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By *rSmith9 OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich/London

Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby

I would suggest that unless you're seeing someone whip will go with you, the call for a wrong person might not get much response. And as for what to do, mostly be respectful, talk to people, and go with no expectations

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By *rSmith9 OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich/London


"I would suggest that unless you're seeing someone whip will go with you, the call for a wrong person might not get much response. And as for what to do, mostly be respectful, talk to people, and go with no expectations"

Whip? Thanks for your answer! Is it best to get a hotel nearby? Or do clubs offer accommodation for after the events?

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

You will be hard pushed for a woman you have never met to attend a club with you.

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By *orkspoonMan
over a year ago

nearby


"I would suggest that unless you're seeing someone whip will go with you, the call for a wrong person might not get much response. And as for what to do, mostly be respectful, talk to people, and go with no expectations

Whip? Thanks for your answer! Is it best to get a hotel nearby? Or do clubs offer accommodation for after the events? "

Sorry, who not whip. Auto suggest may reveal something about me there!

Lots have accommodation. I would research the club you are interested in though as lots have restrictions on single men and when they are allowed in

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By *rSmith9 OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich/London


"You will be hard pushed for a woman you have never met to attend a club with you."

So you’d recommend getting to know someone/have meets with someone then see if they’d want to go to a club?

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By *rSmith9 OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich/London


"I would suggest that unless you're seeing someone whip will go with you, the call for a wrong person might not get much response. And as for what to do, mostly be respectful, talk to people, and go with no expectations

Whip? Thanks for your answer! Is it best to get a hotel nearby? Or do clubs offer accommodation for after the events?

Sorry, who not whip. Auto suggest may reveal something about me there!

Lots have accommodation. I would research the club you are interested in though as lots have restrictions on single men and when they are allowed in"

Ok thank you! I’ll have a look around some!

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"You will be hard pushed for a woman you have never met to attend a club with you.

So you’d recommend getting to know someone/have meets with someone then see if they’d want to go to a club? "

I'd recommend going alone & showing some confidence, I don't know why guys insist they need to go with someone.

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By *rSmith9 OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich/London


"You will be hard pushed for a woman you have never met to attend a club with you.

So you’d recommend getting to know someone/have meets with someone then see if they’d want to go to a club?

I'd recommend going alone & showing some confidence, I don't know why guys insist they need to go with someone. "

That’s a good point! I suppose it just feels weirder going alone

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only

I speak for myself OP, taking a guy I don't know to a club is pretty much like babysitting or he thinks its a sure fire shag.

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By *ersnickety PantsWoman
over a year ago

Club Meets Only


"You will be hard pushed for a woman you have never met to attend a club with you.

So you’d recommend getting to know someone/have meets with someone then see if they’d want to go to a club?

I'd recommend going alone & showing some confidence, I don't know why guys insist they need to go with someone.

That’s a good point! I suppose it just feels weirder going alone "

The first time is daunting but then you think what was all the fuss about

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs? "

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have said, just go on your own and maybe arrange to meet someone inside. Yes, it is more expensive going as a single guy (in most clubs) but if you're chatty, friendly and confident without being arrogant, you'll be fine. Go with no expectations of sex. As swingers clubs are not, as plenty of people think, equivalent to sex clubs.

When things are more back to normal, and clubs can open without social distancing, there will be a section on the forum about all the events happening in the clubs and there will be posts from people going to those events. It might be good for you to follow the event you're interested in.

Also, as most clubs restrict the number of single guys, make sure you book early with your chosen club.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If you're capable of having a conversation with strangers, just go on your own. There's no need to arrange anything in advance with anyone. I'd say it's best not to, as that's just putting another obstacle in your path.

Don't expect clubs to be operating as they used to for a while. That's actually a good thing for a first-timer: you can go with an expectation of no sex, see what it's like in there, and start getting to know some of the regulars socially. That's the best thing to do anyway, and for now it's the only option.

