As to why bother with a social meeting, after being in lockdown for four months it is nice to get out and meet with others at a safe distance and make new friends for later. I’m with you on that one, I can’t wait to be able to go to a club just to catch up with friends in a safe environment " We have our club friends over at ours now, but miss the club atmosphere. Also there's no washing up to be done after a club night | |||
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"We go to clubs to play, if we wanted a social we'd meet in a pub where we wouldn't have to pay £20 to get in. " Ah, but paying £20 to get in now while socials only means they're going to be able to still be there to play in when we're allowed to play in them again! Xx | |||
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" Not at moment all play is banned hence why it's open as a social for like minded people to go and feel comfortable chatting about what ever they want without people overhearing " This is exactly why the Gatehouse has changed their outlook, we are open as a social club for alternative people to talk without any boundaries. In pubs you have no idea who you will be sat next to. | |||
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"We go to clubs to play, if we wanted a social we'd meet in a pub where we wouldn't have to pay £20 to get in. Ah, but paying £20 to get in now while socials only means they're going to be able to still be there to play in when we're allowed to play in them again! Xx" Exactly, it means the club is able to stay open in the future. | |||
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"You are right, alot of clubs don't have a licence to sell alcohol. The main reason is a lot of people tend to drink too much and nervous people will just drink, (As I'm sure you and alot of people know). Also clubs have a duty of care. As to why bother with a social meeting, after being in lockdown for four months it is nice to get out and meet with others at a safe distance and make new friends for later." Cabin fever is horrible, fresh air and fresh faces are really therapeutic. | |||
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"You are right, alot of clubs don't have a licence to sell alcohol. The main reason is a lot of people tend to drink too much and nervous people will just drink, (As I'm sure you and alot of people know). Also clubs have a duty of care. As to why bother with a social meeting, after being in lockdown for four months it is nice to get out and meet with others at a safe distance and make new friends for later. I’m with you on that one, I can’t wait to be able to go to a club just to catch up with friends in a safe environment We have our club friends over at ours now, but miss the club atmosphere. Also there's no washing up to be done after a club night " Wish I could do that but my son lives with me, hence why I go to clubs | |||
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"We attended Xtasia last night and we went to have a look around without any expectations. It was nice it being just a social a great way to just sit and chat to like minded people who were happy to just be out yes we all want some kind of normal and this is the nee normal for now,but can we say we were very impressed with the place from taking your temperature as you arrive to antibacterial hand wash dotted about, the queuing for the bar and tables all spaced to make you feel as safe as you could in these times. There was a girl cleaning door push panels and tables so we couldnt ask for anything more. We had a room booked so we was happy enough to go back to our room for our own playtime. Well done Xtasia for setting a great standard x" That's a great professional experience, thanks for sharing! Xx | |||
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"Like you I’m just playing devil’s advocate here as I’m not likely to be going along any time soon. I’m guessing that some of the appeal would be the choice of clothes for one or in some cases none at all, things for which you would probably get thrown out of your local for. Also it’s not going to stop you playing with your own partners in front of others which for some is all they go to clubs for anyway " Decadance has been open a few weeks now and we have slowly started to get busier. We are using social distancing but that is not stopping people having a good night. On Saturday we were all discussing the fact that in a normal bar you can't talk about the subjects you can in a club. Also as some have said on here there is a good few that even though they can't play with others can still be exhibitionists and show off . You can't do that in a normal bar. We also have a live feed video room in which someone can enjoy themselves to the entertainment of all those in the bar area. There are things you can do. Also we strongly believe that a huge amount of swinging is social. If you don't talk to people and see if you click then nothing will ever happen. | |||
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"Like you I’m just playing devil’s advocate here as I’m not likely to be going along any time soon. I’m guessing that some of the appeal would be the choice of clothes for one or in some cases none at all, things for which you would probably get thrown out of your local for. Also it’s not going to stop you playing with your own partners in front of others which for some is all they go to clubs for anyway Decadance has been open a few weeks now and we have slowly started to get busier. We are using social distancing but that is not stopping people having a good night. On Saturday we were all discussing the fact that in a normal bar you can't talk about the subjects you can in a club. Also as some have said on here there is a good few that even though they can't play with others can still be exhibitionists and show off . You can't do that in a normal bar. We also have a live feed video room in which someone can enjoy themselves to the entertainment of all those in the bar area. There are things you can do. Also we strongly believe that a huge amount of swinging is social. If you don't talk to people and see if you click then nothing will ever happen. " Any chance you could update your website like other clubs have so people know what's going on cos it seems it's not been updated since before lockdown? I do appreciate it's so hard not being able to post on here but everyone and especially newbies would need to know how it works, who's allowed, what's the protocol etc but mostly new opening days and times! Thanks xx | |||
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