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice "

I've been more than happy to arrange to meet new people inside, unfortunately, alot of them seem to think this means I'm going to fuck them and I've had some get pretty pissed off when I've said no.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice

I've been more than happy to arrange to meet new people inside, unfortunately, alot of them seem to think this means I'm going to fuck them and I've had some get pretty pissed off when I've said no."

Well, as you know, not all single guys are the same, and my advice to the OP was to ask someone they already know to meet them inside.

I've been the lonely 'newbie' single guy in several clubs, and felt like I was trying to sell the Big Issue in most of them; everyone can see you, most try to avoid you. A friendly face and a couple of introductions make the world of difference.

I agree with DJ John though; with the covid restrictions for the foreseeable future, now is actually a good time to start out on the club scene socially

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice

I've been more than happy to arrange to meet new people inside, unfortunately, alot of them seem to think this means I'm going to fuck them and I've had some get pretty pissed off when I've said no.

Well, as you know, not all single guys are the same, and my advice to the OP was to ask someone they already know to meet them inside.

I've been the lonely 'newbie' single guy in several clubs, and felt like I was trying to sell the Big Issue in most of them; everyone can see you, most try to avoid you. A friendly face and a couple of introductions make the world of difference.

I agree with DJ John though; with the covid restrictions for the foreseeable future, now is actually a good time to start out on the club scene socially "

I always try and say hello to newbies, I go out of my way to hunt them down

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice

I've been more than happy to arrange to meet new people inside, unfortunately, alot of them seem to think this means I'm going to fuck them and I've had some get pretty pissed off when I've said no.

Well, as you know, not all single guys are the same, and my advice to the OP was to ask someone they already know to meet them inside.

I've been the lonely 'newbie' single guy in several clubs, and felt like I was trying to sell the Big Issue in most of them; everyone can see you, most try to avoid you. A friendly face and a couple of introductions make the world of difference.

I agree with DJ John though; with the covid restrictions for the foreseeable future, now is actually a good time to start out on the club scene socially

I always try and say hello to newbies, I go out of my way to hunt them down "

Only 9 months until I'm in Birmingham again......

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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago

Dudley


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice

I've been more than happy to arrange to meet new people inside, unfortunately, alot of them seem to think this means I'm going to fuck them and I've had some get pretty pissed off when I've said no.

Well, as you know, not all single guys are the same, and my advice to the OP was to ask someone they already know to meet them inside.

I've been the lonely 'newbie' single guy in several clubs, and felt like I was trying to sell the Big Issue in most of them; everyone can see you, most try to avoid you. A friendly face and a couple of introductions make the world of difference.

I agree with DJ John though; with the covid restrictions for the foreseeable future, now is actually a good time to start out on the club scene socially

I always try and say hello to newbies, I go out of my way to hunt them down

Only 9 months until I'm in Birmingham again......"

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By *rSmith9 OP   Man
over a year ago

Norwich/London


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice "

Yeah I feel like meeting someone I know would be an ideal situation, I feel like a new environment and a lot of new people may be quite daunting haha!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Heya! So I’ve always wanted to go to a club, but I’d prefer to go with someone for my first time there... how would you recommend finding someone who would want to join me and what advice would you give for in the clubs?

Having visited several clubs as a single guy, I would always recommend you try to arrange meeting someone you know inside, and preferably someone who has been to that club before, who could introduce you to a few of the regulars. Going in blind, as a single guy, is not for the faint of heart. My inbox is open if you you would like some genuine, unbiased advice

Yeah I feel like meeting someone I know would be an ideal situation, I feel like a new environment and a lot of new people may be quite daunting haha! "

Normally I would point you to the Clubs Reviews section in here, so you can look for reviews left by other single guys who have been to whichever club you are interested in. Unfortunately though, with the covid restrictions on at the moment, Fab has blocked that feature. The best advice I can give you right now is; take with a pinch of salt any advice given from someone with a connection/vested interest in a particular club like a staff member or event host. They are, ultimately, only looking for revenue. Try to find other guys who have been, and don’t be afraid to private message them. Fab is all about networking

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